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Slick commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"Yep....people have no idea what to say or do ...and I guess it;s something we all just accept as part of the grief we feel......I also attend dinners ....with my family ..we talk about my daughter and husband...they are always are my…"
Slick commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2011
"Oh dear Barzan aren't sounding selfish..we all have different situations in our lives that are so hard since we lost our spouses.....I am lucky to have 2 of my daughters and my 3 grandchildren on Thanksgiving, Christmas and usually Easter…"
Slick commented on Soaring Spirits's group Long-Term Illness
"I can also relate...cancer 4 times and shoulder surgery...alone.....I wish you all the best's hard and very lonely and sad..."
Nov 1
Slick commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"thank you Barzan for your great are right...I do the same thing...always praising and telling them I love them...I am always there when a conflict arises.....and also have had blood done when I had no vitamin D so I take 2000-3000 mg a…"
Oct 21
Slick commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Irishlady....wishing you the best...a prayer going up for you...this is what I do with my cranky daughter now...I more of less make the rules...just as you have things to bring to them, you'd like to take your grandson to…"
Oct 21
Slick commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"marybarcelos.....thanks for writing back....I am so grateful I have both of my youngest and I have had many a battle but she always comes to me with an apology and "I love you" we are good....I have set boundaries and…"
Oct 19
Slick commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Irish Lady....I feel so makes life harder when your grown children aren't too nice and comforting to us...I lost my middle daughter 20 years ago at 21 in a horrible car husband passed on her birthday it's a…"
Oct 19
Slick replied to only1sue's discussion What are the fundamentals of dating in your 60s and 70s?
"I hope you're well's hard to recup from surgery alone....I had cancer and a piece of lung removed , did great....then skin cancer twice ..the one that needed a chemo cream made my hair fall out, nausous always, and…"
Sep 19

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At 5:10pm on March 1, 2016, Dee said…
I would like that.... I work a lot but Sunday's are usually good.
At 11:26am on October 21, 2015, Damianino! said…
Dear Angel, how I have missed you. I have not been fortunate to meet you at the chat room. I am fine mostly. Today incidentally is 19th month of Joan's passing. God has been good even though sometimes I still feel shortchanged. I hope you are doing well my dear friend. I chatted with Doug. He is married now. Cheers and I wish you better days ahead. Damian
At 7:24am on September 4, 2015, Leendah said…

Hey Slick, hope you're still there, just saying hello.  The sun is shining and I'm gonna enjoy this beautiful long weekend we have - helping out a friend today and looking at some Art at the museum here in Denver tomorrow......Hope you are doing well.  (Leendah)

At 10:34am on August 12, 2015, leendah said…

hey slick, this is leendah, I'm trying to get back on Widowed Village, somehow it got checked not to receive Emails but nothing I'm doing to fix that is hoping you receive this...........I just had to put down both of my dogs within a week of each and have lost 2 friends since January, trying to hang in there..........not trying to be a Debbie Downer but this is what it is..........

At 1:56pm on July 10, 2015, leendah said…

oh yeah, slick, I've had multiple deaths in the last few years since Tom's death - 4 very good friends and others..........after awhile you just get kinda numb don't you............but then you really can't because you gotta live this life!  And now I want to because there's someone in my life that's there for me and vice versa.  so I'm gonna keep plugging along!  I'm sending you good thoughts!

At 8:07am on July 10, 2015, leendah said…

Slick -  I always liked reading your posts, you are REAL AND AUTHENTIC.....tell it like it is.  Wish I knew you to sit down and chat.  But as my mom used to quote the song  - Nobody ever promised us a rose garden.........I don't understand why moments of nostalgic sadness overwhelms me at times, when I'm mostly doing okay.  But I have thought of moving/selling the house although neighbors want me to stay.  But it's my life not theirs.  So I might "get out of Dodge" one day...........It's risky for us but not impossible!

At 1:40pm on April 28, 2015, leendah said…

yeah I don't get it either, Slick........shouldn't we all be more compassionate to each other?  I know what I've gone through has made me much more feelie-touchie........When I heard my friend had cancer (I hadn't seen him since my husband's funeral 2 years ago but he did call me a couple of times) I got a hold of him and visited and was so glad I did.  Our friendship was still intact and after that I texted and called every day until his death at 2am this morning.  So I see the fear of death and dying can go both ways - some people can't take any of it and some become more understanding...... 

At 12:16pm on December 1, 2014, leendah said…

hang in there Slick, you have helped me with comments you have made, I wish I could say something inspirational to you.......I know there are times when grief wants to overwhelm me and take me over and I won't let it - at a Santana concert several mos. ago Carlos Santana was speaking about Robin Wms. and said "don't let depression be your friend - there is too much light in the world........."  I have taken those words to heart and try not to accept what is negative as something that has power over how I can feel............Sometimes I feel each day I get stronger but of course I have "slipping back" days too.  But at least now I want to be that strong person everyone says I am - I want to give back to those who have helped me.

At 7:13am on November 25, 2014, leendah said…

Slick - my heart goes out to you (and everybody else here).  I'm not looking forward to "getting through the holidays" with all the Christmas stuff up (since Halloween!).  We used to enjoy our Christmas mornings openings gifts slowly drinking coffee stopping for breakfast & opening pets gifts.......this is not my life anymore.  thank God I am going to be with my sister and her family week after Christmas through the New Year.  I don't think I could take all that time by myself.  I wish I did have people like yourself to hang out with and comfort each other........but that's why we're on this page........Hang in there and I will too.

At 1:18pm on November 24, 2014, leendah said…

I miss the sharing with someone special too, Slick.  I guess I tried doing that with some people that I was close to but it's not the same.    So the best thing I can do that I've figured out is that is not something I can do right now but when I can - if there's someone out there in my future then I will appreciate it once again.   right now it's enough that I have support through relatives and friends and neighbors.  two friends of mine did not tell me it was their anniversary because they didn't want to upset me, but I assured them I wanted to be happy for them and what they had together.........


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