"Sue , I agree totally....I was not always happy alone....but after about 5 years was able to cope and accept life as it was and be happy and at peace....I hope this new change stays with you....it doesn't mean you still might not like to meet…"
"Hi soulmate....I tried to answer yesterday and your post had disappeared....I don't think you're insensitive at all.....there are no rights and wrongs in grief and making a life for ourselves in pain....and changing so much...I am also 63…"
"None of the meet ups that have been mentioned are in my area...it's very boring around here...everything is for people in their 20's and 30's and all in the city...which is not my thing nor are clubs and bars....so I started one…"
"I am so sorry for your loss Raven....and so happy that you had such a wonderful relationship...my husband has been gone almost 7 years....was 51 when dx and 54 when he passed...so we were young also....Dating sites worked for you, that's…"
"I know I do Susan and I love it....I was so glad when my older grandchildren told me last night how they felt just meeting him.....I told my daughter to always let them open up to me.like that....I broke it off Wed...for many reasons of my own…"
"Funny you said that Susan...my oldest grandchildren...told me yesterday ..they didn't want to say anything...they only met him once for a few minutes....and they thought he was creepy........my 14 year old grandaughter said she was…"
"THanks Peach for your support...it feels good to have it and always makes me stronger....I new there were red flags and when I ran after a week I knew I should have stayed away ....I think I wanted to know what the red flags were....silly on my…"
"I am at 6 1/2 years and still not sure of what to do with our rings...I don't think there is anything I can do with Bill's to wear them....but mine are different....I put a very pretty and delicate wedding band on the other day that looks…"
"Hi Sue...I broke it off last week with this man....he has changed overnight..to not a very nice person...I don't like him anymore...don't enjoy his company or his humor...he is a bore...and a snob..insulting...critical...overnight...when I…"
Been there done that....I have been lucky enough to find a few good people who understand.....my closest girlfriends and only sister all passed away young ..so when Bill died I really was alone and didn't want to dump all of my pain on my…"
"Thank you TxDD for your comfort and understanding.....I am so sorry you have gone through this hell too...losing a child(children) and a husband to me a very different....horrible in different ways..that's JMO....our lives are very…"
"TxDD....if I;m ready correctly you lost daughters?? to cancer early in life....I am so sorry....I lost my middle daughter in a car accident when she was 21...it will be 20 years next month...so different from my husband
Bill was dx at 51 with lung…"
"Hi Sue....you are so right..relationships take time.....we dated for 5 months and were very close....connected...loved being together..laughter, great conversations.....BUT when I look back at the things I overlooked and deprived myself of I know it…"
"WithoutJim....thank you so much...it is like a loss of course nothing in comparison to the loss of Bill......I tried....I saw red flags week one....and seemed to have to know what the red flags were.....well after 5 months I have found I would hope…"
Dear Angel, how I have missed you. I have not been fortunate to meet you at the chat room. I am fine mostly. Today incidentally is 19th month of Joan's passing. God has been good even though sometimes I still feel shortchanged. I hope you are doing well my dear friend. I chatted with Doug. He is married now. Cheers and I wish you better days ahead. Damian
Hey Slick, hope you're still there, just saying hello. The sun is shining and I'm gonna enjoy this beautiful long weekend we have - helping out a friend today and looking at some Art at the museum here in Denver tomorrow......Hope you are doing well. (Leendah)
hey slick, this is leendah, I'm trying to get back on Widowed Village, somehow it got checked not to receive Emails but nothing I'm doing to fix that is working.........so hoping you receive this...........I just had to put down both of my dogs within a week of each and have lost 2 friends since January, trying to hang in there..........not trying to be a Debbie Downer but this is what it is..........
oh yeah, slick, I've had multiple deaths in the last few years since Tom's death - 4 very good friends and others..........after awhile you just get kinda numb don't you............but then you really can't because you gotta live this life! And now I want to because there's someone in my life that's there for me and vice versa. so I'm gonna keep plugging along! I'm sending you good thoughts!
Slick - I always liked reading your posts, you are REAL AND AUTHENTIC.....tell it like it is. Wish I knew you to sit down and chat. But as my mom used to quote the song - Nobody ever promised us a rose garden.........I don't understand why moments of nostalgic sadness overwhelms me at times, when I'm mostly doing okay. But I have thought of moving/selling the house although neighbors want me to stay. But it's my life not theirs. So I might "get out of Dodge" one day...........It's risky for us but not impossible!
yeah I don't get it either, Slick........shouldn't we all be more compassionate to each other? I know what I've gone through has made me much more feelie-touchie........When I heard my friend had cancer (I hadn't seen him since my husband's funeral 2 years ago but he did call me a couple of times) I got a hold of him and visited and was so glad I did. Our friendship was still intact and after that I texted and called every day until his death at 2am this morning. So I see the fear of death and dying can go both ways - some people can't take any of it and some become more understanding......
hang in there Slick, you have helped me with comments you have made, I wish I could say something inspirational to you.......I know there are times when grief wants to overwhelm me and take me over and I won't let it - at a Santana concert several mos. ago Carlos Santana was speaking about Robin Wms. and said "don't let depression be your friend - there is too much light in the world........." I have taken those words to heart and try not to accept what is negative as something that has power over how I can feel............Sometimes I feel each day I get stronger but of course I have "slipping back" days too. But at least now I want to be that strong person everyone says I am - I want to give back to those who have helped me.
Slick - my heart goes out to you (and everybody else here). I'm not looking forward to "getting through the holidays" with all the Christmas stuff up (since Halloween!). We used to enjoy our Christmas mornings openings gifts slowly drinking coffee stopping for breakfast & opening pets gifts.......this is not my life anymore. thank God I am going to be with my sister and her family week after Christmas through the New Year. I don't think I could take all that time by myself. I wish I did have people like yourself to hang out with and comfort each other........but that's why we're on this page........Hang in there and I will too.
I miss the sharing with someone special too, Slick. I guess I tried doing that with some people that I was close to but it's not the same. So the best thing I can do that I've figured out is that is not something I can do right now but when I can - if there's someone out there in my future then I will appreciate it once again. right now it's enough that I have support through relatives and friends and neighbors. two friends of mine did not tell me it was their anniversary because they didn't want to upset me, but I assured them I wanted to be happy for them and what they had together.........