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Timelord
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Desperately need advice - grown "child" in college mess and argument

Started this discussion. Last reply by Callie2 Apr 16. 9 Replies

Hello everyone...so I have daughter in college - only about 2 hours away.  Regular visits, texts back and forth, calls.  Anyway, this past Friday she asked me to come down on Saturday - March 31. …Continue

change....

Started this discussion. Last reply by Athena53 Jan 18, 2017. 3 Replies

Hello everyone - my wife passed four and a half years ago.Just drove daughter back to college, and the same pain is back.  And...it's...likely I think that, at almost 50, that I am going to spend the…Continue

help with melting down teenager

Started this discussion. Last reply by Timelord Dec 29, 2016. 6 Replies

Hello everyone - my wife, Melinda, passed away on May 30, 2012.  I have 2 kids, both at school (home now) D-18, S-22.So we just had a two-day long meltdown.So Christmas Eve, and Christmas and even…Continue

dating someone far away...

Started this discussion. Last reply by Enzo Jun 22, 2014. 1 Reply

Hello everyone...I...I used to be on the website for "young" widows - I was 44 when I lost my wife of 23 years...and met a wonderful woman - fellow widow there - and over about a 1.5 years, we became…Continue

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Timelord replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Anxiety and depression upon waking
"Hello - I definitely sympathize...I too want to be lost in dreams.  I don't feel the anxiety and loss there.  Waking up is literally hard.  At least when I sleep and/or dream...I'm not...HERE. So for whatever it may be…"
Dec 3
Timelord replied to Lostandlonely's discussion Holidays
"Hello everyone - Thanksgiving used to be us going up to NY to my late wife's family, about 95% of the time.  For about a quarter of a century. Since then, it was me and the kids (20 and 24) - this year will be the first without my son -…"
Nov 18
Timelord replied to Rainy (Misty)'s discussion I had an interesting conversation with my doctor today so I thought I'd share it with you all.
"Hi - it was gradual.  Over...months.  The last to go away was the "stomach" pain...and literally heart pain. And of course everyone reacts differently, and like I said, I'd still do the blood work, just to be sure, but yes,…"
Oct 23
Timelord replied to Rainy (Misty)'s discussion I had an interesting conversation with my doctor today so I thought I'd share it with you all.
"Hello!  I think you've got a great doctor.  I had massive physical pain for the first several months.  Since then (2012), it occasionally resurfaces.  I think my daughter has IBS because of this, and it made mine worse. At…"
Oct 23
Timelord replied to Jabs's discussion Future Plans and a bit of an Empty Nest rant!
"Thank you! There always are people who are well meaning and give us advice... sometimes good sometimes...bad. What to me has always been true is that the one I truly want advice from isn't here. It's hard enough to plan...life...as well…"
Sep 3
Timelord replied to Jabs's discussion Future Plans and a bit of an Empty Nest rant!
"Jabs, no worries - this is not even at all a bit much!!! I'm in the same place...kids are at school, and the nest is TOTALLY empty.  In fact my son is working and living with GF near where daughter is at college.  Who knows where…"
Sep 3
Timelord replied to WoodTurner's discussion Permission to Remarry
"@Suzy - you know...I'm an introvert as well, but my job is the opposite...but and however - I have a feeling that I'm on my way to hermit-ness...I miss my wife ...hate being alone, but - indeed - being alone tends to...stick..."
Jul 6
Timelord replied to WoodTurner's discussion Permission to Remarry
"Frank, this is the best description I've read...I couldn't agree with you more."
Jul 6
Timelord replied to WoodTurner's discussion Permission to Remarry
"@Mac - that is a wonderful story and frankly your view on things is...good!  Great even!  That's how I feel now - I'm not sure if the "desperation" to not be alone is still there, and/or the, as you very well put it,…"
Jul 5
Timelord replied to WoodTurner's discussion Permission to Remarry
"BObbysgirl you are far far far braver than me - and I truly admire (and am a bit jealous of) people who can do what you do!"
Jul 4
Timelord replied to WoodTurner's discussion Permission to Remarry
"Hello Athena - kids and I (23 and 19 now) had vacations every year since my wife passed except last year.  Now son is with GF so they're not interested I'm sure (though honestly she probably would be) and daughter goes from one second…"
Jul 4
Timelord replied to WoodTurner's discussion Permission to Remarry
"In VA the HOA statute is from 1950...it's essentially privatized government here....I managed to challenge them once because they didn't even bother to send the one-pager "financial statement" they send now.  But...I…"
Jul 4
Timelord replied to WoodTurner's discussion Permission to Remarry
"Cruises are fun!!!!  But...how do you do it yourself?  And forgive me - please forgive me if this sounds sexist, but is that...easier for widows than widowers?  A man in his early 50's traveling alone.... Sometimes I think if…"
Jul 4
Timelord replied to WoodTurner's discussion Permission to Remarry
"Hello Athena - no, my issue with the HOA is that I've been here since 1997 and constantly peppered with clean up porch (don't have a porch) etc.  Daughter is telling me to move...honestly I see the hOA here as a clique that goes only…"
Jul 4
Timelord replied to WoodTurner's discussion Permission to Remarry
"Athena thanks so much!!!!! It's so true that adjustment back from being...single...but like you said it would have to be someone very special. And...one doesn't know if such can happen.  Btw...that cruise sounds amazing. (So…"
Jul 3
Timelord replied to WoodTurner's discussion Permission to Remarry
"Well, I know my Melinda knew that I wouldn't do well alone...and I hate it.  And - full disclosure - about two years after she passed, I did have a short "long-distance" relationship...the lady in question was also a widow, and…"
Jul 3

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I am a widow...married for 23 years to the love of my life...married at 22. Originally (and forever!) from NYC. Currently in Washington, DC area.

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At 6:46am on December 8, 2017, Laurel said…

Hello Timelord - I feel your pain also.  My husband has been gone going on 6 yrs in Feb '18....I have a "new normal"... do I like it - some days yes and somedays no, but I guess acceptance is the key.  And we move on.

Take care

Laurel

At 2:31pm on May 12, 2015, laurajay said…

been sick seriously twice since husband died   scary and exhausting    don't over do   you still need rest....I know because  I do too but I fight it thinking I can do it all knowing I can't   lj  

At 5:49am on May 30, 2014, DW said…

Hi Timelord - my story is pretty much the same - 47, 2 kids 15 and 19, married at 22 - he was 25. We found out he had stage IV liver cancer in July of 2011 and he was gone in April of 2012. Met in college at the University of Iowa where our son is now attending. Life goes on - there is much to celebrate and I don't want to miss anything.

At 4:22pm on May 29, 2014, LifesAJourney said…

Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You will find caring support and friendship here.

Here is the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here! You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you will find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.

 
 
 

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