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Tom
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Tom commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2020
"I'm sorry that you're back a second time, CP13. Our numbers for 2020 have about doubled since I joined just about 2 months ago. My wife died of ovarian cancer on April 4th. I just posted a comment on the "Born in the 50's"…"
May 30
Tom replied to Tess's discussion Misery loves company in the group Born in the 50s
"Mari - I just recently read "It's OK that you're NOT OK" and thought it was very good. I also just finished another book that's not specifically about grief but is really the most helpful thing I've read so far.…"
May 30
Tom replied to CatCo's discussion Hard days on top of hard days in the group Widowed in 2020
"CatCo - This coming Saturday would have been our 33rd wedding anniversary, and I am truly dreading the day. Then June 1st will be the 35th anniversary of the day Susan and I met (at a restaurant in New York City). July 20th would have been her 65th…"
May 21
Tom replied to Oskar Ruettiger's discussion Is it wrong to feel angry at family members isolating rather than being in support system ? in the group Widowed in 2020
"I'm sorry you're not getting good support, Oskar. I hope it gets better and that the suggestions other people have made are helpful to you.  In my case, now that my wife is gone (about 6 weeks now), it's just me and my son, who…"
May 21
Tom replied to CatCo's discussion Newly Widowed in the group Widowed in 2020
"CatCo - I am so sorry. My wife died at home of ovarian cancer on April 4th of this year, but it was a more than five year long ordeal for us. You and a number of other people on this site have experienced very sudden losses, and I cannot imagine how…"
May 18
Tom replied to Impala Princess's discussion Corona is making my partner's passing so much more difficult in the group Widowed in 2020
"My wife passed away on April 4th, also, but she was in hospice care at home with us, so I was able to be with her when she died. I am so sorry that you were not. As detailed above, there has been no service for her yet. Dealing with this coronavirus…"
May 5
Tom replied to Impala Princess's discussion Corona is making my partner's passing so much more difficult in the group Widowed in 2020
"Thank you, Gigi. You know, I hope that you are able to have that celebration of life for your husband before too long. I think that people will come just as I know people will come for my wife’s service. Everyone’s life has been put on…"
May 2
Tom replied to Impala Princess's discussion Corona is making my partner's passing so much more difficult in the group Widowed in 2020
"My wife died of ovarian cancer on April 4th, 2020, two weeks after the lockdown went into effect here in Northern California. She told me she did not want to be cremated. She wanted to be buried. The following relates the sad reality of a burial…"
May 1
Tom commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2020
"Gigi, Racquelita and LisaWyo - I am so sorry for all of your losses, especially the suddenness of these deaths in each case. I had a long time to prepare for the inevitable with my Susan, yet it is still a shock. LisaWyo, I have always been the…"
May 1
Tom commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2020
"Thank you, Raquelita, for your support. I want to be clear that I am not attempting to speak on behalf of the group - just making a personal observation. I see that we have about 8 or 9 new members just since I joined at the beginning of the month…"
Apr 30
Tom commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2020
"I really appreciate the insight, Estragon, and you make a lot of good points. I’m going to continue to think about it. Nothing needs to be decided right away, particularly when you’re faced with the possibility of making an irrevocable…"
Apr 26
Tom commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2020
"Thanks, I have been thinking about doing something like that. I can let her have the ones prior to 1985, the year we met, and keep the rest. I want to help her deal with this, as well, and having some of these journals now would help her, I think,…"
Apr 23
Tom commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2020
"I agree the past is often a minefield. My sister and I know, for example, that my grandfather sexually molested my mother when she was a young woman living at home. My mother and her parents have been gone for many years. Her brothers (one of whom…"
Apr 22
Tom commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2020
"Thanks for taking the time to respond and I have received similar advice from others. I do want to clarify something, however. My daughter did ask my wife if she could have the journals, and she said Yes, knowing full well what is in them. If…"
Apr 22
Tom commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2020
"This is a follow-up to what I posted yesterday and might be termed a cautionary tale. As I said, my wife passed away on April 4th, 2020 after a five plus year battle with ovarian cancer. I’m not alone because my son lives with me. He is 29 and…"
Apr 22
Tom replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"My wife passed away on April 4th, 2020 after a five plus year battle with ovarian cancer. We were married for nearly 33 years. I’m 63 now and entirely new to being a widow, but it’s been interesting to read the comments of people who…"
Apr 21

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At 6:59pm on June 1, 2020, Aloneagain said…

Thank for the book suggestions. It is so difficult to ask for help.  I will not say the common “sorry for your loss” Because for me is an empty thing.  What an enduring person you must be to go through this more than once. I lost my husband in March of this year and I am falling apart.

At 9:38am on April 21, 2020, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville,Tom. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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