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MyNewLife replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Oh I totally agree that she has made my husband's (and everyone else's) death about her. She's the kind of person that takes people's pain and sorrow on herself. Not a healthy way to live, but she says she is who she is and she…"
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AD1970 replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"thank you no doubt you have seen or may have read i lost my wife back in February of this year it was sudden too,being on this site has been such a relief as well knowing that we are all in similar situations best wishes Andrew"
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shelleyb57 commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Long-term illness
"Our local cancer center has no support groups for caregivers. I find that so strange. Or is it that we are too busy to attend them?"
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Nutmegsmama commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"Sending out my first comment in this group.  I will be at the six month mark on July 7.   For it was then (January 7) that I said goodbye to my husband as he took our two youngest to school.  Only to receive a phone call…"
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KayCeeMom commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Suddenly widowed
"Hi Tanzwife.  I agree, I think we make things worse for ourselves by adding significance to dates.  I think that's why so many of us find the second year harder than we expected.  We've done the "firsts" and…"
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Travieso commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2012
"Hello. I'm a military widower, my wife died from her service in Iraq. When she first enlisted, she enlisted in the WACs, she served in Iraq in 2008, and it took another 4 years for her to die, but for the first two of those four years, they…"
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Supa Dupa Fresh's Discussions

Video: TED Talk about Grief

Started this discussion. Last reply by Supa Dupa Fresh on Monday. 3 Replies

I thought this TED talk by Geoffrey Warburton was an interesting "take" on getting through grief. Although I don't agree with every single point he makes, I like his perspective and his personal…Continue

Tags: grief, videos

Need help using the site? Ask here!

Started this discussion. Last reply by AKwidow2013 yesterday. 21 Replies

Hi friends,Many of you have been asking for a little more support in using the site. Our volunteers will stop by this discussion and answer your questions.Don't forget these other ways to get help…Continue

Tags: help, technical, technical support,, help desk,

October Triggers: "Pinktober," cancers, and other signs of fall...

Started this discussion. Last reply by stonetemplepilots Nov 11, 2012. 3 Replies

What are you feeling today? Is the fall foliage (if you live in an area where trees color!) and back to school stuff and pumpkin-flavored everything stir in you happy memories or sad ones?The Breast…Continue

Tags: triggers, autumn, fall, October, seasons

Parenting: "Letting Children Share in Grief," New York Times

Started this discussion. Last reply by Tone alone Nov 22, 2012. 2 Replies

Hi folks, thought I would post this article with a great summary of the basic information about grieving children. Interested to hear what you all think. This is also a terrific resource for you to…Continue

Tags: kids, children's grief,, parenting

Bucket lists: do you have one? Has it changed?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Brandywine Gal Jun 9. 48 Replies

The movie "Bucket List" came out AFTER…Continue

Tags: retirement, plans, financial, personal finance, travel

Summer: your feelings, memories, and expectations

Started this discussion. Last reply by Su Oct 18, 2012. 35 Replies

Are you planning a vacation -- or does that seem too overwhelming this year?Share your memories of summers past, or thoughts about new traditions you might start... or perhaps just the dread of…Continue

Tags: vacations, memorials, Memorial Day, July 4th, August

Camp Widow WEST Coast 2012 -- Q&A by Soaring Spirits Board members

Started Apr 9, 2012 0 Replies

Questions about Camp Widow West Coast? Camp Widow West will be held August 10-12 in San Diego, CA. Scores of Widowed Village members have attended and can share information about the event, and those…Continue

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Was your relationship less than perfect?

Started this discussion. Last reply by greta Jun 1. 102 Replies

Do you sometimes feel like most people here had perfect relationships, and you didn't? Do you think sometimes grieving people put their late loved ones on pedestals or "forget" the hard times? Maybe…Continue

Tags: counseling, marital issues, imperfect

Camp Widow 2012 Q&A

Started this discussion. Last reply by SheriAnne Aug 6, 2012. 34 Replies

Questions about Camp Widow? Michele Neff Hernandez and her terrific supporting board members will stop by periodically to answer your questions and share ideas. Folks who have attended in earlier…Continue

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Open Thread: February, Valentine's Day, winter weather...

Started this discussion. Last reply by kimkirt (KK) Feb 17, 2012. 14 Replies

Please reply below in this discussion area to share your experiences, then and now, that are "called" by this time of year, which will be open all month (or until I start the next "seasonal" sharing…Continue

Tags: February, seasons, seasonal, holidays, valentine

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Awkward: A conversation in year 6 of widowhood

Posted on March 13, 2013 at 5:16pm 4 Comments

First grade assignment. (She's a much better writer…
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Pet Peeve: Boundaries

Posted on February 13, 2013 at 11:00am 33 Comments

I'm participating in the Widowed Blog Hop this month. Be sure to check out the other participants and leave them some comment love. For the largest list of blogs by Widowed folks, check my blog roll here. To add yours to the list,…

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Kevin's salad (recipe)

Posted on February 13, 2013 at 10:30am 1 Comment

I'm participating in the Widowed Blog Hop this month. Be sure to check out the other participants and leave them some comment love. For the largest list of blogs by Widowed folks, check my blog roll here. To add yours to the list,…

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Say his name: the #1 tip, and my reality

Posted on February 13, 2013 at 10:30am 3 Comments





A long time ago, I wrote this post in draft. It didn't get very far.



But the topic is MY NUMBER ONE TIP for how to help a widowed person: SAY THEIR NAME. And it's also why I HATE that everyone ELSE thinks the number one…

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At 4:21pm on May 29, 2013, missincin (Dan) said…

Thanks Supa Dupa: I feel as I've seen by the top. LOL. Thank you for this site and all it brings it has helped me alot. I hope in time I will be able to help others more.

At 10:50pm on May 28, 2013, zztech said…

Sorry I just saw your friend request. I have not been on here in a while. I realized just now what I was missing. My sister passed away on Christmas Eve 2012. I have not been able to come to terms with it. The year mark for my husband was Dec 15,2012. My sister's death was unexpected. I didn't even get to see her or say goodbye. So in the months since, I have just been acting like she was on a trip or something, I don't allow myself to "go there". It is just too much. I don't know where to go really. So here I am on this site. I am so greatful for you all here. I am always encouraged when I come on here. Thank you so much.

At 6:37am on May 24, 2013, pawprintmama said…
I am so grateful for all the resources available to help me with my grief. my Scott has only been gone 9 weeks and I feel like I'm still in denial! I can't believe I will never get to touch him or talk to him or see him smile or look into his beautiful eyes again. Its such an all consuming sadness! There are days I don't see how it's possible to go on without him, but we have a little boy (4years old) so I have to find a way.
At 10:25pm on April 21, 2013, Tin_Woodman said…

Hi there,

Thanks for the "friending." I am not on Face Book, so am a bit slow with social media, but will no  doubt find my way around here. I lost my Kathi in August of 2010, and while the searing pain is no longer present, a constant pall of sadness remains.  Treh CancerCare board was a life saver, but it times out after two years.  Glad this board is here.

best,

Mike L.

 

 

At 11:50pm on April 17, 2013, Sue said…

Hi Supa...thanks for friending and for this site. Will not be making it to camp. So disappointed but hope you all have a great time.

At 9:31pm on March 16, 2013, Profe D (Susan) said…

Supa.....someone said that you had STFU cards to print out!!!  Where where where!?!?!  I need them!  :)

At 5:42am on March 1, 2013, Jpswife said…
Thankyou for ALL the encouragement you give ;). Cathy
At 5:41am on March 1, 2013, Jpswife said…
Thankyou for ALL the encouragement you give ;). Cathy
At 6:32pm on February 26, 2013, LostCactus (WoodyC) said…

 Hi  Supa, thanks for the friend request. I'm at the crossroads of life searching for peace and harmony once again. I've been wondering and searching for a place to meet others that know and live with the heart aches and pains of losing a spouse. I look forward to talking with you in the chat area someday. Take Care! Keep Smiling

Woody

At 6:05pm on February 19, 2013, LarryB said…

Hi all.  I'm new too.  Wife passed 1-22 after 17 years of illness and a wonderful 46 year marriage.

 

I serve as the president of The Well Spouse Association, an international support organization for the spouses and partners of the chtronically ill or injured.  33% of our members are former well spouse, having already lost their spouse.  Of the 14 members of my local support group 8 are now widowed.

 

One of my previous members, Sherbear, told me about this group and I decided to check it out.

 

So thanks for beuing here and I hope to spend some time with you.

 

Right now I am afraid I  must return to the endless paperwork necessitated by my change in status to a widower. 

 

See you soon

 

Larry

 

 
 
 

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