I think this is my worst phrase or "saying" It's totally untrue for me. I sincerely hope that it's true for most of you, it seems to be as I have been reading in here for over a year or longer. …Continue
I understand exactly how you feel. I can’t even handle thinking about my husband for one minute. I hurry and brush him out of my mind as quickly as possible and try to think of something else. I don’t want to remember…"
"Ohh Miket, I am so sorry. Just so you don 't feel so alone, I want you to know I feel the same exact way that you do. It took me over a year before I could walk down the isle at the grocery store that has the ice cream in it. I had to…"
"Today is our Wedding Anniversary. My heart is so broken. Would be 32 years. He was my whole life. I am so empty, I don't even feel like a person. My hubby went to heaven exactly 2 weeks before Christmas/2 weeks after Thanksgiving. Now our…"
"Today is our Wedding Anniversary. My heart is so broken. My hubby went to heaven exactly 2 weeks before Christmas/2 weeks after Thanksgiving. Now our anniversary. This whole month is absolutely horrific. I feel like a zombie. I hate Christmas. I…"
"I have been praying, constantly... I keep waiting for something half way good to happen. But nothing :( I know that God has a plan, and I'm supposed to be patient and wait...and and it'll come in his timing, if it comes at…"
"Tess, I'm going through the same thing. My family is very small and my daughter lives out of town. My mom is 80 years old and lives in a one bedroom apartment. I have nobody to help me do anything whatsoever and even more sad, is I do not have…"
"J- you say it is a surprise, I just want to mention what happened to me. My husband was pronounced in the emergency room and I gave them all his insurance info. When someone passes, the insurance is terminated. The person that entered the info at…"
"I got a nice little surprise in the mail today. SJ passed in March in the hospital, and the hospital just now got around to sending me the bill. $66,000 after insurance. "Sorry for your loss, now give us all your money". Me:…"
"Hello, lostandsad. I'm so sorry you're having such a rough go of it. First of all, please believe there is hope. I can relate somewhat on the time healing thing...It's been only a little over 10 months for me. …"
"Right on, Frank. I am experiencing very similar to what you described. Been 7 months, and sometimes I don't even know who I am. My goals, passions, directions, plans got derailed that one awful Friday night. I like what you said about about…"
"I think that saying is designed to give us hope and support. I lost my wife of 35 years suddenly. She went to sleep on a Sunday night 6 years ago and did not wake up on Monday morning. She died of a silent heart attack.
When she died I…"
"Hi Lost. I think we can heal (and do) however it doesn’t mean we go back to where we were. Life is definitely different and there are many changes we have to adapt to. Lots of challenges!
You still are grieving, at least it sounds…"
"I get these kinds of comments as well. Losing our husband/wife in this manner will never truly heal as if it never happened or was no big deal. It is a HUGE deal, and leaves a scar that will never go away. It's been 7 months for me, and…"
I am wondering if you have family near? You said you may be losing your home that you and your husband built. I am so sorry to hear that. Could you possibly rent out a room? Just trying to think of some options that may relieve some of your stress and give you comfort.
Hello lost and sad,
I am so sorry that you are experiencing this and have lost the love of your life. I wish I could help with your pain and your sadness. I have no explanation or understanding of how to process this and to move forward. I am just over a month in and still have delusional thoughts that my dear husband will be walking through the door at any moment. This has been my worst nightmare.
Do you feel like you have made any progress in understanding what has happened and dealing with your pain?
I wish you peace.
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