"Concentrate on you. We listen to what everyone else is giving but then lose ourselves in doubt. Never doubt your own instincts. That was my New Years resolution this year - to listen to my gut instincts more this year than everyone else's…"
"If you are struggling on your own behalf may I suggest doing small things first? Maybe his sock drawer, sorting what is called a ladies toolbox of tools into a smaller box for your own use, his junk drawer, his side of the medicine cabinet, his…"
"HillbillyWitchDr - I never had that luxury, his grown children put me thru probate after clearing our home of everything they felt entitled to. I lost him and about everything we owned in the same instant. My hubbys death was sudden and unexpected…"
"Hello all, I thank you for your input in reminding everyone to put it in writing! One of the most important things of love and respect that can be done, in my book.
In my case we did go try to have my name put on the house but we had taken a…"
"Steve - thank you for the uplifting words. I sure hope I get to where you're at in your life one day. Yesterday was 20 months so pretty bleak right now. And, yes, I am positive my husband is disappointed in the acts of his children. That is not…"
"Hi Diane and let me begin by saying how sincerely sorry I am for your loss. Love and light to you on your healing.
I have heard some stories from friends about the greed monster that comes out in people upon the loss of a loved one and now have had…"
"BergenJC, with your warm sweet attitude I cannot imagine your father's wife not wanting you by her side as she also adjusts to being in the "widow shoes". I would love to have my DH's entire huge family back in my life but…"
"Liz, thank you for the hug, that was sweet & I'm grateful for it. And no problem with no acknowledgement, we all know why we are here. And im very sorry your step daughter did not think before she spoke. I know I was amazed…"
"Steve - what a lovely story you and Mike had. And, at the very least, you and he did have that time to leave nothing unsaid and say good-bye. Brought me to tears.
very happy you were able to step back into life after a few years and find someone ax…"
"To bohunker357 - oh my, please accept my deepest sympathy on not only the loss of your beloved wife but the trauma of finding her as you did.
By the date of her passing you have already been thru the "firsts" on the major…"
"Patricia - maybe when you are ready you can take your wedding ring (s) to a jeweler & have it/them made into something else. Or if you are never ready for that maybe you can leave them to someone else you cherish. Or request they be buried with…"
"Sad One, please accept my deepest sympathy for your loss. As for the visit you had, I believe some folks just forget to filter the brain to mouth process a bit during our most shocked and mind/soul numbing time. She may not have meant to hurt you…"
"Hi Steve, a big thank you for your warm welcome to the " Born In The 60's" section of WV, and my sincerest condolences to you for the loss of your life partner. My husband and I were together 15 yrs., had just planned out his early…"
"I am happy to welcome you to the club no one wants to belong to :-) Ironic isn't it. Anyway, thank you for reaching out to me, I whole heartedly want to provide any support or help I can and please just know that we all here totally understand…"
"Hello all, my deepest and most sincere condolences on the loss of your loved one(s). I just joined today and am so very happy to have found a place that fits and folks that understand the journey I am taking right now. I lost my wonderful…"
"My husbands daughter was getting ready to go back to her home in CA. after the funeral. She stopped me for one last question: Since you no longer have use for dad's wedding ring, can I have it?
Completely stunned speechless. Still am."
I am happy to welcome you to the club no one wants to belong to :-) Ironic isn't it. Anyway, thank you for reaching out to me, I whole heartedly want to provide any support or help I can and please just know that we all here totally understand what you're (we're) going through. My husband died almost two years ago - the first year I mostly didn't get out of bed and often spent days wearing the same clothes, after all, who sees me and really , who cares if they do... not me. Anyway, I've gone from that to mostly changing my clothes and mostly taking a shower and if others care, I certainly don't. I've made a lot of progress along this road and you will too - it's just slow and very hard work but we are in this together and the group here is so amazingly supportive and loving --- please reach out any time you want to talk or vent or just even to scream --- we've all been there and will be again but the way you know things are getting better is that, even though the road is the same, the scenery changes. Thinking of you and wishing you peace - Angel Dawg
So sorry for the reason that you’re here but glad you’ve joined us. You’ll find insight, understanding and support here at Widowed Village. We’re traveling the same road together some further down the road than others. Join a group when you’re ready to get better connected. Participate in a forum and/or chat anytime. If you have questions, feel free to ask. There is always someone around willing to help. Below is a link that you might find helpful as a new member.