"I think Jerry is right. Your feelings are unique to you, and at 7 weeks and 4 weeks at losing your husbands, you both are still in shock, whether or not you know it. My husband had heart failure with about 6 months of knowing there were…"
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Susieg replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"I agree with lj that a professional is better qualified to dispense advice. Unfortunately, I see so many times widows who are so sad and lonely that they make decisions thinking that will help ease the gut wrenching pain you feel when your…"
Susieg replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Robin, at least 2 messages I typed are not showing up....do you know why?
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Susieg replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"That is a good analogy, Cristina. You are right. We all have in common deep, wrenching pain or we would not have sought out groups in which to belong and talk to other people sharing the same pain. Not all of our pain is the…"
Susieg replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"I was wondering where your voice of reason was, Robin. Thank you......."
Susieg replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Thank you laurajay. I totally agree with you. I could look at everyone on here and really not be able to tell you how their spouses died, even though I may have talked to them a number of times. This IS a place to vent, to…"
Susieg replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Shann, I understand what you were saying. Most of us on here do. Every death means something to someone, even the low life who shot himself in front of his kids. My husband was also a police officer, shot 5 times on duty in 1979…"
Susieg replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"You should not feel stupid or foolish. When you hurt so bad it is easy to fall into situations like that. You just look for anything to distract you. Guess I am lucky I have had no one really express an interest!!! You will be ok.…"
Susieg replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"I was told not to leap into anything before a year, relationships included. Yes, you are lonely, but also vulnerable and grasping at straws, if you had a marriage like I did. We truly loved each other. A friend of mine's…"
Susieg replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Well, Juls, I consider myself somewhat of a slow learner on this subject. Mike and I did not have a lot of friends where we live, most were in Phx, 2 hours away. Since going down there involved having my mom come watch the dogs, we…"
Susieg replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Don't force the dating issue. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do or feel ready to do. I was with my husband for 30 years, 20 married. It also was over half of my life. And people don't understand…"
Susieg commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2009
"Neen, I hope you get through the wedding with a minimal amount of pain. I know it will be hard for you. Have a few drinks and relax!!!! I hope you don't have to cook for 50 people!!!! Try and enjoy yourself. Let us…"
Susieg commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2009
"I don't think return to my old life is something I could do even if I tried. I just know that I "don't have the little extra something" I had either. I don't think there is any sparkle in my eye anymore, and with…"
Susieg commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2009
"Steve, glad to see the huge change in you. You sound much more alive and like you have a plan. I used to see people write these things and be so jealous!!! I still am, to a degree, as I am still not ready to get rid of a lot of…"
Susieg commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2009
"Thank you for saying that. Today at both grief groups I was able to talk about stuff without crying, also!!!! I know it's up and down, and this probably won't last long before another "bout" comes up, but for…"
Susieg commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2009
"I will be 4 years next Tues, April 30. I was talking to a cousin yesterday about signs and such and other things about my husband, and for the first time in 4 years I didn't cry through everything. That was like an "AHA"…"
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- At 2:46pm on September 29, 2012,
wannabmartha said… Happy Birthday to you, Happy Birthday to you, Happy Birthday dear Susie, Happy Birthday to youuuuuu!
- At 1:02pm on September 29, 2012,
VOLUNTEERSupa Dupa Fresh said… Happy birthday, lady! Hope you get some cake or something today! :-)
- At 3:14pm on December 20, 2011,
Kim C said…
Hi Sus
No I'm not on the site a lot either was just feeling blue & related to your past post. My email is karrasco@sbcglobal to avoid going through the Village just to send a message. How are you doing this week? I am really digging deep this week I'll tell you. I keep wondering when we are going to feel better. Don't you?
Kim
- At 8:50am on September 5, 2011,
azbarbara1961 said… Hi Susieg..I am in Prescott Valley, I saw that you were in Paulden. My husband was a Vietnam Vet, he had been "Collecting" problems from the Agent Orange they sprayed down on all those guys, anyway he was diaginosed with Pancratic Cancer on June 6, 2011 and he passed away July 20, 2011 from it. It was already stage 4 when they found it. He was in bed and wouldn't wake up for me that Saturday, went to ER at VA they put him in ICU for 2.5 days, went to hospice passed that wednesday. He just turned 64 on July 18th. I am sorry for your loss and I am sorry we have to meet like this. I am so lonely and I miss him so much!! Good days...bad days...days I just don't think I can do it without him. I am glad I found this site, it is very helpful because I think I'm losing my mind sometimes I come here and read that the things I am feeling and doing are normal and they will pass. I have a LONG way to go on this journey, I know I will make it, I am strong and realize it is just part of my journey. I have to just know that I WILL see him again.
HUGZZZ
- At 5:01pm on May 2, 2011,
Dawn- Clouds Mum said… Hi Susieg
Nice to hear from you and sorry being slow to get back to you. lol been a little on the busy side here
Keith passed away from multiple complications of old age and cancer. He had, had throat cancer 25 years prior to his passing. Then heart problems - several MI's and bypass surgery, (complications there that meant they thought he would die within a few weeks) There was also bladder cancer and prostate cancer (neither related to each other or the throat cancer). He also had several mini strokes, siezures, a problem with his oesophagus shrinking due to the radio therapy for the throat cancer. Last of all came the falls, they became a problem when they started to cause broken bones, which happened very quickly. The last major fall was 8 months before he died and he spent 2 months in hospital recovering. The Drs told me he would not get to his 80th birthday, that was 6 weeks after discharge. We got him that far and a bit further. In the November the bladder cancer started to spread again and he was too ill to have surgery for it. He decided that he did not want the chemo and the sickness with it, so decided that he was going to ride out the last run at home.
I took him home from hospital that time and he stayed home until the end. The official cause of death was heart failure, kidney failure and multiple other conditions as well.
Looking back I'm not sure how we managed that last 6 weeks - not sure how I managed caring for 25 years either - but we did get through it and he died on 20 December 2010 at home in the lounge room. The sun was on his face and it was our Wedding Anniversary too.
We were together 27 years and married for exactly 14 years. Hard as it is to know that when our Wedding Anniversary comes around later this year it will also be my first Sadiversary, I do think that over the sadness there will be joy. How much more loved could anyone feel when they watch that sort of heroic effort.
- At 11:09am on March 4, 2011,
T said… Suisieg, Thanks for the comment. Strange, but peaceful knowing someone else who is walking this same journey beginning on the same day. Lately I'm finding things really difficult again. Not sure if it just grief, winter, Dave's Birthday the end of the month, then leading to the second April 30th. (Probably all the above!)
- At 4:52pm on March 2, 2011, wannabmartha said…
- Thank you for your supportive comments. Sometimes it just feels good to share =)
- At 1:58pm on February 28, 2011, wannabmartha said…
My husband and oldest son died together in a plane crash January 2009. :-(
I've been participating in the "Double Loss" forum. It's a sad added dimension to my grief as a widow.
- At 12:34pm on January 19, 2011,
VOLUNTEERSupa Dupa Fresh said… - Susie, thanks for joining! It's very kind of you to be here while things are developing... please do let me know if you have questions. I think we're all still learning about the features and the best way to have conversations in this different space. Best to you!
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