"Again I will agree with Mike.....we are all different and there are no rights and wrongs here......I spent the first year after Bill passed.....with either family, grief groups or alone.....I slept , ate ....tried to get my health back...Bill was…"
"Don...I am so sorry for your loss....I have no right words because there are none..this is so raw to you right now...I feel Mike has given you the best advise...I pray you have a brother, cousin, close friend , son...who can come and help or just be…"
"Don...I am so sorry for your loss....this is raw to you right now....Mike has given you great advise....I"m not sure about your family members or friends...but I pray there is a brother, son, close friend who can help ...Please keep in touch…"
"Irishlady....I also had a harder time this year with all birthdays and anniversaries...I don't know why but I did....7 years for my husband...20 for my daughter and yet last 2 years I was somewhat ok ..not this year...but I found that it was…"
"Barzan...this is a wonderful Idea...I have talked about getting out of town for about 5 years now...but sadly have no one to travel with...I hope there is a way we can meet while you are in the Philly area."
"Irishlady....I have to agree with everyone who has written.....I just passed 7 years...my husband died on my deceased daughter's birthday so I have a double whammy that day....the first year I made plans...I picked up Balloons and flowers....as…"
"Today is the 7th anniversary of Bill's death....he passed on my deceased daughter's birthday ..so it's a double whammy day for me....on Bill's first anniversary...I really lost it...the day was too much...my lost…"
"Hi Tess......I am 7 years out and still struggle at times with decisions...your life needs to be your own....there are no rights and wrongs here..whatever it is that gives you peace, a smile...some happiness in your heart ...our journey is hard…"
"God bless you...I am so glad you were able to do this.....I know I can travel alone but I need a destination....a plan for when I get to where I'm going and don't have one...Bill and I traveled a lot ...day trips , weekends, weeks...so I…"
"I am happy for you and wish you and your soon to be husband all God's blessings....I think he is patient ...but also feel you need to continue to do what's best for you ..as the wedding approaches I feel you need to decide what you will…"
"Sue ...wishing you all the best...successful surgery and full , speedy recovery....I get it ..I had lung cancer and skin cancer twice sine Bill passed..7 years ago.....chemo once on the skin cancer...my hair started to fall out, I was exhausted all…"
"Hi Claire...I am glad you got this message......I totally agree....Bill passed almost 7 years ago...just a couple of weeks away.....on March 1.....I have finally met a companion...he is a 100% opposite of my husband yet like a male me...we get along…"
Dear Angel, how I have missed you. I have not been fortunate to meet you at the chat room. I am fine mostly. Today incidentally is 19th month of Joan's passing. God has been good even though sometimes I still feel shortchanged. I hope you are doing well my dear friend. I chatted with Doug. He is married now. Cheers and I wish you better days ahead. Damian
Hey Slick, hope you're still there, just saying hello. The sun is shining and I'm gonna enjoy this beautiful long weekend we have - helping out a friend today and looking at some Art at the museum here in Denver tomorrow......Hope you are doing well. (Leendah)
hey slick, this is leendah, I'm trying to get back on Widowed Village, somehow it got checked not to receive Emails but nothing I'm doing to fix that is working.........so hoping you receive this...........I just had to put down both of my dogs within a week of each and have lost 2 friends since January, trying to hang in there..........not trying to be a Debbie Downer but this is what it is..........
oh yeah, slick, I've had multiple deaths in the last few years since Tom's death - 4 very good friends and others..........after awhile you just get kinda numb don't you............but then you really can't because you gotta live this life! And now I want to because there's someone in my life that's there for me and vice versa. so I'm gonna keep plugging along! I'm sending you good thoughts!
Slick - I always liked reading your posts, you are REAL AND AUTHENTIC.....tell it like it is. Wish I knew you to sit down and chat. But as my mom used to quote the song - Nobody ever promised us a rose garden.........I don't understand why moments of nostalgic sadness overwhelms me at times, when I'm mostly doing okay. But I have thought of moving/selling the house although neighbors want me to stay. But it's my life not theirs. So I might "get out of Dodge" one day...........It's risky for us but not impossible!
yeah I don't get it either, Slick........shouldn't we all be more compassionate to each other? I know what I've gone through has made me much more feelie-touchie........When I heard my friend had cancer (I hadn't seen him since my husband's funeral 2 years ago but he did call me a couple of times) I got a hold of him and visited and was so glad I did. Our friendship was still intact and after that I texted and called every day until his death at 2am this morning. So I see the fear of death and dying can go both ways - some people can't take any of it and some become more understanding......
hang in there Slick, you have helped me with comments you have made, I wish I could say something inspirational to you.......I know there are times when grief wants to overwhelm me and take me over and I won't let it - at a Santana concert several mos. ago Carlos Santana was speaking about Robin Wms. and said "don't let depression be your friend - there is too much light in the world........." I have taken those words to heart and try not to accept what is negative as something that has power over how I can feel............Sometimes I feel each day I get stronger but of course I have "slipping back" days too. But at least now I want to be that strong person everyone says I am - I want to give back to those who have helped me.
Slick - my heart goes out to you (and everybody else here). I'm not looking forward to "getting through the holidays" with all the Christmas stuff up (since Halloween!). We used to enjoy our Christmas mornings openings gifts slowly drinking coffee stopping for breakfast & opening pets gifts.......this is not my life anymore. thank God I am going to be with my sister and her family week after Christmas through the New Year. I don't think I could take all that time by myself. I wish I did have people like yourself to hang out with and comfort each other........but that's why we're on this page........Hang in there and I will too.