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YLG
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  • Raleigh, NC
  • United States
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YLG commented on Miss Em (Emma)'s blog post The right time for everything
"There were many small moments. Like unloading the dryer filled with Martin's clothes. The same ones he wore in the day of the night he passed. At first, I blindly shoved them into his dresser. And I realized that neither of our sons would ever…"
Sunday
YLG commented on MomOfBoys (Tammi)'s blog post Sundays
"Martin died on a Sunday...but I am not counting Sundays. I am still wearing my wedding band. In the old days, people wore them until a new love came around. I know. People will view it as a barrier. Don't care. I will always be married to…"
Sep 15
YLG replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"I have taken on a few of Martin's habits, as well. It's amazing to know that when they were here, they were themselves- a counter balance to us. But now, I realized how much I knew and learned and I use it every chance I get.  I am 54…"
Sep 14
YLG replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"UGH. I tell people that my grief from the death of Martin is no different than the grief someone else is going through in divorce. People try to quantify it by saying we had no choice because death was imminent or unexpected. Sometimes divorce is…"
Sep 14
shellybean commented on YLG's blog post Breakfast at Wimbledon
"I love that you're continuing your bond with Martin by keeping that tradition alive! <3 "
Jul 5
YLG commented on YLG's blog post Breakfast at Wimbledon
"I bought the stuff. :) Looks like my big kids will be home to celebrate with me. And kid 2 is going to be 5 hands old. Another Martin tradition. As the Talking Heads now rolls through my brain.."What have I done....how did I get here...and the…"
Jul 4
MartyG (ver. 2.1) commented on YLG's blog post Breakfast at Wimbledon
"Well written....thank you :)"
Jul 4
YLG posted a blog post

Breakfast at Wimbledon

Today is July 4th. Saturday we would have been married for 32 years. Once upon a time,we considered vow renewal for our 30th. Life had other plans. Martin was unemployed in the year before he passed and had just landed a new job. We had no life insurance. A perk of employment, and naturally believing in "what could go wrong?". Yes. The "joke" was on me. Us. But not really. Everything was right in our world when he died. It's only not right in mine because he is not here to be my back-up. I'm…See More
Jul 4
YLG commented on royoungs's blog post Today would have been our 32nd wedding anniversary...She's been gone for 3yrs. I feel so numb, empty and lifeless.
"On Saturday, it would be our 32nd. We didn't get to celebrate our last together as Martin was off trying to make a dream come true. We loved tennis and usually celebrated with "Breakfast at Wimbledon". We would make great Quiche,…"
Jul 4
YLG replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Firefly2018...Keep your glow and find the happy when you can! The grief is still very raw in many ways and especially for you. I don't remember much. Hopefully you have friends and family to guide you along...or maybe you've been strong…"
May 10
YLG replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"If it was not a heart attack, then the likelihood of restoring a rhythm through CPR or AED machine is nil. Martin died from an embolism. He was "PEA" which means pulseless electrical activity...they worked on him for nearly an hour. I…"
Apr 29
YLG replied to Aly brabham's discussion Is it normal to keep items around your house of theirs
"It's been 18 months and I cannot remove Martin's wallet with the $5 bill on top from the nightstand. Nor can I wash out his sink in the bathroom or clean his mirror. I have trouble changing my sheets because I just get overwhelmed that he…"
Apr 29
YLG replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion When did you remove your wedding rings?
"My daughter has a hope in her mind that one of our friends will be my next love because they will have loved me from afar but because we were "Martin and Denise" it was not possible. Now, it seems...it is. I am not afraid to date but at…"
Apr 29
YLG replied to Ninie's discussion The Love Of My Life Died at 24
"You're emotions are very raw and the pain must be unbearable. I believe it does get better. I am not as young as you are, but I do understand how looking at the future can seem bleak because your plans are being abandoned and it can't be…"
Apr 29
YLG replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Nickdanny-I am the opposite. I am afraid to leave because everyone here knew Martin and those connections have saved me in a way. Sometimes we expect more from people who don't understand. And sometimes they really don't know what to say.…"
Apr 29
YLG replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"My name is Denise. I lost my husband, Martin 18 months ago. We were married for 30 years. It was unexpected. I spent a good three hours waiting for the funeral home to come in the middle of the night. I stood in my kitchen and repeated the words,…"
Apr 29

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I was married for 30 years and I have four children. I am an Army Veteran. I went to college in Pensacola. Despite our loss, life is good!

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Breakfast at Wimbledon

Posted on July 4, 2018 at 8:00am 3 Comments

Today is July 4th. Saturday we would have been married for 32 years. Once upon a time,we considered vow renewal for our 30th. Life had other plans. Martin was unemployed in the year before he passed and had just landed a new job. We had no life insurance. A perk of employment, and naturally believing in "what could go wrong?". Yes. The "joke" was on me. Us. But not really. Everything was right in our world when he died. It's only not right in mine because he is not here to be my back-up.…

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At 7:05pm on April 28, 2018, judy said…

Hi YLG,

Welcome to Widowed Village. I am very sorry for your loss, but happy that you found us. You will find caring, loving support and friendship here.

 

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