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The Hungover Widow
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My Latest Blog Post: 5 Questions to Ask Yourself if You're Ready to Date

I'm blogging again. My latest is about plunging back into dating too soon. Here are five questions I wish I'd seriously considered before jumping in: http://www.thehungoverwidow.com/dating-for-widows-and-widowers-5-questions-to-ask-yourself-if-youre-ready-to-date/My blog is "The Hungover Widow." With apologies for this format, but I'm too lazy to retype. And I have a…See More
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10 Things Not to Say to Widow on RD

I'm in Readers Digest with this article: http://www.rd.com/advice/relationships/never-say-to-widow/. Maybe it'll help with awareness and tactlessness. I write from my own experiences. I'm on vacation without my husband and it's hard to do stuff you always thought you'd do together. When I see older couples in my tour group help eachother over cobbled streets I get a pang.
Oct 17, 2016
Dadof4inSF commented on The Hungover Widow's blog post From Married to Mutant
"Mutation into someone foreign?   No,  I also think it's about growth and maturation.  I heard someone say that all marriages end (unfortunately) in death or divorce.  This reminds me that life is short...too short to stay…"
Aug 29, 2016
SweetMelissa2007 commented on The Hungover Widow's blog post From Married to Mutant
"Mutate -no ... My 9 years have been about growth & maturity ... I never searched for a magic cure for grief, I educated myself on the purpose of grief & emotions always believing this journey would bring me full circle to where I needed to…"
Aug 26, 2016
The Hungover Widow posted a blog post

From Married to Mutant

I've decided we don't always recover from loss, we mutate. I'm trying to mutate into someone who's better with options and uncertainty. When I tried to put that into action on a solo trip to Carmel, I rushed home. I write about it on my blog here: http://www.thehungoverwidow.com/from-married-to-mutant/Thanks for listening,DebbieSee More
Aug 24, 2016
The Hungover Widow posted a blog post

Relationship Blues and Withdrawing for a bit

I don't post here much because I post ion my own blog, The Hungover Widow.  I'm trying to post weekly.  My latest two posts are about getting into relationships as a widow, Relationship Blues, and about ending the dating/appearance game, Becoming Pudding.  Please stop by…See More
Aug 3, 2016
Dadof4inSF commented on The Hungover Widow's blog post My Loneliness Exposed in Woman's Day
"I lost my wife two and a half years ago.  We were married for 21 years and together for 24.  The way I initially dealt with loneliness was to keep busy with work.  I also joined local hiking meetup groups to learn how to socialize.…"
Jul 8, 2016
The Hungover Widow commented on The Hungover Widow's blog post My Loneliness Exposed in Woman's Day
"Lizbeth, thank you for your comments. We have similarities since my husband died in April 2013 and we were together for 32 years. I have made some new friends too. And I have a boyfriend but it is not a replacement, jut a different far less serious…"
Jun 24, 2016
lizbeth4 commented on The Hungover Widow's blog post My Loneliness Exposed in Woman's Day
"Thank you for your article.   I lost my Husband 3 years and 3 months ago.   He was my soul mate.   We had 31 wonderful years together.   We did everything together so I didn't have a lot of…"
Jun 24, 2016
happylilycat commented on The Hungover Widow's blog post My Loneliness Exposed in Woman's Day
"Hungover Widow, thanks for your searing honesty, that was a very courageous and beautiful article. I lost my husband 4.5 months ago, and he was my best friend and soul mate. We just fit each other perfectly.  I was also his caregiver for the…"
Jun 23, 2016
The Hungover Widow commented on The Hungover Widow's blog post My Loneliness Exposed in Woman's Day
"To Jacks' girl. I sent you a friend request on this site.  I don't think I have much courage.  I just did stuff like go to yoga classes and talk to people. But I'm happy to talk more with you.  My blog is…"
Jun 22, 2016
Jack's girl commented on The Hungover Widow's blog post My Loneliness Exposed in Woman's Day
"Thank you for your article!!  It really resonated with me. It will be 6 months in a week and Jack and I were each other's best friends. I didn't cultivate outside relationships enough either and I feel like I'm treading water to…"
Jun 22, 2016
The Hungover Widow commented on The Hungover Widow's blog post My Loneliness Exposed in Woman's Day
"Thank you for commenting Angelina. My missing my husband comes in waves. Sometimes I feel lucky and busy and other times I just miss him so much it's physical. I know what you mea about telling him one more time that you love him.  I feel…"
Jun 21, 2016
Angelina commented on The Hungover Widow's blog post My Loneliness Exposed in Woman's Day
"I agree. I just miss my husband so much and it's seemingly worse now. You're right in that just 'being with people's doesn't make you less lonely for that special person that's no longer in your life, other than the…"
Jun 21, 2016
The Hungover Widow commented on The Hungover Widow's blog post My Loneliness Exposed in Woman's Day
"Thank you! And your comments are a tribute to your husband.  George and I spent very little time apart as well.  We had dinner together almost every evening.  I wish I'd appreciated it more at the time. And I think I know what yu…"
Jun 21, 2016
Callie2 commented on The Hungover Widow's blog post My Loneliness Exposed in Woman's Day
"Good article! I can relate, as I always felt my husband was my best friend also. Only twice during our marriage were we apart--once when he traveled to see a NASCAR race and one week that he spent in the hospital. This may sound contrary, but when…"
Jun 20, 2016

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My Latest Blog Post: 5 Questions to Ask Yourself if You're Ready to Date

Posted on May 25, 2017 at 8:24am 0 Comments

I'm blogging again. My latest is about plunging back into dating too soon. Here are five questions I wish I'd seriously considered before jumping in: http://www.thehungoverwidow.com/dating-for-widows-and-widowers-5-questions-to-ask-yourself-if-youre-ready-to-date/



My blog is "The Hungover Widow." With apologies for this format, but I'm too lazy to retype.… Continue

A Widow's Galentine to Her Girlfriends

Posted on February 13, 2017 at 1:00pm 0 Comments

My Valentine to my yoga tribe is in Modern Loss, an online journal about coping with grief. This is the link to the article: A Widow's Galentine to her Girlfriends.  It's about how making women friends really helped me to cope with my loneliness as a widow.  It's a turning point for me because I was a crazy online dater for a while after George died and this is in part how I got healthier about…

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Coping with Coming Home to an Empty House

Posted on January 24, 2017 at 8:07am 0 Comments

So I went to the Women's March in Walnut Creek, CA. And it was exhilarating. Then to the memorial of a friend's mother. I was so grateful to be doing these things with friends, women in my writers group. Being connected and coping with loneliness have been my biggest challenges. But then it's home to my lovely, but empty, house, leading to my latest blog post here:… Continue

What I Learned My This Year as a Widow

Posted on December 30, 2016 at 9:12am 0 Comments

Sorry to post this way, but I have a blog and I'm too lazy to type things twice. April 10, 2016 marked my third year as a widow.I learned a lot this year about making friends, writing and discovering solo travel. Here's my site,http://www.thehungoverwidow.com/.

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At 1:38pm on July 25, 2015, Brucer said…

Hi The Hungover Widow,

I am very sorry for your loss and I hope you can slowly find peace on this journey. I have found this website to be helpful and I think you will too.

I wish you my very best.

Bruce

At 6:25pm on July 24, 2015, Patience (Diane) said…
Welcome to Widville, The Hungover Widow. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the link at the top of the page. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.
 
 
 

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