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Snow
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Donna J. replied to Snow's discussion Not like the Movies in the group Long-Term Illness
"Probably the longest three days of your life.  Nothing prepares us and I would not expect the physical ache to go away after three days. It has been six months for me and I still burst into tears at the oddest moments. We are not in a movie and…"
Feb 11
Donna J. replied to Snow's discussion Unexpected Emotions in the group Long-Term Illness
"My experience has been similar.  I think that admitting a death close to them makes people think of their own mortality.  It's not so much that they are thoughtless, they are fearful. I can almost visibly see married women pull away…"
Feb 11
adoption1964 (Kim) replied to Snow's discussion Unexpected Emotions in the group Long-Term Illness
"Snow - everything you are feeling is quite normal.  You are not crazy.  I went through the same thing.  My own family didn't even come around with the exception of my nephew who is 5 years younger.  People were there when he…"
Feb 8
Beansy replied to Snow's discussion Unexpected Emotions in the group Long-Term Illness
"Hi. It is true to go with the flow mostly. But I had a different grieving time. I spent so long denying Norm had died, because he had benn sick for too long. He was too young. For me the grieving started when he got the diagnosis. After he died, I…"
Feb 8
Kathy replied to Snow's discussion Unexpected Emotions in the group Long-Term Illness
"Is it normal?  I say yes, everything feels a bit odd, and that’s normal. Emotions go every direction.  As for other people, I believe they mostly don’t know how to react, what to say to us.  They don’t want to say…"
Feb 8
Snow replied to Snow's discussion Unexpected Emotions in the group Long-Term Illness
"Thanks Beansy. This site has been a lifeline. Yesterday someone dropped some documents off for me and asked me "was I feeling better now"? Like my cat had run away or something. I just stood there with my mouth open. I couldn't…"
Feb 7
Beansy replied to Snow's discussion Unexpected Emotions in the group Long-Term Illness
"Because many people are either stupid or unaware or uncaring, while someof us are  the opposite, you will find this from many. It is hard to take when you expect the opposite. But most people are afraid of death, and try to deny it happens.…"
Feb 7
Snow added a discussion to the group Long-Term Illness
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Unexpected Emotions

I had braced myself for the grief of loss, unbearable loneliness, some other things too awful to write about, but I'm also starting to feel quite hurt and let down by some people. Is this normal? There was a girl at work who lost her grandfather last fall, I spent hours comforting her, letting her sit in my office and shut the door so she could have some privacy when she needed a cry, helping her with paperwork. It's been 5 days and she hasn't even sent me an email saying sorry for my loss.…See More
Feb 7
Snow replied to Kimmy's discussion Sadness in the group Widowed in 2017
"I'm so sorry for your pain. I was so oblivious to all the invisible suffering around me until it happened to me, now I see how many people there are struggling with this grief. The pain is unbearable. I did some grocery…"
Feb 7
Snow replied to Kimmy's discussion Sadness in the group Widowed in 2017
"I'm truly so sorry for your loss. I'm only entering day 4 of LAM (life after Michael) so I can't offer much advice, just my heartfelt sympathy. Like you I nursed my husband at home through a long illness, the last 2 years being…"
Feb 6
Carmen513 replied to Snow's discussion Can't Stop Crying in the group Widowed in 2017
"(((Huggs Snow)) I am so sorry for your loss. It is natural and normal to cry when you lose a love that is very special to you!. It is ok and it sucks all at the same time. I was extremely sad ,tearful,numb,confused for days. Even though I did…"
Feb 5
danny's girl replied to Snow's discussion Not like the Movies in the group Long-Term Illness
"Snow, I am so sorry for your loss and that you had to join us here in this group.  No amount of preparation or anticipation could ever fully prepare us for the actual pain felt by the physical separation from our loved one.   In these…"
Feb 5
Slick replied to Snow's discussion Not like the Movies in the group Long-Term Illness
"Dear Snow.....I am so sorry...no amount of knowing your beloved husband is going to pass prepares us.......there are no rights and wrongs here...let the tears flow ..they are healing....those sobs, distorted faces, weird animal sounds are all pain…"
Feb 5
Fromage replied to Snow's discussion Not like the Movies in the group Long-Term Illness
"I lost my husband two weeks ago. I have been crying a lot too. At first it didn't feel real,and it still doesn't in some ways. But reality is sinking in more each day and I lie on my bed sobbing away. I have been grieving for almost two…"
Feb 5
Beansy replied to Snow's discussion Not like the Movies in the group Long-Term Illness
"It wasn’t 3 days ago, but 20 years since my husband died after being sick for 10 years.  He was 47,and I still miss him. You are three days into your new life. You will feel everything so keenly, any crying or any other emotions are…"
Feb 5
Athena53 replied to Snow's discussion Not like the Movies in the group Long-Term Illness
"Snow, you're in your first few days.  Just about ANYTHING is normal.  I also watched my dear husband die over a long period:  polycythemia, first diagnosed 10 years earlier, which morphed into acute myeloid leukemia.  He…"
Feb 5

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At 10:07pm on February 4, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Snow. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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