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Time Heals All Wounds?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Callie2 Oct 23. 10 Replies

I think this is my worst phrase or "saying"   It's totally untrue for me. I sincerely hope that it's true for most of you, it seems to be as I have been reading in here for over a year or longer. …Continue

 

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LostandSad replied to Tess's discussion Disappointment, Disillusion, and the Ultimate Source of Pain in the group Born in the 50s
"I have been praying, constantly... I keep waiting for something half way good to happen. But nothing :(   I know that God has a plan, and I'm supposed to be patient and wait...and and it'll come in his timing, if it comes at…"
Nov 12
LostandSad replied to Tess's discussion Disappointment, Disillusion, and the Ultimate Source of Pain in the group Born in the 50s
"Tess, I'm going through the same thing. My family is very small and my daughter lives out of town. My mom is 80 years old and lives in a one bedroom apartment. I have nobody to help me do anything whatsoever and even more sad, is I do not have…"
Nov 9
LostandSad replied to Lissa's discussion fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me in the group Born in the 50s
"Ignore and Block them. You don't have to answer any of them. "
Nov 6
Callie2 replied to LostandSad's discussion Time Heals All Wounds?
"J- you say it is a surprise, I just want to mention what happened to me. My husband was pronounced in the emergency room and I gave them all his insurance info. When someone passes, the insurance is terminated. The person that entered the info at…"
Oct 23
J in Florida replied to LostandSad's discussion Time Heals All Wounds?
"I got a nice little surprise in the mail today. SJ passed in March in the hospital, and the hospital just now got around to sending me the bill.  $66,000 after insurance. "Sorry for your loss, now give us all your money". Me:…"
Oct 23
Rainy (Misty) replied to LostandSad's discussion Time Heals All Wounds?
"Hello, lostandsad.  I'm so sorry you're having such a rough go of it.  First of all, please believe there is hope.  I can relate somewhat on the time healing thing...It's been only a little over 10 months for me. …"
Oct 23
J in Florida replied to LostandSad's discussion Time Heals All Wounds?
"Right on, Frank. I am experiencing very similar to what you described. Been 7 months, and sometimes I don't even know who I am. My goals, passions, directions, plans got derailed that one awful Friday night. I like what you said about about…"
Oct 20
sandi replied to LostandSad's discussion Time Heals All Wounds?
"I couldn't agree more. Going on 3 year and yet I feel no better at all. As for being normal, I don't even remember how that felt."
Oct 20
Rockon replied to LostandSad's discussion Time Heals All Wounds?
"Thank you for this Frank. I am 8.5 years out today. You have lifted my spirit and again given me Hope!  God Bless and Peace Be With You Debra "
Oct 18
Frank replied to LostandSad's discussion Time Heals All Wounds?
"I think that saying is designed to give us hope and support.  I lost my wife of 35 years suddenly. She went to sleep on a Sunday night 6 years ago and did not wake up on Monday morning.  She died of a silent heart attack. When she died I…"
Oct 17
Callie2 replied to LostandSad's discussion Time Heals All Wounds?
"Hi Lost. I think we can heal (and do) however it doesn’t mean we go back to where we were.  Life is definitely different and there are many changes we have to adapt to. Lots of challenges!   You still are grieving, at least it sounds…"
Oct 16
J in Florida replied to LostandSad's discussion Time Heals All Wounds?
"I get these kinds of comments as well. Losing our husband/wife in this manner will never truly heal as if it never happened or was no big deal. It is a HUGE deal, and leaves a scar that will never go away. It's been 7 months for me, and…"
Oct 15
LadyG replied to LostandSad's discussion Time Heals All Wounds?
"Dearest LostandSad, I'm with you. I truly despise the coloquialisms that we have been raised with in our society. As if "positive thinking" can take care of things. The western world is severely lacking in what other cultures or…"
Oct 14
LostandSad posted a discussion

Time Heals All Wounds?

I think this is my worst phrase or "saying"   It's totally untrue for me. I sincerely hope that it's true for most of you, it seems to be as I have been reading in here for over a year or longer.  It's been 3 years since the love of my life has been gone.... I actually feel worse month by month. I still cannot even believe he's gone, gone forever. If I didn't believe in heaven and that I will see him again, I would be even more tattered and devastated than I already am, if that's even possible.…See More
Oct 14
LostandSad replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Hi Cushty,  I read your post and I could have written all of those exact words. We were married almost 30 years and my husband, who was my best friend in the whole world and I were as close as you could possibly get. He took such good care of…"
Oct 14
LostandSad replied to Mike's discussion Dating in the group Born in the 50s
"Athena,  I'm glad your coffee meeting went relatively well.  That's so awesome..... now we'll see if it's meant to be....."
Aug 17

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At 4:59pm on August 5, 2018, MsWizard said…

Contact me. We will talk. 

At 3:19pm on May 2, 2016, one day said…

Lost and sad,

I am wondering if you have family near?   You said you may be losing your home that you and your husband built.  I am so sorry to hear that.  Could you possibly rent out a room?  Just trying to think of some options that may relieve some of your stress and give you comfort.

At 8:44pm on April 30, 2016, one day said…
Hello lost and sad,
I am so sorry that you are experiencing this and have lost the love of your life. I wish I could help with your pain and your sadness. I have no explanation or understanding of how to process this and to move forward. I am just over a month in and still have delusional thoughts that my dear husband will be walking through the door at any moment. This has been my worst nightmare.
Do you feel like you have made any progress in understanding what has happened and dealing with your pain?
I wish you peace.
At 7:13pm on April 30, 2016, judy said…

Hi SuziMarie,

Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.

 

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