Been there done that....I have been lucky enough to find a few good people who understand.....my closest girlfriends and only sister all passed away young ..so when Bill died I really was alone and didn't want to dump all of my pain on my…"
"Thank you TxDD for your comfort and understanding.....I am so sorry you have gone through this hell too...losing a child(children) and a husband to me a very different....horrible in different ways..that's JMO....our lives are very…"
"TxDD....if I;m ready correctly you lost daughters?? to cancer early in life....I am so sorry....I lost my middle daughter in a car accident when she was 21...it will be 20 years next month...so different from my husband
Bill was dx at 51 with lung…"
"Hi Sue....you are so right..relationships take time.....we dated for 5 months and were very close....connected...loved being together..laughter, great conversations.....BUT when I look back at the things I overlooked and deprived myself of I know it…"
"WithoutJim....thank you so much...it is like a loss of course nothing in comparison to the loss of Bill......I tried....I saw red flags week one....and seemed to have to know what the red flags were.....well after 5 months I have found I would hope…"
"Bergen...you are the only one I have ever heard say that about your ages.....Bill was 51 when he was dx and 54 when he passed...although he would have turned 60 this past Feb and I am 63......I still think that 54-58 is right for me.....I just…"
"Susan .....I guess probably places like the Grand Canyon, Wyoming,I;ve seen the NE, SE, caribbean....several times....I just would like to make sure there's some activity where ever I go....I can sit home alone...I;d really like to share…"
"How I envy anyone who travels alone whether they have family and friends to visit or simply go somewhere alone....I have not been able to do it...although I would love to....I am not intimidated by it...or shy.....I just cannot figure out where I…"
"Good morning all...first I have to stay ...Marilyn ..that was wonderful and Oh so true...I am a multiple loss survivor starting with my daughter and ending with my husband...won't list those all so very close to me in between...only sister to…"
"Hell "Booktime" Sue....and only1sue......I am also 63 ..Bill passed March 1 2011...so it's 6 1/2 years plus the time alone for the 3/12 years he was so very ill....I was his only caregiver and took care of him until the last couple of…"
"I;m sorry you're struggling health wise too, cee......I have learned to stop and take care of me...eating and sleeping right are 2 of my biggest things...but what really helps is that walk I take for an hour 3-4 times a week....at my own pace…"
"that feeling of looking around and seeing what Bill could do so easily that I am stuck paying a lot of money to have it repaired really upsets me still....after 6 1/2 years............I still have my moments when I look around , or now that I…"
"I have to agree about ...the political climate....and having no one to share it with....I don't watch much anymore..and I am passionate about politics...I just can't stand the mess that 's going on, the lies...etc....all BS to…"
Dear Angel, how I have missed you. I have not been fortunate to meet you at the chat room. I am fine mostly. Today incidentally is 19th month of Joan's passing. God has been good even though sometimes I still feel shortchanged. I hope you are doing well my dear friend. I chatted with Doug. He is married now. Cheers and I wish you better days ahead. Damian
Hey Slick, hope you're still there, just saying hello. The sun is shining and I'm gonna enjoy this beautiful long weekend we have - helping out a friend today and looking at some Art at the museum here in Denver tomorrow......Hope you are doing well. (Leendah)
hey slick, this is leendah, I'm trying to get back on Widowed Village, somehow it got checked not to receive Emails but nothing I'm doing to fix that is working.........so hoping you receive this...........I just had to put down both of my dogs within a week of each and have lost 2 friends since January, trying to hang in there..........not trying to be a Debbie Downer but this is what it is..........
oh yeah, slick, I've had multiple deaths in the last few years since Tom's death - 4 very good friends and others..........after awhile you just get kinda numb don't you............but then you really can't because you gotta live this life! And now I want to because there's someone in my life that's there for me and vice versa. so I'm gonna keep plugging along! I'm sending you good thoughts!
Slick - I always liked reading your posts, you are REAL AND AUTHENTIC.....tell it like it is. Wish I knew you to sit down and chat. But as my mom used to quote the song - Nobody ever promised us a rose garden.........I don't understand why moments of nostalgic sadness overwhelms me at times, when I'm mostly doing okay. But I have thought of moving/selling the house although neighbors want me to stay. But it's my life not theirs. So I might "get out of Dodge" one day...........It's risky for us but not impossible!
yeah I don't get it either, Slick........shouldn't we all be more compassionate to each other? I know what I've gone through has made me much more feelie-touchie........When I heard my friend had cancer (I hadn't seen him since my husband's funeral 2 years ago but he did call me a couple of times) I got a hold of him and visited and was so glad I did. Our friendship was still intact and after that I texted and called every day until his death at 2am this morning. So I see the fear of death and dying can go both ways - some people can't take any of it and some become more understanding......
hang in there Slick, you have helped me with comments you have made, I wish I could say something inspirational to you.......I know there are times when grief wants to overwhelm me and take me over and I won't let it - at a Santana concert several mos. ago Carlos Santana was speaking about Robin Wms. and said "don't let depression be your friend - there is too much light in the world........." I have taken those words to heart and try not to accept what is negative as something that has power over how I can feel............Sometimes I feel each day I get stronger but of course I have "slipping back" days too. But at least now I want to be that strong person everyone says I am - I want to give back to those who have helped me.
Slick - my heart goes out to you (and everybody else here). I'm not looking forward to "getting through the holidays" with all the Christmas stuff up (since Halloween!). We used to enjoy our Christmas mornings openings gifts slowly drinking coffee stopping for breakfast & opening pets gifts.......this is not my life anymore. thank God I am going to be with my sister and her family week after Christmas through the New Year. I don't think I could take all that time by myself. I wish I did have people like yourself to hang out with and comfort each other........but that's why we're on this page........Hang in there and I will too.
I miss the sharing with someone special too, Slick. I guess I tried doing that with some people that I was close to but it's not the same. So the best thing I can do that I've figured out is that is not something I can do right now but when I can - if there's someone out there in my future then I will appreciate it once again. right now it's enough that I have support through relatives and friends and neighbors. two friends of mine did not tell me it was their anniversary because they didn't want to upset me, but I assured them I wanted to be happy for them and what they had together.........