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Valerie
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Valerie updated their profile
Feb 22, 2014
Valerie commented on dvlkitten (Kathy S.)'s blog post One Day Closer
"I understand this too. I remember sitting in an office at the bank, handing over the cheque and having this huge sinking pit in my stomach. So much anxiety. So much guilt. For some reason I thought that this man (at the bank) must think I'm an…"
Sep 17, 2012
Valerie replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Widow Brain: have you done anything DUMB or unusual?
"Did that."
Feb 23, 2012
Valerie replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Widow Brain: have you done anything DUMB or unusual?
"Haha! In another coat pocket. I had taken it off to play volleyball. And I checked the next day in the coat pocket and it wasn't there. Well it turned out I was checking the wrong coat pocket. (How do I not know which jacket I was wearing the…"
Jan 15, 2012
Valerie replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Widow Brain: have you done anything DUMB or unusual?
"Found it! My watch."
Jan 15, 2012
Valerie replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Widow Brain: have you done anything DUMB or unusual?
"I found $70 in a pair of pants 2 weeks ago. Which was great, except how did I not realize that I'd lost $70 earlier? And I misplaced my watch two nights ago. Still haven't found it."
Jan 12, 2012
Valerie replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Widow Brain: have you done anything DUMB or unusual?
"I did the shoe thing too. I've also worn my slippers to work too!!! Thankfully I have an extra pair there."
Jan 12, 2012
Valerie commented on Soaring Spirits's group Long-term illness
"That last week was so hard. Dave was diagnosed with Esophageal cancer and died exactly 6 months later. We / HE fought to live until the very end. We both thought he would survive despite the terminal diagnosis and at the very least we both believed…"
Jan 3, 2012
Valerie commented on Soaring Spirits's group Long-term illness
"My husband died 17 1/2 months ago of esophageal cancer as well. (Who knew that heartburn can cause cancer?) He was diagnosed on Dec 14 2009 and died exactly 6 months later on June 14 2010. Devastating but you guys all know that. (For those of you…"
Nov 30, 2011
Valerie commented on Soaring Spirits's group Long-term illness
""This mini-movie keeps popping up.  I'm not sure if I should let it play or stop it.  Push it down because everytime it plays all the way through I end up sobbing and crying and feeling blue.  What do you think?  Should…"
Oct 13, 2011
teriw and Valerie are now friends
Sep 14, 2011
Valerie replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion September triggers and occasions of all kinds.
"We've had a very hot summer, and just this week the weather turned quite cold for a few days. It felt like fall was already in the air, and it instantly made me so sad that another season was changing. Another season without Dave. I'm at…"
Sep 9, 2011
Valerie replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Deneice. I'm sorry to hear about your loss too. :( It seems so senseless when our spouses die so young. It's not supposed to be this way. I would urge you to consider griefshare.org to find a support group. They offer 13 week grief support…"
Sep 9, 2011
Valerie replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Are you "wise?" How have you changed since your loss?
"Thanks Supa!   And thanks so much for this site!"
Sep 3, 2011
Valerie replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Are you "wise?" How have you changed since your loss?
"I don't think I'm wise really. (I think it's one of those things where the more you know, the more you realize how little you know.) At 16 months now, and I actually feel less 'in tune' with life, death, and the big picture…"
Sep 1, 2011
Valerie replied to butterfly430's discussion Stuck in Denial...
"Yes. It IS awful, and just as you describe. You briefly forget and then the realization quickly comes back and it really is like the wind being knocked out of you. I`m at 16 months now. I think it was really bad for the first 4 months. It does…"
Aug 30, 2011

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Dave died on June 14 2010 at the age of 45.

He was diagnosed with esophageal cancer exactly 6 months earlier. We refused to believe it was terminal and fought it to the very end.

He was active and very much alive. It was surreal and heartbreaking to say the least to watch him fade away and die in front of our eyes.

We have a 20+ year old son.

As you all know, life is not the same and pretty much just sucks.

Happy to have found WidVille at about the 1 year mark. Wish I'd found it earlier.

www.DaveRichardsMemory.blogspot.com

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At 7:53am on July 23, 2011, Lee said…

Valarie welcome to our community of broken hearts.  We are all here because we lost the one closest to us.  I lost my Madeline on May 16 and it has been an emotional roller coaster, just as your loss has been.  We are here for each other so when you feel like your friends and family just don't understand, come here and pour out your feelings because We will get it.  We are having the same feelings and emotions you are having.

When you hear those funny little bleeps that means someone is in the chat area talking in real time. Click on the chat button, it doesn't mean you have to chat, you can just lurk as we call it, and see what the topic is.  When you are ready jump in and say Hi I am new.  We will all welcome you.

At 7:19pm on July 22, 2011, Dianne in Nevada said…
Welcome, Valerie. So pleased you found us. Take a look at the forum discussions and jump right in or try out the chat room ... there are some wonderful conversations taking place here.
At 4:06pm on July 22, 2011, Alive & Mortal said…
I hope you find what you need here to heal and make your way. I am glad you have joined us. YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Welcome to our little floating interwebs community.
At 4:00pm on July 22, 2011, Lisa (lost) Lamb said…

So glad you found us!

 

   I hope you find as my confort and understanding here as I have.

 
 
 

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