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Wendy
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  • Austin, TX
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Wendy's Discussions

New nephew...mixed emotions over his name

Started this discussion. Last reply by Princess Warrior Widow Nov 3, 2013. 1 Reply

My brother-in-law (late husband's brother) just had a baby this morning.  I got a text with a picture of the baby and his name, stats, etc.  His name (first, middle, and last) is only one letter away…Continue

Engaged and Thrilled...but not everyone is happy for me

Started this discussion. Last reply by Gaining Strength May 14. 13 Replies

It has been 3.5 years since my husband passed away suddenly.  He was 31 at the time and I was 29.  During my grieving, I went against the conventional wisdom and made many major life changes -- I…Continue

Do you get angry if someone survives the event or illness that killed your spouse?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Wendy Aug 24, 2011. 26 Replies

My husband died of a pulmonary embolism.  Sometimes, people catch these in time and get medical treatment and survive.  Serena Williams was just treated for a pulmonary embolism (blood clot in the…Continue

 

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IndiaKai liked Wendy's blog post How to Date Me, a Widow
May 29
Hanh liked Wendy's blog post How to Date Me, a Widow
May 29
cjh0588 commented on Wendy's blog post How to Date Me, a Widow
"You have summed up what I have tried to explain so many times thank you. I wish you well"
May 29
Gaining Strength replied to Wendy's discussion Engaged and Thrilled...but not everyone is happy for me
"Good that you found love again. A person so young cannot live a life that is only dedicated to the memory of someone who has passed away. However I too think that your sister is still grieving for her brother-in-law.  People sometimes never get…"
May 14
Princess Warrior Widow replied to Wendy's discussion New nephew...mixed emotions over his name
"I find that there are things that catch me off guard and take my breath away. I have to gather myself, take a deep breath and say wow."
Nov 3, 2013
Wendy posted a discussion

New nephew...mixed emotions over his name

My brother-in-law (late husband's brother) just had a baby this morning.  I got a text with a picture of the baby and his name, stats, etc.  His name (first, middle, and last) is only one letter away from my late husband's name.  One different letter in the first name, that makes it a different name.  The rest is the same.  I had no idea they were thinking of doing this and I was surprised.  It's been almost 4 years since Brian died, and I've remarried, so I'm doing well and not some delicate…See More
Oct 28, 2013
smileanywayNJ commented on Wendy's blog post How to Date Me, a Widow
"Thanks Wendy, I needed that ! Best wishes to you:) "
Oct 12, 2013
Leftbehind commented on Wendy's blog post How to Date Me, a Widow
"Thank you Wendy, that was so perfectly said.  God bless you, and your new journey."
Sep 26, 2013
Leftbehind liked Wendy's blog post How to Date Me, a Widow
Sep 26, 2013
Maria Louisa replied to Wendy's discussion Engaged and Thrilled...but not everyone is happy for me
"Wow - it sounds to me like your sister is immature and a bit selfish, but also that she really did bond (in a good way) with your first husband. He was family to her, and her current resistance reminds me of kids who can't rejoice when their…"
Jun 8, 2013
Mariposa replied to Wendy's discussion Engaged and Thrilled...but not everyone is happy for me
"Congratulations on your marriage and on finding love!  Good for you that moving away actually opened up new possibilities that led you to meet a wonderful man who you are about to wed. With regards to your sister, she is young and because she…"
Jun 8, 2013
jan09 replied to Wendy's discussion Engaged and Thrilled...but not everyone is happy for me
"I don't think your sister is jealous of you for finding love twice or had a crush on your husband....don't understand the therapist's theory-how can your therapist even think that way???   I think your sister loved your…"
Jun 8, 2013
TimetoFly replied to Wendy's discussion Engaged and Thrilled...but not everyone is happy for me
"First of all....Congrats!!! How amazing it is to find love again and to want to make that commitment again. Your post caught my eye because I was very close to my B.I.L. who I grew up with and loved more then my own brother and would of had a hard…"
Jun 5, 2013
rodsgurl09 replied to Wendy's discussion Engaged and Thrilled...but not everyone is happy for me
"Agree with the others. Your sister will come around. I think she probably has a LOT of mixed emotions....missing Brian, jealousy over your having found love again while she has not. Don't worry about her...she will come out okay and so will the…"
Jun 4, 2013
Phyllis replied to Wendy's discussion Engaged and Thrilled...but not everyone is happy for me
"Wendy, you need to follow your heart.  Your sister will come around; she just needs to grow up, and she will.  And kudos to you for not lashing out at her and turning away.  She will come around and it sounds like you have the…"
Jun 4, 2013
Lisa ( Marielee) replied to Wendy's discussion Engaged and Thrilled...but not everyone is happy for me
"Wendy - I agree 100% also - You have a smart therapist- Life is for the living - Go for it and don't look back:) Wishing you much happiness and love to come !"
Jun 4, 2013

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How to Date Me, a Widow

Posted on April 6, 2011 at 3:57pm 17 Comments

I bring certain things with me to the table that others do not.  Please do not call this “baggage” – that is insulting.  My husband, my life story, and my heartache are cheapened by that kind of crass terminology.  Everyone has a history, a story, some things to be proud of, some things to regret, and some things they bring to the table through no fault or action of their own.  I am just like everyone else in this way.

My history is unique, so dating me will be different the dating…

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This is How We Do It, It's Friday Night...

Posted on April 2, 2011 at 12:00pm 3 Comments

How does one tell if a date has been a disaster?  I think mine last night was.



I met this guy about a month ago.  We hit it off really well.  We talked for a couple hours at the bar the night we met, and our first date went on for hours and hours as well.  We started talking on the phone and via text pretty regularly.  There was…
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The Dating Game

Posted on March 25, 2011 at 9:57am 0 Comments

Well, I'm ready to start dating again....or for the first time, I guess.  Yikes.  I've been thinking a lot about how to go about this, whether to blog about it, how much to share online, etc....and I don't know that I'll make the right decisions every step of the way.  In fact, I probably won't.  I've never gone through this before, so it's silly to think I'll do everything right the first time I try.



For those who don't know, I started dating my husband when we were teenagers -- I… Continue

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At 7:45pm on February 27, 2012, widow@34 said…
Thank you so much for sharing your story. Thank you so much for the article as well. This site has been so helpful. I hope that i can get to camp widow, im trying so hard to get through this, waiting on the report, replaying everything that has happened in my marriage, the guilt, the regret, realizing now what i had, all the emotions are so overwhelming, the worst is he is no longer here to love and that our daughter no longer has her daddy.
At 2:30am on December 28, 2011, Dianne in Nevada said…

Hoping you have a Happy Birthday, Wendy.

Dianne

At 10:27pm on December 27, 2011,
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Hi there beautiful! I may not be in tomorrow so wanted to wish you a Happy Birthday a bit early. (I have never been early for ANYTHING).

Look forward to speaking more about what we can do for the conversation about dating! Hot topic, for sure!

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Supa

At 9:41pm on June 24, 2011, Debbie said…

Hi Wendy,

Thank you for your kind words...some days seem completely hopeless, but reading the posts on this site seem to help since everyone seems to be struggling with the same feelings. 

At 11:10pm on May 11, 2011, Teresa said…
Hi Wendy!  Thank you for the friend request!  I haven't run into any of us in Austin, except for one aquaintance.  I read alot on here but don't usually post too much.
At 9:05am on April 7, 2011, CrazyWidow said…
Thinking of you today!
At 10:36am on March 25, 2011, Dianne in Nevada said…
Hi Wendy.  You've already made some big life changes and you've come to the right place to help you "rebuild". I'm also in the Widowed in 2010 group.  Joining groups is a great way to get connected to others who have similar experiences.  Request some friends, try out the chat room, just immerse yourself in this very special place. Check out Camp Widow, too. I look forward to getting acquainted with you here in 'Widville'
At 6:31pm on March 13, 2011, Boo said…
welcome Wendy, have you joined any groups or discussions yet?  They are the best way IMHO for getting to know each other better :-)
At 9:59pm on March 11, 2011, uswithoutyou said…
I just sent you a friend request because your name is Wendy too:).
 
 
 

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