Two weeks before Melissa died, she looked at me and said "I want you to get married again". She went on to say she did not think I was the kind of person who would do well without a wife. The only…Continue
"Great post-I remember my wife telling me "I think you'll find someone again. You are healthy and virile." I remember how uncomfortable I was with her comment, particularly the last word-lol.
I really thought I would pick up and…"
YES , YES, AND YES !
I have a lot to say on this and no time now.
I thought I had hit the "Add Repy" button to post my comment back when you 1st posted this.
I will be back on this post.
"Misty, I am sorry for your loss. How recently did Jerry pass? I have the feeling that you are going to find happiness again...because you chose to find it. Happiness comes from within ourselves. Another person can only…"
"I know what you mean! My Grandpa married less than 2 years after Grandma died. His second wife was left pretty much destitute after her first husband died; for one thing, he'd elected a pension with no Survivor benefit because it…"
"Athena, almost all the widows I know are not interested in marriage. However most of the widowers seem to want to marry again, usually within a year. I think women adjust better to living alone. I never lived alone until I was 74. I enjoy being with…"
"I agree, Bobbysgirl, When Ron and I married, I was 50 and he was 65. I new I'd probably outlive him but hoped that we'd be blessed with a lot of good years before that happened. Thanks be to God, we were. Now at 65…"
"Michele, I tnink it does make a difference. In my case I was a caretaker for many years and I know I could never do it again. I also think age makes a difference. It takes time to build a relationship. I am 79, in good health but I accept the fact…"
"Interesting discussionMy Jerry was a widower (6 yrs out) when I met him. He was 17 yrs older than I. We had this discussion very early on. Jerry certainly expressed to me that he hoped I'd move forward and find real…"
"I wonder if it makes a difference in your willingness to love again if you lost your spouse suddenly, as I did, or if you were a caretaker? What do you think?
@Woodturner....yes, there are a lot of crazies out there...I think as a…"
"I felt that way, too, WoodTurner. When you watch someone you love waste away to nothing and become so fragile you're afraid to let them walk unassisted because they night fall, and see the quality of their life deteriorate, it's not…"
"I've been widowed for just over 6 years and 7 months and I have no desire to remarry even though I know Jim would want me too. I won't ever say I will never marry but I don't see it in my future. I enjoy my alone time and I…"
"It is certainly an individual decision. Scary to think about dating with all the crazy people out there. Also knowing I am going to be very picky trying to replace someone who I went through so much with. I was only a caregiver for less than a year…"
"We can't win, can we, Michele? :-) Half of us are getting the message that "you'll find someone" and the other half are getting the message that we ought to dress in mourning for the rest of our lives (I always…"
"Interesting topic...I think that everyone has to decide what is ok for them at what time/stage after their life altering loss. Yes, loneliness and the need for human companionship and touch are very normal, I would think, if you have been in a close…"
"@Suzy - you know...I'm an introvert as well, but my job is the opposite...but and however - I have a feeling that I'm on my way to hermit-ness...I miss my wife ...hate being alone, but - indeed - being alone tends to...stick..."
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