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Shoosie2
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a very uplifting article

Started this discussion. Last reply by Rainy (Misty) Apr 23. 2 Replies

 I just found this while taking a break at work. I found it very enlightening, especially since my Rick contacted me twice in 12 hours. Last night, upon pulling into the driveway, the radio again…Continue

 

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Shoosie2 commented on Mrs Bear's blog post Infinity and beyond
"Thank you, Mrs Bear!  I have been have a rough few days with my grief- I'm 6 months out. I am printing this off and taping it to my kitchen cupboard so I'll remind myself how good I had it for 18 years. Your title is what caught my…"
Thursday
LP replied to Shoosie2's discussion Giving Myself a Panic Attack in the group Born in the 50s
"Dear Steph, You don't have to move! At least not anytime soon - as long as you don't want to. I understand the pressure of what other people might think - or to be fair, what WE think other people might think, which may not be what they…"
Jun 10
Shoosie2 replied to Shoosie2's discussion Giving Myself a Panic Attack in the group Born in the 50s
"Thank you so much for the sound advice. I know everyone's journey is different, and I totally understand those who have moved because their spouse passed in their home. Rick died in the hospital, but I know if he'd passed away in the…"
Jun 9
shelley replied to Shoosie2's discussion Giving Myself a Panic Attack in the group Born in the 50s
"NoLongerinBergenJC, I really enjoyed your post.  Good advice.  "
Jun 9
Dee replied to Shoosie2's discussion Giving Myself a Panic Attack in the group Born in the 50s
"Shoosie, I am in a similar quandary, although farther along in my grief journey. Dan died 4 years ago June 24, and I am still living on our acreage, which has 3 acres of lawn, numerous planting beds, and a pool to maintain. I love it out here, but…"
Jun 9
Athena53 replied to Shoosie2's discussion Giving Myself a Panic Attack in the group Born in the 50s
"Bergen came up with a lot of good ideas and questions; I'd also suggest that you rent before buying in a given area.  It means you're paying for two moves, but better that than buying a place and finding you don't like the…"
Jun 8
NoLongerInBergenJC replied to Shoosie2's discussion Giving Myself a Panic Attack in the group Born in the 50s
"Hi, Shoosie:  Well, first of all, you don't just pick a place based on price from a Kiplinger article.  There are lots of places that are really cheap to live, but I couldn't live in most of them. Second of all, you don't do…"
Jun 8
Susan replied to Shoosie2's discussion Giving Myself a Panic Attack in the group Born in the 50s
"I waited the 2 yrs before moving. But did you know you have the option at age 60+ to start taking your spouse's SSI if it is more than yours. You cannot get both. But you can get your spouse's now...if you were married at least 10 yr."
Jun 8
Shoosie2 added a discussion to the group Born in the 50s
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Giving Myself a Panic Attack

Hi everyoneWell, here's something I know we have all been told not to do the first year after losing out spouse. Do not make any major changes!  I am exactly 6 months out from losing Rick as of yesterday.   Did I listen? Sort of.  I was scrolling through newsfeeds, and  a Kipplinger   'Best Places to Retire' came up. ( I'm 61)  I nonchalantly snooped, and found to my surprise, there are several wonderful places out there in the real world that are affordable on a fixed income!. My Rick was so…See More
Jun 8
LP replied to Shoosie2's discussion Deja Vu all over again? in the group Born in the 50s
"Oh yes, I’m on that same loop. Theee months on and some days it feels like the first day. Some days I can make plans for ‘next year’ and some days -like today- I can’t see how to make it through another hour. The tears just…"
Jun 2
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Shoosie2's discussion Deja Vu all over again? in the group Born in the 50s
"Death is devastating & difficult to make sense of as well as changes your life. Its a new normal with widow brain. The extremity of rawness in the first year is temporary, at the same time, its shock that is protecting you from the full force of…"
Jun 1
Marsha replied to Shoosie2's discussion Deja Vu all over again? in the group Born in the 50s
"So sorry Steph and Shelly for your loss and joining the club none of us want to belong to. Please give yourself a pat on the back for making it this far. Steph you are not going backwards. Grief is not an easy path and we do learn how to do the cha…"
Jun 1
shelley replied to Shoosie2's discussion Deja Vu all over again? in the group Born in the 50s
"Oh, Steph,  So sorry to hear what a hard time you're having.  I really, really understand.  I was so proud of myself for getting through my husband's memorial on Saturday with grace and purpose.  Then started slipping…"
May 31
Shoosie2 added a discussion to the group Born in the 50s
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Deja Vu all over again?

Does anyone else's life feel like Groundhog day? Just when you think you might have a decent day, WHAM!  Once again the blues hit, and you are paralyzed? One month ago I was doing better, feeling better, actually getting a few things done around the property. I'm back to feeling numb and overwhelmed, just as I felt 3 months out, yet I know that being 6 months out isn't a long leap. It doesn't make any sense, and while I understand that grief is not linear, I was hoping it wouldn't make you go…See More
May 31
Shoosie2 replied to Susan's discussion How Do I Start....
"Hi Susan Have you checked out Meetup.com?  I know it sounds like a dating site, but it's not. It's an online gathering for people in just about anything you can think of. You sign up for groups, and the groups get together for…"
May 25
Shoosie2 replied to Shoosie2's discussion A Ton of Bricks in the group Widowed in 2017
"Hiya Misty thanks for asking. Some things are a tiny bit better, some things are the same, and some things still suck. Better things:  I was able to finally get Rick's truck to pass smog after putting in another $700 for a new catalytic…"
May 24

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At 8:54pm on February 26, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Shoosie2. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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