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Hornet (Cindy) left a comment for ShirleyB
"Hello, Shirley. Yes, time ticks along and you do come to realize (sadly) that you shared a 'piece' of life with your husband...and that your life is so much more...after he is gone. It is so hard to find it sometimes, though...the rest of…"
Nov 12
ShirleyB commented on Hornet (Cindy)'s blog post Hornet...on WILLING YOU STRENGTH!
"Thank you. At just under 6 months out, these words you share are always a good reminder.  I find it got harder at about 5 months out than it had been up to that point.  Maybe the finality starting to really set in??  But I know we…"
Nov 5
ShirleyB replied to Kimmy's discussion Sadness in the group Widowed in 2017
"NancyD I so agree with you...trying to remember them as strong able bodied men, not sick and having trouble breathing and simply no longer looking like they did while healthy.  I struggle with that still. When I remember John strong and healthy…"
Oct 15
ShirleyB replied to Kimmy's discussion Sadness in the group Widowed in 2017
"I think I may only have "better words to share" because I'm five months out and you are only two weeks, Optimisticrealist.  I was trying to really remember where I was at two weeks out and how the Summer was a blur.  And I…"
Oct 15
ShirleyB replied to Kimmy's discussion Sadness in the group Widowed in 2017
"Hello.  I first want to express my sincere condolences for your loss. I, too, lost my husband to cancer.  He was 49 years old and we fought for 21 months.  John died on May 24th of this year.  142 days ago. The gut wrenching…"
Oct 13
ShirleyB replied to Gunnerx2's discussion Defining Me
"First, I wish you security and safety with the threat of Hurricane Irma coming....If you need a kick in the behind from a new "friend..."  Please take care of yourself and those kitties and be somewhere safe. We can't move…"
Sep 6
ShirleyB replied to Gunnerx2's discussion Defining Me
"Hi Gunnerx2. What to say.  There's nothing really to say is there?  I do know what you are going through- although I lost my John over 21 months of cancer and not suddenly as you lost Dennis....so that part I can' relate to.…"
Sep 5
ShirleyB replied to Raven2017's discussion "I know what you are going through" UGH! in the group Widowed in 2017
"To be honest, unless you have lost a spouse at the age I am at and the length of time I was married and together with my spouse, you probably can't totally understand what I am going through. If you lost your spouse and don't have kids you…"
Aug 18
ShirleyB replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion When did you remove your wedding rings?
"I totally agree, Hope.  It's such an individual decision for any of us going through this and whatever any of us decide to do....should feel comfortable for us and we should know we are doing the right thing for us. My husband died close…"
Aug 12
ShirleyB replied to Anna's discussion Are you able to read a book?
"Hi Susan.   John had stage for small bowel cancer. We had 21 months from the date of diagnosis...which ironically enough was the number of years we were married. I like to bake.  I also make cards....I have yet to make a card though since…"
Aug 10
ShirleyB replied to Anna's discussion Are you able to read a book?
"I am so sorry for your loss, Lady J- and the idea that eating is so hard to do for you.  I went the exact opposite way- I lost my husband just shy of three months ago and immediately dropped about 6-7 pounds and then have gained that back plus…"
Aug 10
ShirleyB replied to Anna's discussion Are you able to read a book?
"Hi Frank.  I was intrigued by your Awakening From Grief book and the fact that you will be starting read number four this Fall of it.  And that you learn or understand more and that you are in a different place each time you read it.…"
Aug 10
ShirleyB replied to Anna's discussion Are you able to read a book?
"Amazingly enough...I have. I lost my husband to cancer less than 3 months ago and made it through a fictional more "fun" Summer kind of read about a month and a half after he passed away.  What I found was that while grief can be all…"
Aug 10
ShirleyB replied to Malgosia's discussion I lost my husband May 10th in the group Widowed in 2017
"I am so sorry for your loss...and hate to utter the words that I know exactly how you feel. Because I do.  I also lost my husband to cancer. He was diagnosed in August of 2015 and I lost him May 24th of this year.  We were married 23 years…"
Aug 9
Racingfan60 commented on ShirleyB's blog post Surreal
"Hello: I too am new to this site. I am 60 years old and I lost my husband suddenly on July 27, 2016 we have 2 boys ages 24 and 19 my husband had just undergone 8 weeks of radiation therapy for intermediate stage prostate cancer the doctors told us…"
Jun 16
ShirleyB commented on kellygreenstrat (Colin)'s blog post I've Answered My Own Question
"@Athena53.  No, I don't think I actually said I was "lucky" to lose my husband with advanced notice.    I think what I said was I was lucky to have the time even with the terminal illness to make memories with him and…"
Jun 11

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Posted on June 7, 2017 at 1:09pm 5 Comments

Hello. I am new to this site.  I lost the love of my life to cancer two weeks ago.  We were married for 21 years and have two children ages 18 and 15. Beyond the feeling of grief I have never felt before in my entire life- that comes in incredible waves out of nowhere at any time of the day...I find myself having trouble grasping that this is my new world. Who EVER thinks they are going to come part of a sight like this. I find it surreal at times. To think about the fact that John will no…

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At 5:15am on November 12, 2017, Hornet (Cindy) said…

Hello, Shirley. Yes, time ticks along and you do come to realize (sadly) that you shared a 'piece' of life with your husband...and that your life is so much more...after he is gone. It is so hard to find it sometimes, though...the rest of your life, that is. I mean, what IS the rest of my life? I wasn't planning on doing this alone! That is what I kept asking myself. I still ask myself this question...but I am better at not letting it rock my boat. I guess confidence in my ability to figure things out is much greater 4 years out. I hope you are confident in your ability to make a wonderful life for yourself, Shirley. If you are not now, you will be. Everything is going to be all right. I wish you the very, very best! Cindy

At 4:49pm on June 7, 2017, Larryh0823 said…

ShirleyB,

At 2 weeks in I know that things are extremely difficult for you.  We are here to help you.  At this point I am just over 4 months in and there is a long way left of this journey.  I am here to help in any way possible.

Larry

At 4:31pm on June 7, 2017, My New Life said…

Hi, I lost Mark January 21, 2017.  I'm very sorry for your loss.

At 2:18pm on June 7, 2017, Larryh0823 said…

ShirleyB,

Welcome to this group.  I know at the point where you are right now that you are really

At 6:57am on June 6, 2017, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, ShirleyB. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.

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