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Desperately need advice - grown "child" in college mess and argument

Started this discussion. Last reply by Callie2 Apr 16. 9 Replies

Hello everyone...so I have daughter in college - only about 2 hours away.  Regular visits, texts back and forth, calls.  Anyway, this past Friday she asked me to come down on Saturday - March 31. …Continue

change....

Started this discussion. Last reply by Athena53 Jan 18, 2017. 3 Replies

Hello everyone - my wife passed four and a half years ago.Just drove daughter back to college, and the same pain is back.  And...it's...likely I think that, at almost 50, that I am going to spend the…Continue

help with melting down teenager

Started this discussion. Last reply by Timelord Dec 29, 2016. 6 Replies

Hello everyone - my wife, Melinda, passed away on May 30, 2012.  I have 2 kids, both at school (home now) D-18, S-22.So we just had a two-day long meltdown.So Christmas Eve, and Christmas and even…Continue

dating someone far away...

Started this discussion. Last reply by Enzo Jun 22, 2014. 1 Reply

Hello everyone...I...I used to be on the website for "young" widows - I was 44 when I lost my wife of 23 years...and met a wonderful woman - fellow widow there - and over about a 1.5 years, we became…Continue

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Timelord replied to Rich's discussion “Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies” Aristotle
"I do as well.  Aristotle - using one ancient Greek legend - was trying to understand the concept of love...and I think this concept describes those of us lucky enough to have had it... If I may digress - there is a great BBC show called Death…"
Monday
Callie2 replied to Timelord's discussion Desperately need advice - grown "child" in college mess and argument
"I’ve read your post several times but do not see why you “think” she may be angry with you. Did something happen during that week before visit that may have upset her? Has she been disrespectful to you in the past? You don’t…"
Apr 16
norm replied to Timelord's discussion Desperately need advice - grown "child" in college mess and argument
"Wait 'til Thursday."
Apr 12
Timelord replied to Timelord's discussion Desperately need advice - grown "child" in college mess and argument
"Thank you Misty - best of good luck to you as well!"
Apr 2
Rainy (Misty) replied to Timelord's discussion Desperately need advice - grown "child" in college mess and argument
"Timelord, I'm going through similar tough-love issues with my daughter.  Lord knows it isn't easy.  For what it's worth I agree with Dez.  Good luck."
Apr 2
Timelord replied to Timelord's discussion Desperately need advice - grown "child" in college mess and argument
"Thank you Dez! Like I said, if she had said this to my late wife, she (daughter) would have found herself kicked into next year! I sent her an email on Saturday. Still nothing. (Besides what I wrote in her message.) So...I think we'll have…"
Apr 2
Dez replied to Timelord's discussion Desperately need advice - grown "child" in college mess and argument
"If my kids told me to never speak to them again, I would not be sending them money, in any amount. Perhaps she is going through some issues, but she had no right to treat you this way. Give her some space. If you have any way to send her a message,…"
Apr 2
Timelord replied to Timelord's discussion Desperately need advice - grown "child" in college mess and argument
"Thank you!  I told her we're done - of course she doesn't believe me.  She does have a job on campus but it's not much.  And the summer job pays quite well. In the past, when she...flipped out...for a lack of a better…"
Apr 2
Morgana (Janet) replied to Timelord's discussion Desperately need advice - grown "child" in college mess and argument
"I am so very sorry she is acting this way and treating you like this. Put the amount of money you feel is right. I I would also tell her that that is the last of the money and she needs to find a job to support herself. She's grown and it…"
Apr 2
Timelord replied to Timelord's discussion Desperately need advice - grown "child" in college mess and argument
"OR OR - I could put like $20 on her school account (which is (of course) at zero) - and do some good old fashioned guilt stuff.  Because she'll get an email from the school when funds are deposited."
Apr 2
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Desperately need advice - grown "child" in college mess and argument

Hello everyone...so I have daughter in college - only about 2 hours away.  Regular visits, texts back and forth, calls.  Anyway, this past Friday she asked me to come down on Saturday - March 31.  Surprising because I had just been there the prior Saturday.  But great!So I go - we discuss law school - where apparently I promised to pay for her lodging while she is in law school...So we go to a fancier Chinese place.  Waitress offers dessert, she orders green tea ice cream.  She mentions fried…See More
Apr 2
Timelord replied to Aly brabham's discussion Is it normal to keep items around your house of theirs
"Short answer - yes it is normal :-)"
Apr 2
Timelord commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2012
"Hello Maggie!  Yes watching with the subtitles is a bit hard! Regarding the Crown... absolutely watched it!  Incidentally, Prince Phillip was played by Matt Smith who was one of many actors to play Doctor Who :).  The best scfi…"
Mar 18
Timelord commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2012
"@laurajay - thank you for your beautiful comments.  You said the "intimate nurture of body and soul."  I...more than ever...feel...know...believe...that this comes along truly once during our time on earth.  I know I've…"
Mar 16
Timelord commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2012
"@laurajay and @only1sue and @maggie...for me, there is a great sense of unreality...I'm struggling emotionally often times, and frankly, being the only parent is...now financially really crushing.  Daughter is in public uni, but even with…"
Mar 16
Timelord replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion For those who do not want to date ...
"This is what I firmly believe - of course I think that movies and TV hold truths to everything!  :-) Of course real life - can it ever be like that?  (The good parts of fiction, anyway.)  But that is how it's supposed to…"
Jan 16

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I am a widow...married for 23 years to the love of my life...married at 22. Originally (and forever!) from NYC. Currently in Washington, DC area.

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At 6:46am on December 8, 2017, Laurel said…

Hello Timelord - I feel your pain also.  My husband has been gone going on 6 yrs in Feb '18....I have a "new normal"... do I like it - some days yes and somedays no, but I guess acceptance is the key.  And we move on.

Take care

Laurel

At 2:31pm on May 12, 2015, laurajay said…

been sick seriously twice since husband died   scary and exhausting    don't over do   you still need rest....I know because  I do too but I fight it thinking I can do it all knowing I can't   lj  

At 5:49am on May 30, 2014, DW said…

Hi Timelord - my story is pretty much the same - 47, 2 kids 15 and 19, married at 22 - he was 25. We found out he had stage IV liver cancer in July of 2011 and he was gone in April of 2012. Met in college at the University of Iowa where our son is now attending. Life goes on - there is much to celebrate and I don't want to miss anything.

At 4:22pm on May 29, 2014, LifesAJourney said…

Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You will find caring support and friendship here.

Here is the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here! You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you will find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.

 
 
 

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