"My wife had been married for 43 years and I for 30 when our spouses died. We will not replace our spouses. but we are also more mature in our outlook than when we were each first married. I believed there was space in our hearts for each…"
"Callie, you are so right. I have also been divorced and widowed, and the thing that gripes me is that my ex is still alive and my wife of 30 years is gone. I agree that you will know when it is the right time to date."
"I have heard that the second year is worse than the first. In some ways it may be. You are past the initial shock, numbness, and grieving. Many who said they would be there for you have disappeared. You have taken care of the financial matters.
"We were watching the Food Channel one day, and were watching Rachel Raye. Kathy happened to mention that Rachel got married on the Greek island of Santorini. I said, “Hey! We are going to go to Santorini on this…"
"I married a widow. We can understand each other in our loss. A person who has never been married cannot.Also, a divorced person caries a baggage of bitterness of the failure of their marriage, for whatever reason."
"I have remarried, and the discussion came up about what to do with her engagement ring. We found a design for a pendant in Kauai, and took it to our jeweler. She contributed her engagement ring, and I contributed a bracelet my late wife gave…"
"I also have remarried and had to face some of the issue that barbee did. My wife kept her former married name, because it would have been a pain to change everything. We each had some assets in our name only, and that was not a problem.
We each had…"
"I was not interested in dating, as i was caregiver for my wife for 12 years. After she passed away I went traveling to places she had no interest, but that I wanted to see. Along the way I met a number of women on these trips, but had no interest…"
"After my wife had her brain injury, I got involved with a brain injury chat room. That was in 1993. even after my wife died in 2005, I have kept in contact with one of the survivors.
One of the people in that room told me about a grief recovery site…"
"My wife had a beautiful engagement ring from her first husband that she does not wear. We took it and a bracelet my late wife bought me and had a jeweler make a beautiful pendant out of it
There is a picture of it in my profile"
"BEC, Do not say never. I was married for 30 years, and my wife for 42. We were both widowed about the same time, and somehow we found each other.
We loved our late spouses, but we both found room in our hearts to love one another."
"Here is my favorite quote on the subject:
There comes a time in your life, when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it. You surround yourself with people who make you laugh. Forget the bad, and focus on the good. Love the people…"
Talisker, I'm so sorry for your loss, but glad you found us. I hope this site will be as much a comfort and support as it has been for me. Let me know if I can help you navigate the site. I look forward to getting to know you.