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The Hungover Widow
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The Hungover Widow replied to Mike's discussion Struggling to get by. in the group Widowed in 2017
"Dear Mike, i lost my husband, my beloved George, in April 2013. I did not want to go on. I dragged myself to yoga, to writing. I gardened. And it all seeemd so meaningless. But about three Years in (sorry, that long), I felt better. I had made some…"
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The Hungover Widow commented on The Hungover Widow's blog post To help the widowed, let us talk about our marriages.
"What a beautiful story Rainy!"
Jan 10
Rainy commented on The Hungover Widow's blog post To help the widowed, let us talk about our marriages.
"Jerry and I weren't married.  Our hearts were and we would have made it legal eventually.  Jerry had some manageable health issues he was 17 yrs my senior.  He was a widow.  His wife had been gone for 7 yrs when I started…"
Jan 10
soulmate commented on The Hungover Widow's blog post To help the widowed, let us talk about our marriages.
"I just read your piece. It's real and I love it!! (Beautiful picture too!) To be honest I would love a question like this "So David, tell me something different. What did you and your wife struggle with in your marriage? What tested both…"
Jan 8
Sheryls commented on The Hungover Widow's blog post To help the widowed, let us talk about our marriages.
"so sorry for your loss! What a beautiful couple! You are just about 4 years younger than me. We never expect to be widows so young, do we? I think that is such a hard part of loss, losing ourselves! What do we do now? I know my life was turned…"
Jan 4
Callie2 commented on The Hungover Widow's blog post To help the widowed, let us talk about our marriages.
"Such a cute young couple! I don't know what's wrong with some people. Maybe they are afraid if we begin talking about our marriages, we will start crying? However, if you were in a group with other widows/widowers, it would seem quite…"
Dec 27, 2017
The Hungover Widow posted a blog post

To help the widowed, let us talk about our marriages.

My holiday piece for the Huffington Post: If you want to help the widowed, let us talk about our marriages. This came out of a dinner where friends were talking about having a good marriage, but seemed to ignore me whenever I chimed in. That’s George and I in 1983. We were together 32 years.…See More
Dec 25, 2017
The Hungover Widow commented on lowrsr (Sherry)'s blog post Year Two
"The second year was my worst. I was no longer numb. I was trying to do positive things, and trying to change made me realize I was alone."
Dec 25, 2017
Mandy left a comment for The Hungover Widow
"That is okay! I love reading your blog it is Christmas and I am sitting here and all my kids are sleeping, I am thinking about my husband, I am angry that he left so soon, but yet I remembering all the joy and laughter he brought to our live. Merry…"
Dec 25, 2017
The Hungover Widow posted a blog post

Blogs for Widowed people

 Hey, first I was excited that my blog, “The Hungover WIdow,” made this list by Feedspot of the top 50 blogs for Widowed People. Here’s the link:https://blog.feedspot.com/widow_blogs/ . I am grateful that folks on this site read my blog.And I’m still lying in bed because it’s the holidays and I have very little family. Love, Debbie See More
Dec 19, 2017
soulmate commented on The Hungover Widow's blog post Writing Publicly on Emotional Abuse
"Amazing article, blog. (I'm using a laptop with small keys and I keep hitting the wrong ones)  Sometimes I will read a blog that "Wakes me up" and yours did that. I thought of my own choices the past year. Yes, I have been in…"
Nov 26, 2017
Gary'swife commented on The Hungover Widow's blog post Writing Publicly on Emotional Abuse
"Congrats!  Great article.  Hope Thanksgiving goes well."
Nov 20, 2017
MidnightBear (Tony) commented on The Hungover Widow's blog post Writing Publicly on Emotional Abuse
"Nice article, and yes you deserve someone who fits you emotionally and isn't abusive.  Everyone does.  Just be careful out there in the pool, there are sharks out there as well. "
Nov 20, 2017
The Hungover Widow posted a blog post

Writing Publicly on Emotional Abuse

So, I made it public. Grateful to be in Ravishly magazine warning about the dark side of loneliness: https://ravishly.com/recognize-emotional-abuse.My big recurring theme, I never thought loneliness could make me so crazy. (I’ve since moved on, reflected and even met someone kind and amazing. (Thanksgiving with his mom—-oy!).See More
Nov 20, 2017
Callie2 commented on The Hungover Widow's blog post Ending an Emotionally Abusive Relationship
"Sorry for your experience, just glad you recognized the problem and called it quits. I think it sometimes takes a while for us to see things for what they really are. I was young when I was in an abusive marriage but not having anything to compare…"
Oct 31, 2017
Athena53 commented on The Hungover Widow's blog post Ending an Emotionally Abusive Relationship
"Thanks for the cautionary tale.  My first marriage was emotionally abusive, fueled by his alcohol consumption and (probably) bipolar disorder.  Good for you for gathering up the strength to break it off.  There's no such thing as…"
Oct 30, 2017

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To help the widowed, let us talk about our marriages.

Posted on December 25, 2017 at 9:26am 5 Comments

My holiday piece for the Huffington Post: If you want to help the widowed, let us talk about our marriages. This came out of a dinner where friends were talking about having a good marriage, but seemed to ignore me whenever I chimed in. That’s George and I in 1983. We were together 32 years.…

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Blogs for Widowed people

Posted on December 19, 2017 at 9:03am 0 Comments

 Hey, first I was excited that my blog, “The Hungover WIdow,” made this list by Feedspot of the top 50 blogs for Widowed People. Here’s the link:https://blog.feedspot.com/widow_blogs/ . I am grateful that folks on this site read my blog.

And I’m still lying in bed because it’s the holidays and I have very little family. Love, Debbie 

Writing Publicly on Emotional Abuse

Posted on November 20, 2017 at 6:45am 3 Comments

So, I made it public. Grateful to be in Ravishly magazine warning about the dark side of loneliness: https://ravishly.com/recognize-emotional-abuse.

My big recurring theme, I never thought loneliness could make me so crazy. (I’ve since moved on, reflected and even met someone kind and amazing. (Thanksgiving with his mom—-oy!).

Ending an Emotionally Abusive Relationship

Posted on October 26, 2017 at 7:30am 2 Comments

I’m blogging again. This was the hardest post I’ve ever written. It’s about staying in an emotionally abusive relationship because I was so lonely after losing George: http://www.thehungoverwidow.com/tripping-on-the-path-of-widowhood-living-with-emotional-abuse/. Thanks for listening, Debbie

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At 2:48am on December 25, 2017, Mandy said…

That is okay! I love reading your blog it is Christmas and I am sitting here and all my kids are sleeping, I am thinking about my husband, I am angry that he left so soon, but yet I remembering all the joy and laughter he brought to our live. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

At 1:38pm on July 25, 2015, Brucer said…

Hi The Hungover Widow,

I am very sorry for your loss and I hope you can slowly find peace on this journey. I have found this website to be helpful and I think you will too.

I wish you my very best.

Bruce

At 6:25pm on July 24, 2015, Patience (Diane) said…
Welcome to Widville, The Hungover Widow. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the link at the top of the page. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.
 
 
 

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