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Getting your day structured

Started this discussion. Last reply by pricytapestry Mar 31. 10 Replies

Dear Widowed Village Community,I lost my husband in October last year and I found that whenever I have a few consecutive days off, I have difficulties structuring my days.This first happened to me a…Continue

Feeling lonely

Started this discussion. Last reply by CryinCali Dec 27, 2019. 3 Replies

Hi,I was wondering if anyone else feels extremely lonely and how you are coping with that.I lost my husband 2 1/2 months ago, we didn't have kids. Now when I'm at home I often feel really lonely…Continue

 

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Tanne commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 90s
"Hi Rebekah, welcome to this forum, it's nice to meet you but I'm so sorry for your loss. Just because you know it happens, doesn't lessen the pain... my husband died from a brain tumour about 9 months after it was diagnosed. We knew,…"
Jul 29
Tanne commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2019
"Dear Lisa and Riskybiz, I struggle with similar problems and asked on the Forum about how others cope with structuring their day, especially in these times. Maybe you want to check out the forum post, it's only a few days old. What helped me…"
Apr 2
pricytapestry replied to Tanne's discussion Getting your day structured
"Hi Tanne, It mostly evolved naturally. I knew I needed to clean and do housekeeping and was struggling with motivation. So I just focus on one small thing I need to do and motivate myself to do that one task. I might say, I need to clean the…"
Mar 31
Tanne replied to Tanne's discussion Getting your day structured
"Hi Melissa, I really like your idea! Just giving the day some basic structure so I don't struggle during the day deciding what to do next. I hate feeling this insecurity whenever I'm trying to decide what to do only because I want to…"
Mar 29
Tanne replied to Tanne's discussion Getting your day structured
"Hi soulmate, thank you for your words! Yes, sometimes it feels like being completely alone. I'm only 28, I barely have any singles among my friends, most are busy with their partners or founding families so I realise over and over again that my…"
Mar 29
Melissa replied to Tanne's discussion Getting your day structured
"Tanne, It sounds to me like you could benefit from a loose structure and some sort of master list (but that may be because I love lists, myself). Here's an example of the type of thing I mean: 8-9am, normal morning routine (grooming, coffee,…"
Mar 28
Tanne replied to Tanne's discussion Getting your day structured
"Hi pricytapestry, it's interesting that although grief is different for everybody, sometimes grief follows the same timeline. I got told that it would get worse around half a year after but I couldn't imagine how. Now I know it, because at…"
Mar 28
Tanne replied to Tanne's discussion Getting your day structured
"Hi Rich, it's not necessarily that I don't have things to do. I should start my bachelor thesis slowly but surely. It's more like I'm having difficulties bringing structure in my days that I can use over and over again so I…"
Mar 28
soulmate replied to Tanne's discussion Getting your day structured
"Hi Tanne-first off, I am sorry you have lost your husband. I know how it hurts. I've been through this twice, lost two spouses to cancer, six years apart. I retired early so my wife and I could travel, and less than a year later, she died.…"
Mar 25
Rich replied to Tanne's discussion Getting your day structured
"Pricytapestry: I've been remodeling our 20 year old house, building farm sheds, installing fencing and any other project I can find for the past 4 years. For me it's good therapy and at the end of the day I'm too tired for much…"
Mar 23
pricytapestry replied to Tanne's discussion Getting your day structured
"Hello Tanne, I lost my wife in October of 18 and right around 6 months, March/April of last year 2019 I felt a lot like you posted above. I had those same feelings of wanting structure but not knowing what to do all day. Feelings of being paralyzed,…"
Mar 23
Rich replied to Tanne's discussion Getting your day structured
"Tanne: Working out of the house is not as easy as everyone thinks. If you can't get out how about putting in some extra hours, even if you are not compensated? Hopefully this will keep your mind focused on something other than your personal…"
Mar 23
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Getting your day structured

Dear Widowed Village Community,I lost my husband in October last year and I found that whenever I have a few consecutive days off, I have difficulties structuring my days.This first happened to me a few weeks ago when I was at home for three weeks due to a heavy cold and now with the Coronavirus shutting everything down it's also almost impossible to get out of the house. My workplace is currently working on a system that we have two shifts in the office and one week the first shift works, next…See More
Mar 23
Tanne replied to Melissa's discussion Holiday Plans in the group Widowed in 2019
"Dear Lisa, these grieving services sound great! I don't think we have them at our local church but I will keep an eye on the churches in the cities around us, maybe they do something like this. The holidays were much harder than expected for me…"
Jan 7
Tanne replied to Justme's discussion Being in public in the group Widowed in 2019
"Dear Justme, for me I usually answer with "some days better, some days worse" and if I feel like they want to continue talking I ask them questions about their life (how are you doing? how are the kids? etc.). Not that I'm really…"
Jan 7
Tanne replied to Lost Girl's discussion Living a life I did not choose in the group Widowed in 2019
"Dear Lost Girl, first of all I'm sorry that people you know were following you online without you wanting that :/ I am dreading the new year, for me especially because one year ago at this day I went with my husband to the ER because we…"
Dec 29, 2019

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At 12:33pm on December 22, 2019, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, Tanne. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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