"I have not been posting here often but I read everything. I am terribly grateful to be able to hear that others trudge through the holidays -- not that I wish this on anyone, but there is some comfort in company. My 11 year old, who is…"
"Suzi, I want to say, I know, I know and reach out and give you a hug. This is hell! Life sucks! At a year, I walked around as if I had open wounds and when I was with people, I felt like I sucked the life out of a room. And perhaps…"
"Suzi, Then you should come here and fall apart whenever you need to. My second year was pretty awful. It wasn't until the second anniversary of my husband's death that I started to see the light at the end of the tunnel.…"
I lost my husband of almost 30 years in July 2010. Complications after a very successful heart transplant. I tear up reading you "we were supposed to grow old together." I know. Use this board whenever you…"
"Babsy, your description is wonderful. I know what you are talking about. Home. Yes, I do want to go there. I have a lovely house that belongs to me, but it is not the home that it was. I try my best because I have a young…"
"Airboy, don't worry how you sound here. And, in fact, nothing that you wrote sounded very much like complaining. I know that I could have written much of it myself.
Joy is a problem. I am 25 months, almost 26,…"
"Just a simple Juxtaposition. Today would have been my 32 wedding anniversary. This morning, for the past hour and a half, I sat on the phone with AT&T who took over Yahoo who took over SBCGLOBAL, with whom I had my email account for a long, long…"
"Equador! Belize! How wonderful! I have dreams of long term travel and work in other places as well, but right now my little one has one more year of intensive therapy to take advantage of. We had also planned much more than we did…"
I had foot surgery last spring, just getting back to normal moving about. Not a serious surgery but one foot surgery takes forever to recover from. It was the first time since David died in 2010 that I had to rely on others…"
If you've gotten through one day, you have accomplished something! At three months, if you are getting out of bed occasionally, visiting this website, and locking you doors at night, you are doing great. At three…"
"More to comment about on the other side of 2 years out. I love what Susan wrote but I did not have one of those experiences during my second year. I know, we are all on very different journeys to become survivors. I hope, really…"
"Had the strangest feeling today. A picture of David, my husband, came into view and I did not feel the searing pain that I have had for the two years and 13 days. I was looking at someone who was gone. It is not hurt as much but…"
"This feeling of floundering, confusion, being lost is astounding. It can overtake me sometimes. Was just being married my old goal? Sometimes I feel like it must have been. I have been giving thought to re-creating myself…"
"Moving is such an topic!! My husband and I moved to Madison six years ago for his job. Madison is a lovely town but I have no roots here. They have a great school system and my 11 year old needs special ed. And I have a great…"
"Just past my two year anniversary last Thursday. I had an awful few weeks leading up to the day, but had a great release on the anniversary day. Somehow lighter. Not less lonely or less sad, but not as burdened. Feeling…"
I know we have talked a little back a forth but I just came across your note about looking at my husband and seeing what a lovely man he was and that it made you tear yo...I see now that I already answered it...DUH...but I guess that says something other than I have widda brain. It says that I am really grateful to have someone look at him in a picture and see that. He was just a lovely guy and i will miss him every day. Thanks, Suz!!!
Oh, thanks, Suz for the nice comments. my husband was a dear, dear man. He was a pediatrician whose practice was to work with handicapped children and some of the pictures are with Jud and the kids. my daughter is a mix of us both and my mil says she is an improvement...haha! I am actually a Susan but I was always called "Suz." There are two Freds and they both have goofy names! Maybe we should see if anyone if confusing us first...or put a letter out and ask!
Welcome Suz: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I know you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".
Welcome Suz to the one group I wish none of us had to join, but sense we didn't get a say so in any of this we have to do the best we can. We are all on this healing journey but none of our roads are the same. We loved and were loved so well that our loss will take time, understanding and comfort to start the healing process. We are all here to help each other through the toughest thing we will ever have to do in our lives. If you need a friend, to talk or just an ear to vent to we travel this road together. ((Hugs))
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I'm so very sorry for your loss, Suz, but glad you found us. There is caring support and friendship here. Join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. Those 'chirps' you hear when you're in Widowed Village mean people are talking in the Chat Room; stop in some time and join the conversations. I look forward to getting to know you here.