"So many things. I think I spent the first year in a total fog. Right after Jim died, people kept bringing food. One friend brought a pan of scrumptious cinnamon rolls. I took one out, put it on a plate, and then put the entire metal pan, covered…"
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Who is your new self?
Started this discussion. Last reply by Lynne Oct 25, 2012. 13 Replies 0 Likes
I mentioned this in another forum, but would like to bring it up again. People are really starting to ask me if I am getting back to my old self, and if I feel normal again. It's been 15 months, and…Continue
The First Year
Started this discussion. Last reply by Greenwood Jul 5, 2012. 4 Replies 1 Like
Just officially ended the first year since my husband died. Not that it really makes a difference, but I feel that I have at least passed a milestone. All the firsts are over. I did post about it on…Continue
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Sanmora replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion Widow(er) brain: what's the dumbest thing you've ever done by accident?
Sanmora replied to looking for sunshine (Carol)'s discussion New girl on the block
"Hi Carol. How are you doing? I think it's all those little everyday things that are so hard. My husband died a year and a half ago. We married at nineteen. He had just turned 62 when he died, also unexpectedly. I still can't go…"
Sanmora replied to Robinmo's discussion Is the second year really worse?
"It's been a year and a half since I lost my husband and a little over two years that our son died. I lost both suddenly and unexpectedly. I'm worried now that I will never be a nice person again. I was in such a fog for a long time, but…"
Sanmora replied to Marsha's discussion What Have You Tried That Is New In Your Life Now?
"What is the Master's Camp? I'm so glad you are continuing with the Brave Girls.
Sandi
www.thevictoriangypsy.blogspot.com"
Sanmora replied to MissHIm11's discussion Memory quilt
"I haven't made a big project like a quilt, but saved all my husband's shirts. I've made several wallets and gift card holders and given them as gifts to family members. I'm also making bracelets, fabric flowers, pillows,…"
Sanmora replied to Sharrona's discussion Surprised by this one.
"Crazy the things we miss. My husband and I voted together ever since we were old enough to vote. (McGovern!) He loved to argue politics and I really miss him keeping me informed this election. Voted today, made me sad."
Sanmora replied to A Widowed Father's discussion Where to be buried...
"It's been 16 months and I keep Jim's ashes in a box in the bedroom. I just redecorated the room, because I felt it was starting to look too much like a shrine, but his ashes are still there, on the nightstand, and his shirt is hanging on…"
Sanmora replied to MrsD's discussion What am I supposed to be doing?
"I am so sorry. This is a place none of us ever wanted to be. The forum will be a good source of normalcy for you. This is the one place where people do understand, and I think we will all tell you that there is no right way. Whatever works for…"
Lauralee replied to Sanmora's discussion Who is your new self?
"I am at 7 1/2 months and definitely don't know yet who my new self will be yet. I do know I am still evolving. Unfortunately, there are times when I feel out of control of my emotions and have not always been making…"
Sherbear replied to Sanmora's discussion Who is your new self?
"I've found I'm more true to myself and how I feel. I don't hide feelings any more. I did that often because my husband was ill and I needed to choose to be strong and not show my feelings. Now, I'm lead by them. They are out…"
janet replied to Sanmora's discussion Who is your new self?
"Yes Sanmora. I do and wonder who this new me is.
"Death is all about falling apart. You have to fall apart so you can rebuild yourself." is an excerpt from a book I just finished reading. I never looked at it that way but…"
LindaAlone replied to Sanmora's discussion Who is your new self?
"Really-trying if I could embroider I'd put it on a pillow. It does give hope doesn't it. It is amazing how sometimes a few words can lift you
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really_trying replied to Sanmora's discussion Who is your new self?
"LindaAlone
Oh my gosh. What your neighbor/colleague told you : " you will not ever go back to your "old self", you are changed. It will not be easy, you will not forget, yet you will be a new "you". It is what is.…"
LindaAlone replied to Sanmora's discussion Who is your new self?
"Early on two different people said things to me that stuck, for different reasons and what they each said is true. Neither were, at the time, close friends.
One piped: think of the opportunities you have now!
Truth? On a level, yes. Yes, the…"
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- At 6:44pm on November 6, 2012,
Jpswife(Cathy) said… - Hey Sanmora
I read your post about being sad Jim didn't vote with and I realized how much I miss watching the election results in anticipation of the outcome:(. Cathy
- At 10:23am on July 15, 2012,
Dianne in Nevada said… 
Thinking of you on your special day.
- At 3:29am on November 12, 2011,
Jordan said… Hi, I'm sorry I didn't get back to you sooner. I had kind of a hard time over the one-year anniversary, and haven't been spending much time here. This whole process sucks, but it's good to have friends. Sometimes Widville is the only thing that keeps me sane. Big, big hugs to you.
- At 11:21pm on August 17, 2011,
Braunie said… Hi Sanmora, Thank-you for the friend invite. My head hurts (it always hurts when I cry) from reading about what happened to your husband, so fast and so recent and then your son. I'm so, so sorry. I sure hope you have some friends and family who can be with you thru this dark time.
I cried every day all day for months after my son passed. I'm kinda used to it now that my husband is also gone. I hope you find encouragement here at WV to face every day. Thinking of you, Braunie
- At 11:40pm on August 11, 2011,
Lisa (lost) Lamb said…
Welcome Sanmora,I am so sorry for your loss...but I am glad you found us. My husband was diagnosed with cancer in Feb. and passed May 14th. I understand how painful this is and how lost you most feel. You have come to the right place...I thank everyday for finding all the careing people here. Just talking to others that truly understand what were going thought is such a comfort. I hope you find that as well.
- At 2:04pm on August 11, 2011,
Alive & Mortal said… - Welcome to our raggle taggle group - I hope you find your way and your voice and that we are a part of that journey.
- At 1:12am on August 9, 2011, Dianne in Nevada said…
So pleased you found us, Sanmora. Take a look around and join our conversations - in the Groups, Forums and Chat Room. You'll find wonderful support here.
- At 10:59pm on August 8, 2011,
wannabmartha said… So sorry for the reason that you’re here but glad you’ve joined us. You’ll find insight, understanding and support here at Widowed Village. We’re traveling the same road together some further down the road than others. Join a group when you’re ready to get better connected. Participate in a forum and/or chat anytime. If you have questions, feel free to ask. There is always someone around willing to help.
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