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Suz replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Lori, Welcome to our group. I just realized that I have now been here a year. I found the group two months after my husband died of pancreatic cancer. I hope you will continue to come back until you find a place for yourself here. There is so much…"
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MFARM commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Born in the 40s or earlier
"Hatshepsut, so sorry after 3 years those feelings are still so hard.  I'm at 11 months. I feel like I'm going through the motions, busy ones with friends, children, lots of work, and some travel; and yet I always return in my mind to…"
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RainSong commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2013
"Potter, my husband had bladder cancer that he fought just short of three years. You know at the beginning that the diagnosis is not good, even though he thought he could beat it. And I believed for awhile too.  And even though you know it is…"
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Letha commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2011
"Thanks Cristina and Booh. I am seriously considering going to the monthly potluck they have at the hospice where my Mother passed away. (She was only there a week.) It's for anyone that has lost a loved one..they have a talk and share a meal.…"
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Tin_Woodman commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2010
"These lyrics came from a song by the Air Force Band "One Last Ride," recorded about 30 years ago: All my memories from those days Come gather 'round me What I'd give If they could take me back in time. It seems like almost…"
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Potter commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2013
"All of us have sad tales thats for sure.  I knew my day would come when my husband got the diagnosis 7 years ago, but he did so well for so long that we were just hoping it would continue.  You can't prepare yourself for it. When my…"
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justme commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2013
"Been rainy here for almost a week, it definitly doesnot help my moods.  My husband tried to get me to make plans for after he was gone, now here I am and I still can't seem to think clear enough to get myself motivated to think beyond the…"
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Started this discussion. Last reply by carolynne Apr 24. 17 Replies

Hi friends,Many of you have been asking for a little more support in using the site. Our volunteers will stop by this discussion and answer your questions.Don't forget these other ways to get help…Continue

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October Triggers: "Pinktober," cancers, and other signs of fall...

Started this discussion. Last reply by stonetemplepilots Nov 11, 2012. 3 Replies

What are you feeling today? Is the fall foliage (if you live in an area where trees color!) and back to school stuff and pumpkin-flavored everything stir in you happy memories or sad ones?The Breast…Continue

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Parenting: "Letting Children Share in Grief," New York Times

Started this discussion. Last reply by Tone alone Nov 22, 2012. 2 Replies

Hi folks, thought I would post this article with a great summary of the basic information about grieving children. Interested to hear what you all think. This is also a terrific resource for you to…Continue

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Summer: your feelings, memories, and expectations

Started this discussion. Last reply by Su Oct 18, 2012. 35 Replies

Are you planning a vacation -- or does that seem too overwhelming this year?Share your memories of summers past, or thoughts about new traditions you might start... or perhaps just the dread of…Continue

Tags: vacations, memorials, Memorial Day, July 4th, August

Camp Widow WEST Coast 2012 -- Q&A by Soaring Spirits Board members

Started Apr 9, 2012 0 Replies

Questions about Camp Widow West Coast? Camp Widow West will be held August 10-12 in San Diego, CA. Scores of Widowed Village members have attended and can share information about the event, and those…Continue

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Was your relationship less than perfect?

Started this discussion. Last reply by scottswife on Thursday. 99 Replies

Do you sometimes feel like most people here had perfect relationships, and you didn't? Do you think sometimes grieving people put their late loved ones on pedestals or "forget" the hard times? Maybe…Continue

Tags: counseling, marital issues, imperfect

Camp Widow 2012 Q&A

Started this discussion. Last reply by SheriAnne Aug 6, 2012. 34 Replies

Questions about Camp Widow? Michele Neff Hernandez and her terrific supporting board members will stop by periodically to answer your questions and share ideas. Folks who have attended in earlier…Continue

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Open Thread: February, Valentine's Day, winter weather...

Started this discussion. Last reply by kimkirt (KK) Feb 17, 2012. 14 Replies

Please reply below in this discussion area to share your experiences, then and now, that are "called" by this time of year, which will be open all month (or until I start the next "seasonal" sharing…Continue

Tags: February, seasons, seasonal, holidays, valentine

Article: Loss of a parent and depression in children

Started this discussion. Last reply by Supa Dupa Fresh Jan 6, 2012. 1 Reply

This is a concise article about a topic that is very hard to read for those of us whose kids were young when our partner died.…Continue

Tags: science, depression, parenting

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Awkward: A conversation in year 6 of widowhood

Posted on March 13, 2013 at 5:16pm 4 Comments

First grade assignment. (She's a much better writer…
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Pet Peeve: Boundaries

Posted on February 13, 2013 at 11:00am 33 Comments

I'm participating in the Widowed Blog Hop this month. Be sure to check out the other participants and leave them some comment love. For the largest list of blogs by Widowed folks, check my blog roll here. To add yours to the list,…

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Kevin's salad (recipe)

Posted on February 13, 2013 at 10:30am 1 Comment

I'm participating in the Widowed Blog Hop this month. Be sure to check out the other participants and leave them some comment love. For the largest list of blogs by Widowed folks, check my blog roll here. To add yours to the list,…

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Say his name: the #1 tip, and my reality

Posted on February 13, 2013 at 10:30am 3 Comments





A long time ago, I wrote this post in draft. It didn't get very far.



But the topic is MY NUMBER ONE TIP for how to help a widowed person: SAY THEIR NAME. And it's also why I HATE that everyone ELSE thinks the number one…

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At 6:37am on May 24, 2013, pawprintmama said…
I am so grateful for all the resources available to help me with my grief. my Scott has only been gone 9 weeks and I feel like I'm still in denial! I can't believe I will never get to touch him or talk to him or see him smile or look into his beautiful eyes again. Its such an all consuming sadness! There are days I don't see how it's possible to go on without him, but we have a little boy (4years old) so I have to find a way.
At 10:25pm on April 21, 2013, Tin_Woodman said…

Hi there,

Thanks for the "friending." I am not on Face Book, so am a bit slow with social media, but will no  doubt find my way around here. I lost my Kathi in August of 2010, and while the searing pain is no longer present, a constant pall of sadness remains.  Treh CancerCare board was a life saver, but it times out after two years.  Glad this board is here.

best,

Mike L.

 

 

At 11:50pm on April 17, 2013, Sue said…

Hi Supa...thanks for friending and for this site. Will not be making it to camp. So disappointed but hope you all have a great time.

At 9:31pm on March 16, 2013, Profe D (Susan) said…

Supa.....someone said that you had STFU cards to print out!!!  Where where where!?!?!  I need them!  :)

At 5:42am on March 1, 2013, Jpswife(Cathy) said…
Thankyou for ALL the encouragement you give ;). Cathy
At 5:41am on March 1, 2013, Jpswife(Cathy) said…
Thankyou for ALL the encouragement you give ;). Cathy
At 6:32pm on February 26, 2013, LostCactus (WoodyC) said…

 Hi  Supa, thanks for the friend request. I'm at the crossroads of life searching for peace and harmony once again. I've been wondering and searching for a place to meet others that know and live with the heart aches and pains of losing a spouse. I look forward to talking with you in the chat area someday. Take Care! Keep Smiling

Woody

At 6:05pm on February 19, 2013, LarryB said…

Hi all.  I'm new too.  Wife passed 1-22 after 17 years of illness and a wonderful 46 year marriage.

 

I serve as the president of The Well Spouse Association, an international support organization for the spouses and partners of the chtronically ill or injured.  33% of our members are former well spouse, having already lost their spouse.  Of the 14 members of my local support group 8 are now widowed.

 

One of my previous members, Sherbear, told me about this group and I decided to check it out.

 

So thanks for beuing here and I hope to spend some time with you.

 

Right now I am afraid I  must return to the endless paperwork necessitated by my change in status to a widower. 

 

See you soon

 

Larry

 

At 5:23pm on February 19, 2013, Angel1 said…

   I have reading alot of the things that are said on the chat,alot of times I just sit back and watch.It really sad to hear every thing that other ones are going through,every body has there own stories and what they have gone through and still what they are going through.Every body is hurting in there own way.All of us will take one day at a time and that is the only way all of will learn how to deal with what we have to face every day.I am really glad that I have met all the different people just sad how I had to meet all of you.

At 1:55pm on February 12, 2013, Angel1 said…

My husband passed away December 11 2010 from Melanoma cancer,He got it in 2006 he went through and exstensive surgery he beat it,then then in 2009 it came back had another surgery but they did not get it all and passed in 2010 ,we had been married since 1969,he was 16 and I was 17,he was my only love I miss him so much    Angel 1 my name is Diane

 
 
 

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