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SweetMelissa2007 replied to Aly brabham's discussion Is it normal to keep items around your house of theirs
"Downsizing is a good idea w/that much stuff ... There's wrong w/hanging on to your husband's stuff - I find it odd when asked why I keep it. People forget about our kids as well my husband having been the greatest happiness &…"
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SweetMelissa2007 replied to Aly brabham's discussion Is it normal to keep items around your house of theirs
"At 10 years out I have most all of Bob's belongings except for some tools the boys wanted & a few items they girls chose. His clothes are in space bags w/a few still hanging ... Bob's medicine cabinet is intact as well as everything…"
Dec 8
SweetMelissa2007 replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion Plans for the holidays
"Being that myself & our kids were heart sick w/grief, our best option was to stay home for a quiet 30 minute celebration of prayer & gift unwrapping ... Looking back to our first few years brings a chuckle ... The kids put up the tree w/4…"
Oct 25
SweetMelissa2007 replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion Plans for the holidays
"Being that myself & our kids were hearts icky w/grief it was best we stayed home of a quiet 30 minute celebration of prayer & gift unwrapping ... Looking back to our first few years brings a chuckle ... The kids put up the tree w/4…"
Oct 25
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Lupe's husband's discussion Dia De Los Muertos 2017
"I see your decor is completely different from last year's - its also very nice ... A new addition to our altar is a bobble head skeleton holding Bob's favorite beer, Corona ... My girls have been trying out a variety of calavera face…"
Oct 25
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Are you "wise?" How have you changed since your loss?
"Interesting perspective at 7 years out, I felt the same till it dramatically changed at 8 years out ... At 10 years out, I only identify w/being a widow when I'm here or I meet up w/a talking head or when relating my kids' grief,…"
Oct 14
SweetMelissa2007 commented on mls64 (Mike)'s blog post The Continuous vigilance
"Everyone wants to escape the hurt, its a natural reaction to pain ... For me, spending time logically interpreting pain was mind bending in a vicious circle - accepting the reason for it/the motivator was quicker & easier ... Whenever I…"
Oct 14
SweetMelissa2007 commented on Don's blog post How to handle telemarketers
"Its been 10 years since Bob was killed in a company vehicle - I still receive at least two reminder calls a year for a medical check-up/drug test & to register for a recertification training class plus several pieces of mail for honorary dinner…"
Oct 14
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion OCTOBER Anniversaries, Birthdays and Other Special Days
"60th birthday - forever 49 ..."
Oct 7
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion OCTOBER Anniversaries, Birthdays and Other Special Days
"6th b-day - forever forty-nine ..."
Oct 7
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Raven2017's discussion Group Grief Therapy- Good or bad?
"To be fair, I was desperate too w/2 young children, 2 mortgages & no job ... I mean, grief is what it is - an onslaught of desperation & raw emotions, however, allowing one's self to behave uncivilized w/others is a lack of self control…"
Sep 14
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Former Yooper's discussion When Does It Stop
"Nope, it won't be w/you forever - its just best to adjust to it being w/you in knowing your limits as well as setting aside time to grieve in & out ... The grief process is for healing resolution to move you forward w/life one step at a…"
Sep 14
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Raven2017's discussion Group Grief Therapy- Good or bad?
"Yes, desperation ... It was also quite the adjustment for me to become a single parent & breadwinner ... However, their salivating convinced me that they wanted more than a cook/housekeeper/babysitter ... I learned a number of shocking lessons…"
Sep 12
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Raven2017's discussion Group Grief Therapy- Good or bad?
"My 11 & 13 year olds were w/me both times at the 2 different churches - they recognized each time what these men were doing as well as stood frozen in horror when their kids ran up to us asking if I could cook or when were we coming over or if I…"
Sep 11
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Lindi's discussion Stepson expected more in my husband's will; he is harassing me
"(((HUGS))) I was once told people tend to look like vultures after a death ... Uh, no, they act like vultures ... Regardless, if his anger is at Dad for whatever reason(s), you're caught in the middle & it's not your problem ... No…"
Sep 10
SweetMelissa2007 replied to Susan's discussion Afraid Of Older Son's Reaction To Mom
"As they say, timing is everything ... I recall many widow/ers ready to date were questioned about their love for their Mom or Dad ... Even though dating is an individual choice, children, no matter their age, need their time to grieve ... Changes…"
Sep 10

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I hate June 7th ...

Posted on June 7, 2017 at 3:08pm 3 Comments

Today is Bob's 10th year anniversary ...

Today our 23 year old daughter was diagnosed with MS ...

Today my 32 year old nephew was diagnosed with tumors on his pituitary gland ...

Two days after Bob's death, I had a dream of my daughter & nephews w/ravens flying around ...

Never could figure out why this particular nephew was in the dream instead of his brother who died 9 months prior ...

Not only is today's date darker, it is sadly more meaningful…

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At 8:22am on March 10, 2016, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, SweetMelissa2007. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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