"Hello Tapevad, I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. It will be four years in May for me. I come here occasionally to reassure myself that I'm not the only one who still has meltdowns. The waves of grief have become a…"
"Noelene, my heart goes out to you. Please be as gentle and kind to yourself as you would be in comforting your best friend. If you've never read the reading about grief waves, please google it. For me it is true. The grief comes in waves. At…"
"Cee, I've not seen another Pennsylvania person in this group in a long time. I live in central PA and we have a Perry County Fair in August that I usually attend. I don't remember ever attending the Kutztown…"
"Bless all of you. Just when I think I am the only one who can't "get a grip" you let me know I am normal. Today I went to a funeral for a friend and sat in the car and cried my eyes out. So I went flower…"
"The one-year mark is behind me. It is rare to have a day that I don't cry but I do cry less. And the fear that suffocated me has subsided.....well, at least lessened. I think I'm more accepting of my new reality. I still don't like it…"
"Hi Gail, I am Jeanne. We chat by email and I am your Facebook friend. Ron was diagnosed August 2014 and died May 2015 = for me, nine months of being scared to death and disappointed and filled with dread to this past nine months…"
"A very open and honest friend of mine just pointed out to me that I can't talk about my husband and the pain of our journey that started with his lung cancer diagnosis without crying but I can talk to another who is facing the fear and…"
"Oh my, so many of these posts resonate with me. I don't want to get rid of the home we shared or any of my husband's things unless they go to someone who wants them because they bring warm memories. I know I should be sharing…"
"Nice gray-haired women, my system is called Iris and it is sold exclusively by Lowe's. I am so thankful our son got it and taught me how to use it. It has many features you can add but for now it is so nice to be able to turn on lights and be…"
"I am 66, too, and I was very uncomfortable alone. Our (not willing to only say "my") son got a system that utilizes my iPhone. So far, I can turn on various lights, detect motion, and be alerted if someone would try to enter our/my home.…"
"Just my opinion but I say reach out. I don't feel that it is a reasonable expectation to expect others to read my mind. None of my closest friends has been on this journey. I'm on it and I don't even know what will help at times."
"Welcome nice gray-haired women. I lost my husband on May 3rd after 45 years of marriage. We met when we were 15 and 17. I, too, have never been alone. This is so incredibly hard. My emotions are unpredictable. Just when I think I'm doing okay,…"
"Although I haven't commented in quite a while, I'm still reading your posts and learning. One of these days, I'm going to compile some of your words of wisdom in one easily accessible place. My husband and I went…"
"Correction: My friend's daughter had four young children. So unfair. For relaxation, has anyone tried those new coloring books for adults? I know they aren't for me. Instead of relaxing me, I'm sure they…"
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