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SweetMelissa2007 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"WithoutJim, From grieving their stepfather, it sounds as if it's dawned on them that you could suddenly die, too .. .They want to keep spending time & making memories w/you ... That is lovely & heartwarming ..."
Jul 16
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Rich's discussion Would you do it again?
"Yup!  We had some hell years that made us all the more devoted to one another as well as stronger as a couple able to overcome diversity ... Out of all things, our worst problem was Bob's parents. I ignored them. Bob did not tolerate their…"
Jun 17
SweetMelissa2007 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"(((SilverAnniversary))) I first asked my Victim Advocate the amount of time I would be alloted to read my impact statement ... I found the easiest way for me was to write about Bob was from the heart in separate categories as a husband, father,…"
Jun 17
Callie2 commented on SweetMelissa2007's blog post I hate June 7th ...
"SweetMelissa, When I read your blog, I didn't realize the diagnosis of your daughter and nephew were just days ago. So very sorry. Both situations are frightening, concerning and life-altering. Sending prayers your way for you and your family,…"
Jun 12
SweetMelissa2007 commented on SweetMelissa2007's blog post I hate June 7th ...
"((( Hugs WithoutJim & Callie))) ... Your support/responses are very much appreciated ... I just could not believe we were in the same hospital my husband died at on the day of his anniversary ... My daughter is in alot of pain in her legs…"
Jun 12
WithoutJim commented on SweetMelissa2007's blog post I hate June 7th ...
"Oh, Sweet Melissa, yes this date is sadly so much darker and more meaningful. How absolutely tragic. So sorry. Just when we think we've grieved all the losses, another heartbreaking loss (as both these diagnoses are in their own way) just tamps…"
Jun 8
Callie2 commented on SweetMelissa2007's blog post I hate June 7th ...
"Sending you a hug. We know that time has a healing effect, yet there are still days like this. Hope tomorrow is a better one!"
Jun 7
SweetMelissa2007 posted a blog post

I hate June 7th ...

Today is Bob's 10th year anniversary ...Today our 23 year old daughter was diagnosed with MS ...Today my 32 year old nephew was diagnosed with tumors on his pituitary gland ...Two days after Bob's death, I had a dream of my daughter & nephews w/ravens flying around ...Never could figure out why this particular nephew was in the dream instead of his brother who died 9 months prior ...Not only is today's date darker, it is sadly more meaningful ...I hate June 7th ...See More
Jun 7
SweetMelissa2007 commented on tifacola (Tiffany)'s blog post Being the only, disgruntled parent...
"[[[HUGS]]] I thought that of myself after Bob died. I was so overwhelmed w/being responsible for everyone & everything. I was angry, frustrated & just beat up on myself daily. My bond w/the kids had become fractured & my grief was so…"
May 18
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Anna's discussion Early morning sadness
"I did the same as you ... Grief would not allow me to do anything till the afternoon when the grief for the day was discharged; it's purdy much a daily event for some time ... The more it's released, the more changes you will notice in…"
May 13
SweetMelissa2007 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Unfortunately, we learn things as we walk this path ... Insurance companies are far more receptive when an attorney files the claim ... Bob's life insurance & the driver's insurance both paid out w/in 30 days of his death at a cost of…"
Apr 21
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Imogen's discussion Stupid People
"I thought of this thread today when I was reminded of a woman who said to me, "That poor boy will have to live w/it the rest of his life. I'll pray for him to heal"  This was in response to telling her ìt was 3 months…"
Apr 17
SweetMelissa2007 replied to lisa72's discussion The Nice Things People Say
"Bob & I were together 28 years ... It was not long enough ... Nor does it seem like it was that long in terms of years ... Sometimes, I have to look at our wedding pictures to remind me of our youth as well as other pictures of all the years in…"
Apr 17
SweetMelissa2007 commented on mom'staxi's blog post No place to fit
"It might sound strange when I say you are barely 5 years out ...As much as widows further out try to spare the reality of the length of grief, there are times it needs to be revealed. When I became widowed, it was easy to find lots of Web info…"
Apr 13
SweetMelissa2007 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Hi Seashell, That business of losing time was just another little aggravation ... I came to find I was moving slower than normal. Not matter if I set my clock ahead, showered before bed, set out clothes for the next day - I just wasn't able to…"
Apr 8
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Imogen's discussion Stupid People
"This really made me bust out laughing! Not in making light of your grief, but remembering how often I wanted to punch or choke people down or the many ways I visualized causing them pain or wanting to shout be-outch then later say, "I…"
Apr 5

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I hate June 7th ...

Posted on June 7, 2017 at 3:08pm 4 Comments

Today is Bob's 10th year anniversary ...

Today our 23 year old daughter was diagnosed with MS ...

Today my 32 year old nephew was diagnosed with tumors on his pituitary gland ...

Two days after Bob's death, I had a dream of my daughter & nephews w/ravens flying around ...

Never could figure out why this particular nephew was in the dream instead of his brother who died 9 months prior ...

Not only is today's date darker, it is sadly more meaningful…

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At 8:22am on March 10, 2016, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, SweetMelissa2007. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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