"Monday the 10th marks three months since my husband died. This week has been really difficult. Yesterday, I woke up and just could not get out of the house to go to work. Got the kids ready, dropped them off at school and came…"
"My husband died three and a half months ago and for the moment at least I'm out of the "fog" that surrounded me in the first couple of months.
I hope it doesn't come back. I'm definitely not dead on the inside. There is life…"
"Yes I feel the same.. going through the motins of life.. things I have to do.but no real emotions inside. like someone built a brick wall around my heart. It is beating and I am moving. I am thankful for my daughter, grandson.. and of course I…"
"This is exactly how I feel. I was afraid to say that word wondering if people would think I was a freak. Being empty on the inside is how I feel. I wonder how long it will be before I can feel again. Some times I think I don't want to feel and…"
"It took a good 3 years I would say for me to start really coming out of the "fog". I think we all handle it in a very personally way and our time frames will of course be different, but it will clear and you will feel like a person again.…"
"How long is a piece of string...same answer...
It takes as long as it takes and can't be rushed through i've found over the years. 2nd time for me so I'm finding myself viewing this journey slightly differently this time...I…"
"This is pretty much how I feel right now. It's like I'm disconnected from my own life or something. It's very weird, and I keep having to bring myself back to the present moment. Meditation helps, but I can't sit and meditate all…"
"I don't know if this is the same thing, but most of the time, I feel like nothing is real. It's like I'm watching someone else's life or a movie. It's been 14 months and I've had this feeling for most of…"
"I wish I would have asked him to take care of his will. I did ask and he just said take care of it. I didn't. He died. And I am fighting an ugly, expensive succession battle with his children. I would also have liked to have known if he wanted…"
"You're not alone. I feel the same way, although not the zombie comparison, but like a boat just circling around in the water, not able to reach the destination. I feel enveloped in fog, unable to see where our life is going, what…"
"Marsha and Toni, me too. Over 15 months, and I can't believe, or well, I can, how bad I still feel. This is the pits.
And yeah, there are days when it's a little better, thankfully. Then, kablowy, right back…"
"Wondering the same thing too Trippin Toni. Some days think I'm ok.....other days not so good. Feel empty and wonder where I belong. Just going on 1.5 years and still trying to figure things out. It's a long process. Go through the motions…"
"My husband may have not been perfect, but he was perfect for me. I told him every day . I could not believe I found my soul mate. We made each other better people. We enjoyed the same things. Laughed at the same things. Broke…"
Thank you for your friend request. Hope maybe we can help each other along the way. I have a mantra that I use'it's: "look up,give thanks for what has been and what is to be."
A few months after Jerry passed I was walking on a trail and crying looking at the ground when suddenly I HEARD(didn't imagine) I actually heard "Brenda ,look up" I stoped dead in my tracks and looked around--no one but me and the trees. then the give thanks for what has been and what is to be came into my mind. I know it was Jerry telling me to look for the good in my life now.Really hard to do but I am trying.
The whole not having them to help us through the bad seems impossible but I am finding strength and I choice to believe he is sending it to me. I just have to look for it and accept it when it comes, whatever form it may be. The beauty of the clouds in the sky -a word of kindness from a not friend yet-the unexpected pleasure of a laugh over something silly.
I hope something I've shared gives you a nano-second of peace-take care,Brenda
Hi Toni you proably don't remember but I was one of the many that where concerned about you the other night. So glad that I have a chance to speak to you.
So understand your anger with the stupid things people say. The thing that really dovre me carzy was 'you need to talk" 'yea really tell me one damn word that will make this right and I will say it a million million times.
I am almost to two yrs(on 20th) and am amazed that I have made it to this point.
Please know that I care as do many others that you are feeling such pain. Would love to help--sorry don't have a magic wand but have pretty good ears to listen.
Welcome to Widowed Village, Toni. Join the groups that fit you, jump into the forum discussions, try out the chat room, add some friends. I hope you're able to make some wonderful connections here in this very special place.