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Snow
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riet replied to Snow's discussion Not like the Movies in the group Long-Term Illness
"I too thought I was prepared for grief  after my husband was diagnosed with an aggressive brain cancer.  He got a prognosis of 15 months and got 4 years. He died here in our house on the 20th of April.  What that terrible disease to…"
Monday
Linda C replied to Snow's discussion Unexpected Emotions in the group Long-Term Illness
"I have been silent for a long time on this site due to large amounts of my grief and crying. My husband lasted 4 years after beening diagnosed with Lewy body dementia with Parkinson’s. I lost him in pieces and when he died I lost all of him…"
Mar 3
Summergirl replied to Snow's discussion Unexpected Emotions in the group Long-Term Illness
"My husband passed after 7 years with dementia.  To see this once brilliant mind going from what it once was to,peeing in wastebaskets because he did not know where the toilet was beyond devastating.  I grieved before he passed especially…"
Mar 3
Beansy replied to Snow's discussion Unexpected Emotions in the group Long-Term Illness
"Agree, diring the time Norm was sick and when he died was 10 years. Wr knew it was incurable, and I did grieve during that time. He really took care of himself, but he stopped working, our lives were forever changed, and we knew it. So when he…"
Mar 2
Summergirl replied to Snow's discussion Unexpected Emotions in the group Long-Term Illness
"My husband passed almost 3 years ago and I thought I was doing pretty well with the emotions.  I went to visit a friend of mine this weekend and low and behold the emotions just flooded out of me.  I spent 12 years total caring for my…"
Feb 27
Snow replied to Mike's discussion Making new friends in the group Widowed in 2017
"I don't have any advice, Mike, sorry, I can only let you know for what it's worth that you're not alone in this. I also have no support group, no family to speak of and like you my husband was my best friend. I've become one of…"
Feb 27
NancyD replied to Snow's discussion Not like the Movies in the group Long-Term Illness
"Fromage, my husband also died after  14 months of stomach cancer. Would you be willing to connect with me to "chat" via message?  I sent you a friend request.  Thanks."
Feb 25
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Feb 24
Donna J. replied to Snow's discussion Not like the Movies in the group Long-Term Illness
"Probably the longest three days of your life.  Nothing prepares us and I would not expect the physical ache to go away after three days. It has been six months for me and I still burst into tears at the oddest moments. We are not in a movie and…"
Feb 11
Donna J. replied to Snow's discussion Unexpected Emotions in the group Long-Term Illness
"My experience has been similar.  I think that admitting a death close to them makes people think of their own mortality.  It's not so much that they are thoughtless, they are fearful. I can almost visibly see married women pull away…"
Feb 11
adoption1964 (Kim) replied to Snow's discussion Unexpected Emotions in the group Long-Term Illness
"Snow - everything you are feeling is quite normal.  You are not crazy.  I went through the same thing.  My own family didn't even come around with the exception of my nephew who is 5 years younger.  People were there when he…"
Feb 8
Beansy replied to Snow's discussion Unexpected Emotions in the group Long-Term Illness
"Hi. It is true to go with the flow mostly. But I had a different grieving time. I spent so long denying Norm had died, because he had benn sick for too long. He was too young. For me the grieving started when he got the diagnosis. After he died, I…"
Feb 8
Kathy replied to Snow's discussion Unexpected Emotions in the group Long-Term Illness
"Is it normal?  I say yes, everything feels a bit odd, and that’s normal. Emotions go every direction.  As for other people, I believe they mostly don’t know how to react, what to say to us.  They don’t want to say…"
Feb 8
Snow replied to Snow's discussion Unexpected Emotions in the group Long-Term Illness
"Thanks Beansy. This site has been a lifeline. Yesterday someone dropped some documents off for me and asked me "was I feeling better now"? Like my cat had run away or something. I just stood there with my mouth open. I couldn't…"
Feb 7
Beansy replied to Snow's discussion Unexpected Emotions in the group Long-Term Illness
"Because many people are either stupid or unaware or uncaring, while someof us are  the opposite, you will find this from many. It is hard to take when you expect the opposite. But most people are afraid of death, and try to deny it happens.…"
Feb 7
Snow added a discussion to the group Long-Term Illness
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Unexpected Emotions

I had braced myself for the grief of loss, unbearable loneliness, some other things too awful to write about, but I'm also starting to feel quite hurt and let down by some people. Is this normal? There was a girl at work who lost her grandfather last fall, I spent hours comforting her, letting her sit in my office and shut the door so she could have some privacy when she needed a cry, helping her with paperwork. It's been 5 days and she hasn't even sent me an email saying sorry for my loss.…See More
Feb 7

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At 10:07pm on February 4, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Snow. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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