"Sue..my husband and I did that....and I have one friend who is more then willing to take turns...it works for me also...the only time I haven't done that in my 64 years....was with this Guy I met that I just finally was able to get rid…"
"Thanks Athena for your help.....I walked and never looked back....once I truly realized the good I saw was a phony act....I felt nothing for him .....I was married to a Viet Nam Vet ...raging alcoholic the first marriage....and I think the fact that…"
"Athena ....had he been more honest about never leaving his dog ...I wouldn;t have gone out with him a second time.....but he concealed a lot...and a little at a time..he would dump something else I didn't like in my lap once a month...and then…"
"Belynne...I understand what you're saying about getting "dolled up" I like to start with coffee or lunch..I;m pretty laid back...my days of the business suit, heels, dresses are gone..I just am not comfortable..so I don;t change…"
"Maggie ..I also think dogs , cats all pets really are wonderful...I have met many men who are so attached to their dogs that they will never go away, never leave their dog....never even go out for the day......in some cases their dog has replaced…"
"laurajay..what a wonderful way to go into dating.....I do agree and have met many men my age that are very unkept...in need of a haircut, shower, and clean shirt......the motorcycle and dog also take all of their time...I have come across the…"
"I agree with all of you .....I was widowed almost 7 years ago....March 1, 2011...I was 58....had no desire to date.....as the years have gone on...I find I would like a companion....to travel with and have some fun, sharing and love with if it…"
"My dear Muns....My heart feels such sorrow for you and your daughter.....God be with you both , and bring all of His peace to your hearts.....I'm so sorry I have no words...to comfort you....may peace find you..."
"Danny's girl ..I am so sorry you are going through all this but happy you have had so much support.....your life reads similar to mine...so many of the most important people in my life passed early 50's including my husband in 2011...I…"
"Prissy ..I agree that you are very lucky that you enjoy things you can do at home alone....I can also...I like being alone...just not 24/7....sometimes I go out for the day , have a nice day and would like someone to share it with when I get…"
"Sorry Beloved Peach ..I just saw this....it is very expensive where I live...the county itself...and in the Phila suburbs is not what it;s cracked up to be...everything around here is in the city..horrible , expensive parking....traffic...mostly…"
"The same happens to me...I always give in....I met 2 widows at a grief group the first year after Bill passed....we became I thought friends....we did different things together ..never seemed to matter if one wasn't able to go...then I was…"
"Yep...I agree with all that's been said...Oh Barzan I would never bring Politics here....I am very happy watching and going to lectures on the subject..of course alone....I have always set the bar where I believe it should be set for me.....I…"
Dear Angel, how I have missed you. I have not been fortunate to meet you at the chat room. I am fine mostly. Today incidentally is 19th month of Joan's passing. God has been good even though sometimes I still feel shortchanged. I hope you are doing well my dear friend. I chatted with Doug. He is married now. Cheers and I wish you better days ahead. Damian
Hey Slick, hope you're still there, just saying hello. The sun is shining and I'm gonna enjoy this beautiful long weekend we have - helping out a friend today and looking at some Art at the museum here in Denver tomorrow......Hope you are doing well. (Leendah)
hey slick, this is leendah, I'm trying to get back on Widowed Village, somehow it got checked not to receive Emails but nothing I'm doing to fix that is working.........so hoping you receive this...........I just had to put down both of my dogs within a week of each and have lost 2 friends since January, trying to hang in there..........not trying to be a Debbie Downer but this is what it is..........
oh yeah, slick, I've had multiple deaths in the last few years since Tom's death - 4 very good friends and others..........after awhile you just get kinda numb don't you............but then you really can't because you gotta live this life! And now I want to because there's someone in my life that's there for me and vice versa. so I'm gonna keep plugging along! I'm sending you good thoughts!
Slick - I always liked reading your posts, you are REAL AND AUTHENTIC.....tell it like it is. Wish I knew you to sit down and chat. But as my mom used to quote the song - Nobody ever promised us a rose garden.........I don't understand why moments of nostalgic sadness overwhelms me at times, when I'm mostly doing okay. But I have thought of moving/selling the house although neighbors want me to stay. But it's my life not theirs. So I might "get out of Dodge" one day...........It's risky for us but not impossible!
yeah I don't get it either, Slick........shouldn't we all be more compassionate to each other? I know what I've gone through has made me much more feelie-touchie........When I heard my friend had cancer (I hadn't seen him since my husband's funeral 2 years ago but he did call me a couple of times) I got a hold of him and visited and was so glad I did. Our friendship was still intact and after that I texted and called every day until his death at 2am this morning. So I see the fear of death and dying can go both ways - some people can't take any of it and some become more understanding......
hang in there Slick, you have helped me with comments you have made, I wish I could say something inspirational to you.......I know there are times when grief wants to overwhelm me and take me over and I won't let it - at a Santana concert several mos. ago Carlos Santana was speaking about Robin Wms. and said "don't let depression be your friend - there is too much light in the world........." I have taken those words to heart and try not to accept what is negative as something that has power over how I can feel............Sometimes I feel each day I get stronger but of course I have "slipping back" days too. But at least now I want to be that strong person everyone says I am - I want to give back to those who have helped me.
Slick - my heart goes out to you (and everybody else here). I'm not looking forward to "getting through the holidays" with all the Christmas stuff up (since Halloween!). We used to enjoy our Christmas mornings openings gifts slowly drinking coffee stopping for breakfast & opening pets gifts.......this is not my life anymore. thank God I am going to be with my sister and her family week after Christmas through the New Year. I don't think I could take all that time by myself. I wish I did have people like yourself to hang out with and comfort each other........but that's why we're on this page........Hang in there and I will too.
I miss the sharing with someone special too, Slick. I guess I tried doing that with some people that I was close to but it's not the same. So the best thing I can do that I've figured out is that is not something I can do right now but when I can - if there's someone out there in my future then I will appreciate it once again. right now it's enough that I have support through relatives and friends and neighbors. two friends of mine did not tell me it was their anniversary because they didn't want to upset me, but I assured them I wanted to be happy for them and what they had together.........