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SoundOfSilence
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  • Minneapolis, MN
  • United States
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ShirleyB left a comment for SoundOfSilence
"Hi there.  I'm also in the Twin Cities.  Let me know if you ever want to chat. I lost my husband about 7.5 months ago.  I feel like the whole thing is getting harder."
Jan 8
betweenwaves replied to SoundOfSilence's discussion It's Getting Real or Is It in the group Widowed in 2017
"It's coming up on 6 months for me. I wake everyday thinking this will be the day I do something productive, something leading toward the future and everyday turns into getting only the basics done. I need to go to the grocery store today and…"
Dec 31, 2017
SoundOfSilence commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"I had a dream today of my husband Dan, it is the first real dream of him I have had (that I can remember and was not a nightmare). He woke up and we kissed like crazy, I told him "they said you were not going to wake…"
Dec 28, 2017
NancyD replied to SoundOfSilence's discussion It's Getting Real or Is It in the group Widowed in 2017
"Carmen13: I think you are so right when you said " I am changed forever and its a long slow process finding out who I am again".  I feel very confused about who I am in the world.  I certainly never wanted to be without my…"
Dec 27, 2017
Carmen513 replied to SoundOfSilence's discussion It's Getting Real or Is It in the group Widowed in 2017
"No ,no never opologise for talking,sharing your life with in effect strangers. How bizarre  to think we met ( in word) , through grief. I am sure we all have many other things in common as well, but death has to be the greatest leveler of…"
Dec 27, 2017
SoundOfSilence replied to SoundOfSilence's discussion It's Getting Real or Is It in the group Widowed in 2017
"Hello Carmen513, Thank you for your kind words. Oh how I wish you had the magical answers but I know none of us do, we can only support each other the best we can. Dan and I got engaged two years ago on Christmas eve at his sisters house. Lucky for…"
Dec 26, 2017
Carmen513 replied to SoundOfSilence's discussion It's Getting Real or Is It in the group Widowed in 2017
"Hi sound of silence, I am not sure if you will read this , but I just read your post and felt your sadness and grief. I am so sorry for the loss of your dear husband Dan. It has almost been 6 months for me ,but if it were not for the calendar my…"
Dec 26, 2017
Sosammy replied to SoundOfSilence's discussion It's Getting Real or Is It in the group Widowed in 2017
"I am so sorry you have to walk this path too. It has been 1 month for me also and there are times it doesn't seem real. The first few weeks there were so many decisions to make and things to do I wouldn't let myself think. I ran from the…"
Nov 23, 2017
SoundOfSilence commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"I woke up today, looked into the mirror and said honey I am going to have a good day, immediately I burst into tears. I so wished I was actually saying this to my husband and he would tell me oh yes honey it is going to be a good day. Well I have…"
Nov 2, 2017
SoundOfSilence commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"I have had so many of these issues and I have now found that I just have to ask for managers at all times, not that it is a sure thing you will get someone good but after the last few weeks of literally getting bounced around on everything I have…"
Oct 31, 2017
InsideLove replied to SoundOfSilence's discussion It's Getting Real or Is It in the group Widowed in 2017
"SoundsOfSilence, in the only book I've read (It's OK Not To Be Okay, by Megan Devine) I found an answer, or explanation, to why our minds eat themselves - going round and round and round in our heads about the immediate before, after and…"
Oct 27, 2017
SoundOfSilence replied to SoundOfSilence's discussion It's Getting Real or Is It in the group Widowed in 2017
"Thank you NancyD and InsideLove. It is very helpful for me to hear your experiences on going through this. I feel like my mind is on repeat and I cannot get over how Dan died, flying to California Sunday and when I left us talking about how this was…"
Oct 27, 2017
SoundOfSilence replied to Jill's discussion How old were you when your spouse died? How does your age affect your self-concept now that you're on your own?
"I just lost my husband Dan 4 weeks ago. I am 34 and he was 50, we were together for 5 and a half years and only married for a year and a half. We had no children together but he had 2 adult children from his previous marriage that I love. He was my…"
Oct 27, 2017
InsideLove replied to SoundOfSilence's discussion It's Getting Real or Is It in the group Widowed in 2017
"{{{Hugs}}} for you SOundsofSilence. I can’t answer your question about - when will it really sink in Dan is gone? My husband Marty, of 47 years, died unexpectedly and suddenly after a routine hip surgery on Aug 28th. Every morning and night…"
Oct 27, 2017
NancyD replied to SoundOfSilence's discussion It's Getting Real or Is It in the group Widowed in 2017
"I am so sorry for your loss and sorry that you get to be part of this group.  My husband has been gone for 6 weeks now and I feel all of those feelings you so well describe here.  Coming to accept the reality is just a long painful…"
Oct 27, 2017
SoundOfSilence added a discussion to the group Widowed in 2017
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It's Getting Real or Is It

Today will be 4 weeks that my sweet husband Dan has been gone. I feel like it is getting more real at times but then I think oh no this really didn't happen, it was so sudden and unexpected that I cannot even really believe it. I still cannot get over that we were supposed to have more time and how unprepared for this I am, I guess one would never be prepared for this.  I just keep wondering when will it really sink in that he is really gone? He is the love of my life and coming to the reality…See More
Oct 27, 2017

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At 6:23pm on January 8, 2018, ShirleyB said…

Hi there.  I'm also in the Twin Cities.  Let me know if you ever want to chat. I lost my husband about 7.5 months ago.  I feel like the whole thing is getting harder.

At 9:05am on October 26, 2017, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, SoundOfSilence. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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