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i am kind of a part of this group. Some of us came from 2012 to help get it going when there were just one or two. I am reading your post, Natalie, and do want to see this YouTube. I feel Jud is very much part of me. He is my…"
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Do you ever get annoyed at the price of funerals?
Started this discussion. Last reply by michelelena Feb 12. 28 Replies 0 Likes
Jud and I chose cremation, partly because it was a quicker method of "dust to dust, ashes to ashes" but also because of the price of burial. I still found out the the cost of death in this country is…Continue
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Suz commented on Lori's blog post The unraveling of a life...
"This is so beautiful, Lori. It makes me cry. I know you will always feel your love and caring for him, as well as the love and caring in this new marriage to Ron!
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Suz commented on janet's blog post MIA - - INSTRUCTIONS
"Thanks, Janet. Sometimes "life" or life before a big crisis like widowhood does seem like it runs smoothly. Widowhood is actually just a part of is that one or the other of a couple will eventually reach. None of it has instructions, I am…"
Suz commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"Frank,
Your post was so touching and so beautifully written. It gives me hope to hear of your hope! It is amazing what some good groups, both on and off the web will do, isn't it? I have been in a group for people with fibromyalgia and when Jud…"
Suz replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Do you have any favorite poems or quotes that have helped you?
"I had some particularly bad news in the last few days. I learned that my goddaughter's three-month-old baby has brain cancer. One of her friends posted this on her Caring Bridge. There is something about it that reminded me, in its gentle way,…"
Suz commented on Lisa (lost) Lamb's blog post Loss of a friend
"(((Lisa))), and I am losing my goddaughter's first child to brain cancer right now. She is three weeks old :-(
This is so lovely. It must have been a wonderful friendship.
Big hugs, sweetie."
Suz commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"Diane, thanks for mentioning it. I have had a very good relationship with them for all of these years so this is pretty odd. I know there is nothing I can do. My mil is just about as bad and it is also with money. I am going to have to take a chunk…"
Suz commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2013
"Angela,
I so understand. I probably fell asleep and got up at the same time you did. I could sleep a few more hours but now I am awake. it is so hard to stick to a schedule at this point and to get things done in the house so know that you are not…"
Suz commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"Dusty,
Sorry about the treatment from you mil. What a gut punch! I know how those things just wipe you out and you just can't believe that would actually happen. You were strong to go. In Laws are so surprising after this. My fil has done the…"
Suz commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"Nice, Mrs. D. i got flowers from my daughter and a homemade Mexican dinner. last night, I had my very first dream I have had about jud that I could remember in the morning. I was happy thinking of it all day. Thanks, Jocy, for the wishes for peace…"
Suz commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2013
"Shelleyb, Jud and I were married thirty seven and a half years, too and knew each other for three more. That's a lot of time together and of course you are grieving him. I lost Jud in 2012 but joined this board, too, because there were so few…"
Suz commented on chez2all's blog post What's NORMAL anyway?
"Ah, Chez. Just beautiful. You have made it and are getting stronger and stronger. I have always seen you as very sane. Just so happy for you that life is getting better. I am a remedial student, too, you know.
((hugs))
Suzer"
Suz replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Stop by this Forum when you need a positive 'pick me up'
"Did I tell you I loved this? I listened all the way through even!!!
I love the idea of "open-door gospel.""
Suz commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"Wow, Jocy,
You had First Corinthians at your wedding, too!!! It's an amazing verse!
Hugs,
Suz"
Suz commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"Beautiful, Dianne. A treasure to me, too. It was read at our wedding, too.
(((hugs)))
Suz"
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- At 8:17am on May 11, 2013,
Patience (Diane) said… Suz, thank you so much for your comment on my pictures. It's good to be your friend :)
Diane
- At 12:39am on May 7, 2013,
Maria Louisa said… Hi Suz - thank you for your kind words about my photo with my husband when we received our "30 years of spiritual parenting " award...
- At 8:07pm on May 4, 2013,
goingon said… - Hi, Suz! Thank you for you thoughts! I'd welcome getting to know you better, too. Someday I do want to get another dog. ,having to give up my Bella (she was a huskie mix; so sweet an soooo smart -she could have been trained as a great service dog for my mom) I think was traumatic. I really felt like I'd found "my dog". I'm angry with myself that I allowed my brother to intimidate me into giving her up. when I get past this, I would love to get another dog. They give you so much unconditional love and are such great companions. Thank you for your comments.
- At 10:49am on April 24, 2013,
connie-uw said… Thanks, Suz. :)
- At 1:58am on March 22, 2013,
onmyown said… I read your post to Lilly. My husband used to also call before he left work and ask if I needed anything. Such a great memory to share. Thank you!! Hope you are doing well.
Jen
- At 1:55pm on March 16, 2013,
saudade said… Hi Suz~ thanks for the FR! I am still learning to navigate the site, but already finding some comments to be very supportive and helpful. So sorry we both find ourselves in need of being here, but thankful to have found a safe place to fall. best, Lisa
- At 7:12pm on March 15, 2013,
BeachGirl said… - Thanks for the friend request, Suz. I also appreciate your encouraging words. I am so sorry for your loss. This is such a helpful website, hopefully it will give you some strength and guidance. Be well.
- At 8:15pm on March 1, 2013,
Roxanne said… Thanks for the friend request, Suz - sorry that we have what we do, in common. Dale was diagnosed last May 8 and gone on August 18 - too quickly. A little tough - going through all the "firsts" through the major holiday season. It still feels a little surreal. I'm thankful for good friends, coworkers and family who have been so helpful in this journey, but there are so many things that they will never totally understand.
- At 4:01pm on February 28, 2013,
Diane said… I know about the 'we' , I find myself stumbling when I speak of my past with Oscar. We did so much together and spent so much time together, I traveled with him, sometimes, we had semis. I just try to think about him in Heaven with the Lord and no more pain, he didn't complain, and barely took pain meds, he was so aware of his situation, but he really didn't talk about it much, still have many questions, but have to wait until I get to Heaven, by then I'm sure it won't matter. I was really suicidal and wondered why The Lord left me down here on earth, but I take it day by day, trial by trial and try to remember to keep my eyes on The Lord. There are so many triggers that start me crying, I never sobbed so deeply after he was gone, still do once in a while, just the thought that I can never talk to him or hug him again is so sad. But we had a love and I will always cherish that. I listen to Joyce Meyer and she had a good sermon about, "Stop Asking Why" seems those things pop up just in time, as did this website. Still cry when I'm writing here, probably always will, but it is nice to know ya'll understand, those who are not widows do not get it. Thanks
Di
- At 10:59am on February 20, 2013,
Maggie said… Hi, Suz. Thank you for accepting my friend request. Hope you have a blessed day!
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Think of Me
Posted on March 13, 2013 at 1:04am 11 Comments 1 Like
Please think of me tomorrow. I am reading a poem in front of all the medical staff Grand Rounds at Jud's hospital. It will be the first time I have been in the hospital since Jud died. I also remember when Jud did a beautiful rounds there with his doctor called, "The Doctor as Patient." I hope I can get through without crying and do a decent job to honor Jud. I am scared. I also hope I can sleep and my teeth don't hurt tomorrow!
The poem I will read is called, "The Summer Day" by Mary…
Continue Tomorrow...
Posted on February 23, 2013 at 11:29pm 23 Comments 2 Likes
Tomorrow is the first anniversary of Jud's death. It doesn't seem possible that a whole year had gone by. It has been the hardest year of my life. I have shed a lot of tears and felt like I have carried a huge lump of sadness in my chest on many days. I also feel that I have been so fortunate to have such a loving group of friends, daughter and son-in-law to be. Tomorrow night, one of our friends is having a little gathering to eat together and remember Jud. I spent the day finishing my…
Continue A Thoughtful Passing...
Posted on December 14, 2012 at 10:04pm 13 Comments 1 Like
I found this in a file on my computer today, placed there by Jud. It was dated two months before he died. It gave me some insight into what he must be thinking. At this point in time, he had been through four clinical trials and the cancer had spread. He had just come home, knowing he was dying.
It may be that when we no longer know what to do
we have come to our real work,
and that when we no longer know which way to go
we have come to our…
A Poem That Fit...
Posted on October 16, 2012 at 1:25pm 9 Comments 3 Likes
I was going through a group of poems that I have kept and this seemed to fit what we do for each other and ourselves here on the board...
HOPE
Our mission is to plant ourselves at the gates of Hope—
not the prudent gates of Optimism,
which are somewhat narrower;
not the stalwart, boring gates of Common Sense;
nor the strident gates of Self-Righteousness,
which creak on shrill and angry hinges
(people cannot hear us there;
they…
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