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Tekwriter
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Started this discussion. Last reply by Callie2 Aug 17, 2018. 6 Replies

I lost my Husband on May 3rd. It was Mothers day and my oldest son's birthday the week we held the funeral and the military internment. We basically just did nothing for the 4th of July which used to…Continue

 

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35 Days

In 35 days my new year will begin. My new year of being a widow. I will finally have closed on my new house and should have moved. I have dealt with countless government agencies and started or stopped various things. I still cry almost every day. It is not as bad as the soul shattering relentless grief of the beginning. However I still find myself screaming into my pillow at times. I have done pretty much nothing people told me to do and stumbled around and did things my own way. I came here…See More
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Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Bergen my husband made it through two back to back brain surgeries also. He made it through the regular hospital and into rehab. He was supposed to come home at the weekend. I always went by in the morning and checked his lunch to see if it was…"
Mar 13
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"My companion dog of 11 years had to be put down because of seizures two months after my husband passed. I had raised him from the time he was 8 weeks old. He made every step I made and I always felt safe with him. They had to lock him in a car when…"
Mar 11
Heidi57 commented on Tekwriter's blog post Angry Lonely Hurt
"My husband of 42+ years passed away (age 64) and my anger is directed towards our Canadian & Provincial health system.  He slipped thru the cracks far too often despite my diligence and repeated questions regarding his heart.  I…"
Feb 25
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I stayed on facebook. For the first few months I just didn't comment on anyone and even now sometimes I say nothing when I am sad. I mostly only post about grief. There are days I am surprised I have any friends left at all but they are all…"
Feb 25
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"This is the only place I post where I do not think I am crazy. I do not think any one other than another widow or widower understands what it is like."
Feb 20
Tekwriter commented on MidnightBear (Tony)'s blog post Tense
"I do understand. The first time I had to fill out a box that had married single and no other choice I was so angry. I was not married in the world sense of the word but I did not feel single either. Widow should have been there."
Feb 15
Roxi commented on Tekwriter's blog post Angry Lonely Hurt
"me too i'm full of anger...i'm trying to stay calm but people around me really make me mad...'cos they are so boring so idiots and i think "all those stupids are alive" and my love a special person is gone...i know it's…"
Feb 14
KayeL commented on Tekwriter's blog post Angry Lonely Hurt
"I know how you feel. I was once a people person, I was nice to everyone and most people adored me. Once my husband passed away, most people annoy the heck out of me. Sometimes I wonder if death brought out the dark side of me that I never knew it…"
Feb 13
sis commented on Tekwriter's blog post Angry Lonely Hurt
"I hear you. I, too, have been dealing with a lot of anger particularly the past two days. I also got through the holidays rather well, now this month I'm dealing with my wedding anniversary and next month will be a year since his death.…"
Feb 11
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Angry Lonely Hurt

I thought I was doing better. I survived ,Thanksgiving, Christmas was disappointing, and I made it through January 1st. I am into February and I am having the hardest time since last May. I had to go to the Dr. and get more medication. I am so angry. I am not angry at my husband. I am angry at people. Everyone that gets in my way. People sincerely annoy me. I have been trying to close on a house. The only thing I needed was a deposit from my military pay. I gave it to them on the 1st of…See More
Feb 10
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I have a serious issue. I am angry about things and I cannot let them go. It is hard. I am fiercely angry at my Husband's brother. My husband made many attempts to talk to his brother and make a relationship via phone and Internet and he…"
Feb 10
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Riet I understand. I feel the same way. I have lost interest in so many things. Even some of the things I love my interest is only token and I am easily distracted. I have two wonderful sons and they do live with me. But I still feel alone, they are…"
Feb 10
Tekwriter commented on Pegasus's blog post Life Changes
"In two and a half months the anniversary will be here for me. Whoever said that should be drawn and quartered. It is clear they know nothing. Most people know nothing. Unless they have been there they don't understand and by this point they are…"
Feb 8
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thursday night I had my second  worst night ever. I fell off the bed (I think my rottie helped) I smashed my face into the radiator and slammed my bad knee into the floor. So I am trying to get into a seated position and I can feel blood…"
Feb 8
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thank you all, although it is sad to know I am not alone. I did not know it was a depressing time for most people. March is a super depressing time for me because I lost both my mother and younger brother in March. Although that pales in comparison…"
Jan 23

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35 Days

Posted on March 18, 2019 at 6:05am 0 Comments

In 35 days my new year will begin. My new year of being a widow. I will finally have closed on my new house and should have moved. I have dealt with countless government agencies and started or stopped various things. I still cry almost every day. It is not as bad as the soul shattering relentless grief of the beginning. However I still find myself screaming into my pillow at times. I have done pretty much nothing people told me to do and stumbled around and did things my own way. I came…

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Angry Lonely Hurt

Posted on February 10, 2019 at 10:18am 4 Comments

I thought I was doing better. I survived ,Thanksgiving, Christmas was disappointing, and I made it through January 1st. I am into February and I am having the hardest time since last May. I had to go to the Dr. and get more medication. I am so angry. I am not angry at my husband. I am angry at people. Everyone that gets in my way. People sincerely annoy me. I have been trying to close on a house. The only thing I needed was a deposit from my military pay. I gave it to them on the 1st of…

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At 11:47pm on July 5, 2018, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, Tekwriter. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

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