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Surreal17
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adoption1964 replied to Surreal17's discussion How do you process your anger/disappointment at people who didn't "show up" for you and your spouse? in the group Long-Term Illness
"Surreal, I went through the same thing.  My husband passed away May 2, 2017 from Stage IV Kidney cancer.  I did and still experiencing all of the same feelings, actions from others as you are.  Words of advice, not sure there are any…"
Oct 30
LindaAnn replied to Surreal17's discussion How do you process your anger/disappointment at people who didn't "show up" for you and your spouse? in the group Long-Term Illness
"Hello all, This is my first time on WW and I really relate to your story Surreal17 and to the other responders. My husband had colon cancer that had metastasized to the liver. He had surgery, chemo and radiation. He also had Parkinson's Disease…"
Sep 21
Steve replied to Surreal17's discussion How do you process your anger/disappointment at people who didn't "show up" for you and your spouse? in the group Long-Term Illness
"Hi everyone. I have been on this journey of widowerhood, since March 09, after 31 yrs with my male partner. After some time into my journey, had the shock and awe of my entire true loss engulf me, Mike, friends, family, it took me quite awhile to…"
Sep 20
devonsvoice replied to Surreal17's discussion How do you process your anger/disappointment at people who didn't "show up" for you and your spouse? in the group Long-Term Illness
"I lost my husband seven months ago, and I can say that this is when you truly learn who your friends (and family) are, and who aren't. He and I were together for 28 years, married just shy of 26, and I have never once received so much as a…"
Sep 20
AndiW78 replied to Surreal17's discussion How do you process your anger/disappointment at people who didn't "show up" for you and your spouse? in the group Long-Term Illness
"I have not been on here in ages, but I saw this come through my email and feel that I have to respond.  Reading your entry was as if I was writing it.  My husband passed 4 1/2 years ago.  He was pretty much homebound the last ten…"
Sep 9
Don replied to Surreal17's discussion How do you process your anger/disappointment at people who didn't "show up" for you and your spouse? in the group Long-Term Illness
"Oh where oh where do I begin? Lets just say that Arlene was REALLY good so these people and REALLY extended herself for them. Not one person that was currently working at the job that she was working at showed up at her funeral and she always went…"
Sep 8
BelovedPeach replied to Surreal17's discussion How do you process your anger/disappointment at people who didn't "show up" for you and your spouse? in the group Long-Term Illness
"Hello Surreal17, I am sorry for your loss, like you, I lost my husband November 19, 2016. My husband died in my arms, while waiting on the liver transplant list. The doctors all told me that he was the next on the list and led me to believe that he…"
Sep 7
Steve replied to Surreal17's discussion How do you process your anger/disappointment at people who didn't "show up" for you and your spouse? in the group Long-Term Illness
"Hi Surreal, I mirror everyone else here in my thoughts, so sorry this has happened in your life, it's just a very painful, shocking, traumatic, devestating thing to go through. My heart goes out to you. Sadly from my experience of approx 7…"
Sep 7
goingon (Cynthia) replied to Surreal17's discussion How do you process your anger/disappointment at people who didn't "show up" for you and your spouse? in the group Long-Term Illness
"Surreal17 - I know what you are talking about as I'm sure do most of the people here.  I don't know why it is that people do this - maybe it's just too uncomfortable and they don't know what to do or say, never realizing…"
Sep 7
Gaining Strength replied to Surreal17's discussion How do you process your anger/disappointment at people who didn't "show up" for you and your spouse? in the group Long-Term Illness
"You are not alone. This has happened to me too.  Not exactly the same but very similar. I do not know if your situation created fear in them or if they feel that they may catch what you have or whatever.  Even in everyday life, people ask…"
Sep 7
Kathie replied to Surreal17's discussion How do you process your anger/disappointment at people who didn't "show up" for you and your spouse? in the group Long-Term Illness
"You have started a discussion that has bothered me for 8 years now. My husband passed away in November 2009 after a 5 1/2 year cancer battle. The last couple of years he was home most of the time and the last year pretty much confined to home…"
Sep 7
Phoenixrising replied to Surreal17's discussion How do you process your anger/disappointment at people who didn't "show up" for you and your spouse? in the group Long-Term Illness
"My Dear Surreal17, I am so very sorry for your loss. What you have shared here makes perfect sense. I also lost my husband to Pancreatic Cancer.  Your story sounds like a mirror image of my experience. It is a vicious, insidious disease, and I…"
Sep 7
Pat replied to Surreal17's discussion How do you process your anger/disappointment at people who didn't "show up" for you and your spouse? in the group Long-Term Illness
"Surreal17: I've not been on Widowedvillage in years, but your message came through my email just now.  Many here will understand your pain and have experienced similar anger.  It can be a blinding anger, can't it?  My…"
Sep 7
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How do you process your anger/disappointment at people who didn't "show up" for you and your spouse?

I have no idea if any of this will make sense, but my husband just passed away on August 10th after an 11 month battle with pancreatic cancer, and I guess I just need to "get it out".  We lived a seemingly ideal life, 3 kids (17, 10, 3), two good jobs, the house, the cars, and then WHAM, diagnosis of stage IV cancer, with optimistically only 1 year to live.  My husband was a private person and had moved to the states from UK as a young adult, so our social group was rather small, but all we…See More
Sep 7
Dianne in Nevada left a comment for Surreal17
"Welcome to Widville, Surreal17.  I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here. Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask…"
Sep 4

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At 11:50am on September 4, 2017, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, Surreal17.  I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.

Be sure to check out the HOME page for the latest news.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.

 
 
 

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