"3 days! You astound me. You are a warrior. I don’t think I could even string words together at the 3 day Mark. My advice from the one year and 8 day mark: Let the tears flow. I also had a long long time to prepare—and when my sweet…"
"I too thought I was prepared for grief after my husband was diagnosed with an aggressive brain cancer. He got a prognosis of 15 months and got 4 years. He died here in our house on the 20th of April. What that terrible disease to…"
"I have been silent for a long time on this site due to large amounts of my grief and crying. My husband lasted 4 years after beening diagnosed with Lewy body dementia with Parkinson’s. I lost him in pieces and when he died I lost all of him…"
"My husband passed after 7 years with dementia. To see this once brilliant mind going from what it once was to,peeing in wastebaskets because he did not know where the toilet was beyond devastating. I grieved before he passed especially…"
"Agree, diring the time Norm was sick and when he died was 10 years. Wr knew it was incurable, and I did grieve during that time. He really took care of himself, but he stopped working, our lives were forever changed, and we knew it. So when he…"
"My husband passed almost 3 years ago and I thought I was doing pretty well with the emotions. I went to visit a friend of mine this weekend and low and behold the emotions just flooded out of me. I spent 12 years total caring for my…"
"I don't have any advice, Mike, sorry, I can only let you know for what it's worth that you're not alone in this. I also have no support group, no family to speak of and like you my husband was my best friend. I've become one of…"
"Probably the longest three days of your life. Nothing prepares us and I would not expect the physical ache to go away after three days. It has been six months for me and I still burst into tears at the oddest moments. We are not in a movie and…"
"My experience has been similar. I think that admitting a death close to them makes people think of their own mortality. It's not so much that they are thoughtless, they are fearful. I can almost visibly see married women pull away…"
"Snow - everything you are feeling is quite normal. You are not crazy. I went through the same thing. My own family didn't even come around with the exception of my nephew who is 5 years younger. People were there when he…"
"Hi. It is true to go with the flow mostly. But I had a different grieving time. I spent so long denying Norm had died, because he had benn sick for too long. He was too young. For me the grieving started when he got the diagnosis. After he died, I…"
"Is it normal? I say yes, everything feels a bit odd, and that’s normal. Emotions go every direction. As for other people, I believe they mostly don’t know how to react, what to say to us. They don’t want to say…"
"Thanks Beansy. This site has been a lifeline. Yesterday someone dropped some documents off for me and asked me "was I feeling better now"? Like my cat had run away or something. I just stood there with my mouth open. I couldn't…"
"Because many people are either stupid or unaware or uncaring, while someof us are the opposite, you will find this from many. It is hard to take when you expect the opposite. But most people are afraid of death, and try to deny it happens.…"
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