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Regrets & Guilt ...

Started this discussion. Last reply by wished4more Apr 13, 2016. 10 Replies

I've read many threads mentioning regrets & guilt ...How have you dealt with them? Or do you? Is it best to forgive and forget?  Or simply…Continue

Dia de los Muertos Marigold Parade - Albuquerque 2016

Started this discussion. Last reply by Lupe's husband Jan 27, 2016. 4 Replies

I'd be more than happy to be hostess/tour guide for Albuquerque's Dia de los Muertos Marigold Parade ...The proper date has not yet been posted. It is generally scheduled the Sunday after Halloween,…Continue

Amazing how quickly they forget

Started this discussion. Last reply by Callie2 Jan 20, 2016. 5 Replies

While visiting with numerous friends today, I happened to overhear a conversation about death & grief. Duane was telling Sheila about his mother's passing last week; he thought she would live…Continue

 

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wished4more replied to SweetMelissa's discussion Regrets & Guilt ...
"For me I have few regrets,I list my wife suddenly in her sleep & I'll always think of her and reminisce. There where a few issues she and I had,but all was forgiven as I strive forward. It's difficult early on,in that we all wish we…"
Apr 13, 2016
CynicSittinShiva replied to SweetMelissa's discussion Regrets & Guilt ...
"Thank you"
Mar 31, 2016
Lupe's husband replied to SweetMelissa's discussion Regrets & Guilt ...
"My wife died from liver disease due to diabetes.     Hugs to you, cynic."
Mar 31, 2016
CynicSittinShiva replied to SweetMelissa's discussion Regrets & Guilt ...
"I live with a fair amount of guilt. My wife died from cirrhosis due to alcohol. I always drank with her and I feel like a co-conspirator to her death. I certainly haven't "dealt" with the feelings. I figure I will have some kind of…"
Mar 30, 2016
LJARO123 replied to SweetMelissa's discussion Regrets & Guilt ...
"You made the right decision. My husband died only two weeks ago and I even told him it was ok to leave if he had to. That I would always love him and no one would ever love him more than me. That we'd always be together. Miss him so much.and I…"
Mar 29, 2016
Daveswidow replied to SweetMelissa's discussion Regrets & Guilt ...
"I am coming to terms with the loss. I am thankful for the support of my family, church family and friends. It is a challenge to learn how to live as a single person and not part of a couple. Between work, grandchildren and other activities I stay…"
Mar 18, 2016
SweetMelissa2007 replied to SweetMelissa's discussion Regrets & Guilt ...
"Daveswidow, My heartfelt condolences. I truly believe you made the right decision. (((HUGS))) Grief is repetitive so much so we question ourself even though in our heart we know it was for the best. I think the repetition brings us to terms by…"
Mar 17, 2016
Daveswidow replied to SweetMelissa's discussion Regrets & Guilt ...
"My husband died 2 days before Thanksgiving 2015 from complications related to treatments for cancer. He had not eaten in a week, couldn't drink and when his heart stopped and even though he had a DNR, they tried to revive him. I knew this was…"
Mar 17, 2016
SweetMelissa commented on Dianne in Nevada's blog post Oh Sheryl Sandberg, what have you done?
"I wasn't aware of this, but I also have no interest in televised or tabloid news. No offense, but it just seems more & more like gossip regardless of a professional presentation. Anyhoo, if she is in fact dating it merely allows for…"
Mar 7, 2016
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Mar 7, 2016
SweetMelissa commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Grief is also not linear ..."
Mar 6, 2016
SweetMelissa replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Need help using the site? Ask here!
"How do I change my email address w/out changing my user name? Trying a new suggestion. Unfortunately, the suggestion of composing in email then pasting into comment box didn't work."
Mar 6, 2016
SweetMelissa replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Need help using the site? Ask here!
"SÀVING A REPLY FOR LATER POSTING ... Is it possible to save a reply to complete at a later time?"
Mar 5, 2016
SweetMelissa commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Wow Carolina! Did my reply give the impression I was shouting? Or did it seem like a counterattack -tit for tat using my own past encounter w/PTSD? TMI? I'm not sure where you're coming from -how you interpreted my reply. I'm truly…"
Mar 3, 2016
SweetMelissa commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Part of it is doing it all over & over & over. Reminding yourself of what you've learned even if its on a daily basis till it comes to mind automatically. The self confidence I'm talking about goes beyond doing things on your…"
Mar 3, 2016
SweetMelissa commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Hi Slick, In reading all these replies it sent me back to reflect on those days of misery & uncertainty. I filled my time w/many activities in the hopes there would be one that provided direction & an interest I could stick to. I also had…"
Mar 3, 2016

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At 4:00pm on January 7, 2016, LifesAJourney said…

SweetMelissa, welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You will find caring support and friendship here. 

Here is the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here! You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you will find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.

 
 
 

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