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Engaged and Thrilled...but not everyone is happy for me

Started this discussion. Last reply by Gaining Strength May 14, 2014. 13 Replies

It has been 3.5 years since my husband passed away suddenly.  He was 31 at the time and I was 29.  During my grieving, I went against the conventional wisdom and made many major life changes -- I…Continue

Do you get angry if someone survives the event or illness that killed your spouse?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Wendy Aug 24, 2011. 26 Replies

My husband died of a pulmonary embolism.  Sometimes, people catch these in time and get medical treatment and survive.  Serena Williams was just treated for a pulmonary embolism (blood clot in the…Continue


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How to Date Me, a Widow

Posted on April 6, 2011 at 11:57am 17 Comments

I bring certain things with me to the table that others do not.  Please do not call this “baggage” – that is insulting.  My husband, my life story, and my heartache are cheapened by that kind of crass terminology.  Everyone has a history, a story, some things to be proud of, some things to regret, and some things they bring to the table through no fault or action of their own.  I am just like everyone else in this way.

My history is unique, so dating me will be different the dating…


This is How We Do It, It's Friday Night...

Posted on April 2, 2011 at 8:00am 3 Comments

How does one tell if a date has been a disaster?  I think mine last night was.

I met this guy about a month ago.  We hit it off really well.  We talked for a couple hours at the bar the night we met, and our first date went on for hours and hours as well.  We started talking on the phone and via text pretty regularly.  There was…

The Dating Game

Posted on March 25, 2011 at 5:57am 0 Comments

Well, I'm ready to start dating again....or for the first time, I guess.  Yikes.  I've been thinking a lot about how to go about this, whether to blog about it, how much to share online, etc....and I don't know that I'll make the right decisions every step of the way.  In fact, I probably won't.  I've never gone through this before, so it's silly to think I'll do everything right the first time I try.

For those who don't know, I started dating my husband when we were teenagers -- I… Continue

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At 3:45pm on February 27, 2012, [email protected] said…
Thank you so much for sharing your story. Thank you so much for the article as well. This site has been so helpful. I hope that i can get to camp widow, im trying so hard to get through this, waiting on the report, replaying everything that has happened in my marriage, the guilt, the regret, realizing now what i had, all the emotions are so overwhelming, the worst is he is no longer here to love and that our daughter no longer has her daddy.
At 10:30pm on December 27, 2011, Dianne in Nevada said…

Hoping you have a Happy Birthday, Wendy.


At 6:27pm on December 27, 2011,
Soaring Spirits

Hi there beautiful! I may not be in tomorrow so wanted to wish you a Happy Birthday a bit early. (I have never been early for ANYTHING).

Look forward to speaking more about what we can do for the conversation about dating! Hot topic, for sure!



At 5:41pm on June 24, 2011, Debbie said…

Hi Wendy,

Thank you for your kind words...some days seem completely hopeless, but reading the posts on this site seem to help since everyone seems to be struggling with the same feelings. 

At 7:10pm on May 11, 2011, Teresa said…
Hi Wendy!  Thank you for the friend request!  I haven't run into any of us in Austin, except for one aquaintance.  I read alot on here but don't usually post too much.
At 5:05am on April 7, 2011, CrazyWidow said…
Thinking of you today!
At 6:36am on March 25, 2011, Dianne in Nevada said…
Hi Wendy.  You've already made some big life changes and you've come to the right place to help you "rebuild". I'm also in the Widowed in 2010 group.  Joining groups is a great way to get connected to others who have similar experiences.  Request some friends, try out the chat room, just immerse yourself in this very special place. Check out Camp Widow, too. I look forward to getting acquainted with you here in 'Widville'
At 2:31pm on March 13, 2011, Boo said…
welcome Wendy, have you joined any groups or discussions yet?  They are the best way IMHO for getting to know each other better :-)
At 5:59pm on March 11, 2011, uswithoutyou said…
I just sent you a friend request because your name is Wendy too:).

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