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Tekwriter
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  • Tobaccoville, NC
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Holidays

Started this discussion. Last reply by Callie2 Aug 17, 2018. 6 Replies

I lost my Husband on May 3rd. It was Mothers day and my oldest son's birthday the week we held the funeral and the military internment. We basically just did nothing for the 4th of July which used to…Continue

 

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Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Hi everyone. I found a group on facebook ran by compassionate friends. The bad part is most of the parents are in as bad a shape as I am. Some days are so much harder than others. I a sad to to say that this is 100x or more harder that losing his…"
Dec 5
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I thought I would check in. I am having a horrific time dealing with this. I never though anything would be harder than have to deal with my husband's death. I was horribly wrong and am so sorry I found out. He was bright funny and full of…"
Nov 16
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I only want to sleep. I just want to be numb to this overwhelming pain till I have distanced myself. I don't see why Dr. Cannot under stand."
Nov 6
AtSam(Steve) left a comment for Tekwriter
"TEKWRITER, I just read your post about your son. There are no words that could ever help but my heart hurts for you and what you are dealing with. Wow just Wow."
Nov 4
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I found my youngest son dead in his bed from an overdose this morning. The pictures keep running through my head. I just lost my husband on 5/3/18. I am so angry at God. I am so broken I haven't stopped crying since 9a. All those plans for the…"
Nov 4
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"chef(John) Your input is greatly appreciated."
Oct 31
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"It was unfortunate. The bill would have been over 6k in the long run. I didn't even have the 1500 down at the time. Our vet graciously called the university snd spoke with them for me. That was such a relief. I just felt like I  murdered…"
Oct 28
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I know this is off topic a little. I lost my baby girl dog two weeks ago. It was sudden and brutal. She had ketoacidosis, it was very bad and we did not have the money to send her to the state hospital to treat her. She was a happy and cheerful dog…"
Oct 28
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"This is my second birthday without him. No one has said anything to me about it. I am going to South Carolina to have lunch with my friend, and will stop in at the veterans cemetery to see him. Then I will stop in a Krystal and grab some burgers to…"
Oct 28
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"I am doing the holidays this year. I have invited people for Thanksgiving. It is what he would have wanted. Christmaa is normally just family. But we will be putting up a tree this year. Something besides the sad shiny 2 ft lavendar thing we sat on…"
Oct 27
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Irishlady have you thought of getting another furbaby? I lost mine 2 months after I lost my husband. It was cruel. I had him for 11 years, raised him from 8 weeks old, and it was fairly sudden. I lost him in July and I got another dog in September.…"
Oct 8
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"We live on 2 acres and he has 4 older dogs to romp with. I will talk to my son about the walk you suggest. He plays hard from the time he gets up till he goes to bed. I will be following up on the other suggestions also."
Oct 7
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"It is me again. I have a serious question and did not want to muddy the waters. I bought a rottweiler puppy from a backyard breeder. I could not afford one of the more expensive ones. If you have a beef with this type of dog, please do not answer, I…"
Oct 7
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Hi everyone, has anyone given thought to how close the holidays are? I have determined to have holidays this year. No 12 inch tree and no eating at Golden Coral. I hope it works. Sigh"
Oct 7
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Thanks everyone. It is at least good to know I am fairly normal. I had retired when I had breast cancer or so to speak. I never went back to work. I had to many lymph nodes removed to make doing my job feasible. I stayed fairly busy though. I…"
Sep 28
Tekwriter commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 50s
"Does anyone struggle with trying to figure out what to do with themselves? I would like to do some volunteer work, but I can't figure out what.I had talked to cancer services before my husband became ill and was excited about a software…"
Sep 27

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Year 2

Posted on May 7, 2019 at 8:06am 2 Comments

I just started my second year of grief. The only difference is it is not as fierce this time. I do not think I am going to die. I realize I will live another year through the grief without him. Grief will not kill you. It only feels like it will.

35 Days

Posted on March 18, 2019 at 6:05am 0 Comments

In 35 days my new year will begin. My new year of being a widow. I will finally have closed on my new house and should have moved. I have dealt with countless government agencies and started or stopped various things. I still cry almost every day. It is not as bad as the soul shattering relentless grief of the beginning. However I still find myself screaming into my pillow at times. I have done pretty much nothing people told me to do and stumbled around and did things my own way. I came…

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Angry Lonely Hurt

Posted on February 10, 2019 at 10:18am 4 Comments

I thought I was doing better. I survived ,Thanksgiving, Christmas was disappointing, and I made it through January 1st. I am into February and I am having the hardest time since last May. I had to go to the Dr. and get more medication. I am so angry. I am not angry at my husband. I am angry at people. Everyone that gets in my way. People sincerely annoy me. I have been trying to close on a house. The only thing I needed was a deposit from my military pay. I gave it to them on the 1st of…

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At 9:50am on November 4, 2019, AtSam(Steve) said…

TEKWRITER,

I just read your post about your son. There are no words that could ever help but my heart hurts for you and what you are dealing with. Wow just Wow.

At 4:21pm on September 18, 2019, Jules said…

Year 2? I can’t even imagine 6 months at this point. It’s only been 5 weeks. Still in shock. I hate this!!!

At 11:47pm on July 5, 2018, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, Tekwriter. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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