"Sometimes it feels as though something is moving across the bed. I look for the cat but he is nowhere to be seen. One evening the cat was going crazy and chasing something on the wall. Other times it will feel like an icy finger touching my skin.…"
"Grief is like an onion being peeled. It comes off one layer at a time. Sometimes - when it hits - we feel as though we are going to go crazy. And, perhaps, in those moments, we do. Give yourself and your husband's mother a hug and toss that…"
"Dianne: Thank you for your words. I have just passed the five year mark since Jerry passed away and am finding my life has taken on new twists and turns where I am able to do the things I had not been able to do when married. Jerry lived with renal…"
"Shelley...yes, that is how it goes. When my husband passed I realized the irony of how life must go on even though our loved ones are gone. I, too, went through a time when I missed my husband very much. Time has a way of allowing us to heal. This…"
"April 11th marks the 5th anniversary of Jerry's passing. Driving to work this morning I was struck at how those last days before his passing came to mind. Again, I am asking myself if I had been too busy to give him the attention and love he…"
"dcube...I did the checkbook religiously while my husband was alive but somehow - 5 years later I still have trouble getting myself motivated to keep up with it. I've had to place most of my bills on automatic payments just so I won't…"
"April 11th is the 5th anniversary of Jerry's passing. It doesn't seem to be that long - until I look back. Today, I am not the woman I was when married to Jerry, I am not the woman I was after his passing, I am not the woman I was 4, 3, 2,…"
"I know how you feel. Making decisions on my own after being married for 35 years was and is still very difficult. I stayed in my house because my neighbor (who was also a widow) wanted me close to her but I found that as time went on she began a new…"
"Number 1 - make sure you have hotel reservations set-up either ahead of time or earlier in the day. Determine the number of miles or hours that you are willing to drive alone that day. Take into account that you may be stopping more often for breaks…"
"At the encouragement of my widow's group I went to a medium 2 1/2 years after my husband died. Not only did my husband come through - but my father did also. Recently my daughter asked me if I had gone to the medium again and I told her that I…"
"KMA2106 I understand what you are going through. It does seem unfair that someone we had looked up to for their strength for so long is gone. Allow yourself the time to grieve. I attended a class on Emotional Healing where the man demonstrated what…"
"The end of 2017 from September on marked my husband's and my birthdays, our anniversary, and holidays. It seemed this year I felt things more intensely and by December I was very depressed and crying almost as I had when Jerry first passed…"
"Yes, I understand what you mean. My husband and I had been married for nearly 35 years and we were each others Best Friends and did everything together. It has been five years but I am slowly getting to know myself (and liking myself for who I am).…"
"I am finding that as time goes on I do prefer the company of my female friends. I can be myself and if I am not my best - well, they'll accept me that way. I don't want to be looking over my shoulder and wondering if he is looking for the…"
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