"Just reading this now and smiling as I do :).
Thanks for the update. It's so encouraging to hear how God heals our broken heart. It's a gift to love again.
Best wishes and blessing abound your way Lusa :)"
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Who has found new love? How far out were you and how old were you when you found new love?
Started this discussion. Last reply by FlyFreeBob Mar 23. 8 Replies 0 Likes
I know grief is different for everyone. Our circumstances that bring us here differ and that may have an impact on moving forward into loving again.I here different things from different people. So,…Continue
I let him see me cry.........
Started this discussion. Last reply by kshy Nov 30, 2012. 1 Reply 0 Likes
Today I'm mulling over and over in my mind the day I sat in the sun room and just cried and cried. I didn't hid my tears that day when we realized that Dave just wasn't tolerating the treatment of…Continue
Fun with the Widowed Village People :)
Started this discussion. Last reply by Cristina Nov 30, 2012. 12 Replies 1 Like
Today was just a fun filled crazy widow/widower day for several of us here in the So Cal area!We started out by meeting up at Chili's for lunch. Four of us meet up and after filling up we walked over…Continue
Lost my husband, mom, cousin all within 13 months now loosing friend
Started this discussion. Last reply by Patience (Diane) Jan 1. 1 Reply 0 Likes
I just returned from a group visit to a dear friend who is dying from an aggressive cancerous brain tumor. She's expected to have 1-2 weeks left. That was so difficult to do tonight. She became a…Continue
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Sherbear commented on Lisa (lost) Lamb's blog post Loss of a friend
"((((Lisa))))) I lost one of my best friends to inoperable brain cancer 3 months after the one year anniversary of my husbands death.
It was shocking.
What a beautiful poem."
Sherbear commented on Moving On's blog post My Offer
"Wow! What a great attitude and a very creative commitment :).
Sometimes if we go through the motions the e-motions occasionally will surprise us and catch up with us. Here's hoping that's the case with everyone here on WV.
:) Thanks…"
Sherbear commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Born in the 50s
"Welcome animal lover. It's been 19 months ......OMGosh.....today! That explains it. The 10th was when he died. Yep, up down all around....."
Sherbear commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Born in the 50s
"Liz, Su
I've often thought of sellingy home, buying an RV and just become a Vagabond . Well, for a while st least. I to had hoped to purchase an RV, something adaptable for a wheelchair, and just hit the road. Think I'll check out those RV…"
Sherbear commented on Cristina's event 2 year sadiversary, of Darling Billie's Passing
"Oh sweet Cristina!!! I saw your other post!!! Hugs and prayers for ya! Wish I was there with you to give you real hug and ease your pain and sorrow in some teeny tiny way. (((( Big Old Hugs)))"
Sherbear commented on pottergirl's blog post Images
"My therapist told me I'll most likely be attracted to someone similar to my deseased husband because what we had worked for 26 yrs. She said the relationship will be different because it's another person but I'll most likely gravitate…"
Sherbear commented on Karen (funnybne)'s blog post Just a Horrible Day
"So sorry. Iost a stone from my ring before my husband died. We intended to replace it but never did. Dianne, those are good words. I agree.
But it's do difficult whenever we loss another piece of them, whether it's by us letting go of…"
Sherbear commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group More than one loss (Multiple losses)
"GRIEF COMA
Do you ever feel as though grief has you in a coma? With the multiple losses and being thrown back into mourning/grieving even when I feel something, like love towards someone, I find I'm not able to even speak yet alone act upon…"
Sherbear commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group More than one loss (Multiple losses)
"(((PM))) welcome to the place where others resonate with you. I'm do terribly sorry for your losses.
Big Old Hugs"
Sherbear commented on only1sue's blog post Are people getting sick of me?
"(((Sue)))
I had attended a few widows groups for a while. One had mostly widows who were older and had been widowed for many years. I decided it wasn't the best group for me at this time as I needed a place to be able to express my "newly…"
Sherbear commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Born in the 50s
"Yep Su
I know what you mean. When the wheelchairs were picked up and the two portable ramps were sold it was the same feeling. A little more of him gone. I still have the permanent ramp. It's do solid font think it's going any…"
Sherbear commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Born in the 50s
"Yep Su
I know what you mean. When the wheelchairs were picked up and the two portable ramps were sold it was the same feeling. A little more of him gone. I still have the permanent ramp. It's do solid font think it's going any…"
Sherbear commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group More than one loss (Multiple losses)
"Well, I'vegot complicated/postponed grief. Complicated because of multiple deaths, postponed because the other deaths interupted the processing of the two most significant deaths, my husbands and my moms. I'm now, after 1 1/2 yrs from my…"
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The Protective bubble
Posted on March 22, 2013 at 1:17pm 3 Comments 1 Like
We all have a past, before we were married to our spouse. Part of that past is painful. We were hurt in some way that we managed to bring with us into our marriage. Or we shared them with our spouse and found acceptance and some healing.
I’ve realized that this kind of death of a spouse may sometimes bring up some past issues for some of us. After all, our spouses most likely where the ones who knew all our inner most secrets and we felt safe with them. It’s like we were in…
ContinueBalanced
Posted on February 23, 2013 at 8:11pm 3 Comments 2 Likes
I've been in a slump for a few weeks. Maybe it's because the 1 1/2 year mark is right around the corner, March 10.
So, I've decided that if I can motivate myself to do one of each of these from this list I might be able to help myself push through this.
1. Engage in something spiritual in the morning everyday. (Read a devotional, pray, journel, an inspirational book)Also, allow for time to think about what I want to do in the near future. (Move, rent the house…
ContinueMy House-Is it really home?
Posted on February 12, 2013 at 4:17pm 8 Comments 0 Likes
It’s been 17 months the 10th of February. I’m still in the house we purchased together with the intention of remodeling as his disease progressed. We installed the last piece of equipment, the ceiling lift system, just 2 days before he died.
I’m so very torn between feelings of a need to leave this home and a need to keep the home.
I feel as though I’m unable to really “heal” here because of the memories attached to his disability. My home is better equipped than…
ContinueI woke up this morning and I was still breathging and wondered "Why?"
Posted on January 2, 2013 at 2:32am 4 Comments 0 Likes
Why me? Why am I still breathing and they're not? My husband, mom, cousin and friend? All within the last 15 months? Why did death pass over me?
My friend was only in her 40's and her death came on so sudden and poof, she was gone! My husband was well liked and respected by many. He was so giving and caring, thinking of others over himself, even up to the day before he died. My cousin had a family and was just about to enjoy living! My mom, well, I was just about to enjoy life with…
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- At 2:15am on January 2, 2013,
Lensan said… - Hi Sherry,
Thanks so much for keeping me in mind for events. I find just reading posts in the village helps to keep me from feeling like I'm losing my mind... I will keep an eye out for events. I hope you've had a soft New Year's Day.
Take care,
Sandy
- At 1:08pm on December 6, 2012,
Mom of 2 said… Hello Sherbear, this is mom of 2 toddlers who just joined and I want to say thank you for the warm welcome. My husband past on Nov 4 of this year and I'm still early in this journey I never wanted to take. My son is 2 and half and my daughter is 1 and half and they miss him so much and I feel so lost with out Michael that it physically hurts. He was my everything for 22 years wonderful years and now I'm not sure how to continue. Everyone says think of the children and I do, I think of how they will miss out on having a father who wanted and loved them so very much. I'm sorry for your loss too and I thank you for sharing. Cece
- At 4:15am on August 16, 2012,
Roberta said… thank you for accepting my friendship!
- At 4:14am on August 16, 2012, Roberta said…
I am sorry for your loss as well. It is a very nice plae to visit. I live in the New England region/ country life about 1 hr from Tamworth.
- At 12:27am on June 9, 2012, Booh 2 said…
Hi Sherbear - thanks for the welcome. I'm sorry for your loss also - we sure are close together in our time of loss. Your pictures are wonderful. You must have had a lot of great times together which I know makes your loss even harder but such wonderful memories to treasure. I just read a post that says the second year is harder - I sure hope not. I think time does help and it's great that we have this site to help us through it. I've always worked so keeping busy has helped me. Business has slowed down somewhat lately so unfortunately have more time to think and dwell on things. Don't feel like doing much more than lying on the couch and watching TV so that's what I'm going to do. If possible, I think we have to allow ourselves the time we need. Planning to join a local support group too just haven't gotten around to it yet. Have gotten involved in a Big Brother/Big Sister group. Would like to be able to give back to someone that needs it and these kids need a friend. It also helps me keep busy and get out of the house. I will look forward to getting to know you and the others better and sharing our experiences. Thanks again and take care.
- At 1:16pm on June 1, 2012,
Benny's wife said…
Thank you for your message! I need all the help I can get right now! I never imaged being w/o Benny and it is not an easy road.
- At 5:33pm on May 23, 2012,
VOLUNTEERSupa Dupa Fresh said… Welcome to our community.... I hope we can keep you company on your journey ahead. Please look around a bit and read this basic introduction to the site. You can find more information about how the community works under "Help!" in the navigation bar, and we'll send you a few newsletters with tips and ideas in the coming weeks. If you need a little more help, go to the Home page and look in the right hand column to see the link to a "Help Desk" form.
We all use the site differently, but we hope you feel comfortable sharing among us in the coming days, weeks, and months.
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- At 5:29pm on May 20, 2012,
Letha said… Hi Sherry, and thanks for the 'friend' invitation. I enjoyed looking at your photos. Looks like you and your husband enjoyed being outdoors like me and my husband did. This place has been a real help to me, as I hope it will be for you. Hang in there.
- At 10:40am on May 19, 2012,
WidowerMDK said…
Hi Sherbear,
I love your pictures, it looks like you and your husband were very active. I lost my wife in February to cancer, and instead of growing old together I'm on this journey alone. I wish I had some magicical words I could tell you that would take away your pain and grief, but I don't. The only thing I can tell you is that everyone on this site is going through their own grief, and each of us is just trying to deal with it in our own way. There are a lot of good people on WV that are here to support you, and if you need to spill your emotions this is the place to do it, we all understand and want to help you through this miserable time in your life. God Bless you Sherbear.
- At 8:27pm on May 17, 2012,
Dianne in Nevada said… 
I'm so very sorry for your loss, Sherbear, but glad you found us. There is caring support and friendship here. I see you've already joined the groups that fit you - a great way to connect to others with similar experiences - and are posting in the Forum discussions. Those 'chirps' you hear when you're in Widowed Village mean people are talking in the Chat Room; stop in some time and join the conversations. I look forward to getting to know you here.
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