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Fundamentally unhappy and sad

Started this discussion. Last reply by SweetMelissa2007 Jun 16, 2019. 7 Replies

Hello everyone - it will be 7 years for me this coming May 30th.I am fundamentally unhappy, sad, work people have asked me why I look so "tired" and "sad."My son who is 24 lives about…Continue

Desperately need advice - grown "child" in college mess and argument

Started this discussion. Last reply by Callie2 Apr 16, 2018. 9 Replies

Hello I have daughter in college - only about 2 hours away.  Regular visits, texts back and forth, calls.  Anyway, this past Friday she asked me to come down on Saturday - March 31. …Continue


Started this discussion. Last reply by Athena53 Jan 18, 2017. 3 Replies

Hello everyone - my wife passed four and a half years ago.Just drove daughter back to college, and the same pain is back.'s...likely I think that, at almost 50, that I am going to spend the…Continue

help with melting down teenager

Started this discussion. Last reply by Timelord Dec 29, 2016. 6 Replies

Hello everyone - my wife, Melinda, passed away on May 30, 2012.  I have 2 kids, both at school (home now) D-18, S-22.So we just had a two-day long meltdown.So Christmas Eve, and Christmas and even…Continue


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Timelord replied to Rich's discussion Your reaction to the Coronavirus
"Nationalistic chest thumping... Also the US press is not covering anything about work on vaccines treatments etc"
Mar 19
Timelord replied to Rich's discussion Your reaction to the Coronavirus
"Well said - though I fear for my daugther - she is supposed to start grad school in August...and if she wants to find a job - no one is hiring. I may be very contrarian here, but while all the "lockdowns" (a prison term) around the world…"
Mar 16
Timelord replied to sis's discussion Living Through Rear view Mirror
"Thank you so much!!!!   I am very thankful... knowing one isn't alone. Some days are better than others...thing is...there is so much current crap I'm dealing fills my heart. Sometimes when I'm alone...random things…"
Feb 15
Timelord replied to sis's discussion Living Through Rear view Mirror
"Hello - I so completely understand.  I too essentially live in the rear view mirror. There are a lot of...things going on in my life - living paycheck to paycheck, daughter not handling the death of her mother even 7 years out, etc etc, but -…"
Feb 14
Timelord replied to booktime (Susan)'s discussion New Year's Eve
"Hugs to all...! My New Years will be to make absolutely sure I'm asleep way before Mel's last New years eve she said she spent looking at the lights and the Christmas tree on the top of the roof (lower than her room) of the…"
Dec 30, 2019
Timelord replied to Maggiepie's discussion Talking to hubby in my head or aloud
"Hello - first and foremost... my deepest condolences for your loss.  And also first and foremost you do what makes you feel better. And also...dare I say...a lot of us have done this and I'm sure many - including me - still do it...years…"
Dec 27, 2019
Timelord replied to Dee1960's discussion Happy (bah hum bug) Holidays!
"Thank you!!!  And you as well!!!"
Dec 21, 2019
Timelord replied to Dee1960's discussion Happy (bah hum bug) Holidays!
"Hi - I am very very grateful for your post, because I feel the same way. This is my 8th Christmas without Melinda - my son is engaged, daughter is here from school, but she's an utter basketcase and is super high strung (long story) -…"
Dec 21, 2019
Timelord replied to Lis's discussion Hello
"Hello Lis - my heart goes out to you - you found a good place of many many caring people...I know your heart hurts..."
Dec 7, 2019
Timelord replied to Mrs.Linda's discussion Has your grief suddenly hit you when you least expected it?
"Hi - well, perhaps ironically, I tend to have my moments in the car while driving to/from work or whatnot.  That's where I'm by myself...and I cannot stand being by myself, so to speak, so I've found the world of podcasts (mostly…"
Aug 22, 2019
Timelord replied to JeffS's discussion What's wrong with me?
"Hi - for whatever may be worth - that's pretty much my life before kid #2 got older...but - you know - as your son gets older there will likely be activities to take him to...but yes - life is what it is. You two will - and it takes time -…"
Aug 19, 2019
Timelord replied to JeffS's discussion What's wrong with me?
"Don, first best wishes for your surgery! And sadly - you are 100% correct.  About all of it."
Aug 19, 2019
Timelord replied to Melissa's discussion Loneliness
"Same here.  I am facing the empty house syndrome beginning tomorrow - daughter is going back to school.  No idea what I'll do when she's out of school.  This is her last year,."
Aug 19, 2019
Timelord replied to JeffS's discussion What's wrong with me?
"Hello Jeff! There is NOTHING whatsoever wrong with you - at all.  My wife passed after about 9 months of illness (cancer - at 43....)  I had read and read and read during that time, and I found out that there is such a thing as…"
Aug 19, 2019
Timelord replied to Melissa's discussion Loneliness
"Hi - I know what you mean - at least as much as another person can know... My son lives about 3 hours away with his (very serious) GF, and daughter is going back to her last year of college (about 2 hrs away)...I also just moved about 3 months ago…"
Aug 13, 2019
Timelord replied to LandL (Linda)'s discussion NEED PRAYERS....PLEASE!!
"Thank you Linda!! Everything especially...this sort of...stuff is harder Sounds like your daughter has take a good strong step on her journey to health! When you have a the coming days and weeks...let us know how she and you…"
Jul 15, 2019

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I am a widow...married for 23 years to the love of my life...married at 22. Originally (and forever!) from NYC. Currently in Washington, DC area.

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At 6:46am on December 8, 2017, Laurel said…

Hello Timelord - I feel your pain also.  My husband has been gone going on 6 yrs in Feb '18....I have a "new normal"... do I like it - some days yes and somedays no, but I guess acceptance is the key.  And we move on.

Take care


At 2:31pm on May 12, 2015, laurajay said…

been sick seriously twice since husband died   scary and exhausting    don't over do   you still need rest....I know because  I do too but I fight it thinking I can do it all knowing I can't   lj  

At 5:49am on May 30, 2014, DW said…

Hi Timelord - my story is pretty much the same - 47, 2 kids 15 and 19, married at 22 - he was 25. We found out he had stage IV liver cancer in July of 2011 and he was gone in April of 2012. Met in college at the University of Iowa where our son is now attending. Life goes on - there is much to celebrate and I don't want to miss anything.

At 4:22pm on May 29, 2014, LifesAJourney said…

Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You will find caring support and friendship here.

Here is the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here! You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you will find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.


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