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Started this discussion. Last reply by adoption1964 Sep 18, 2017. 6 Replies

Hello, my name is Kim. I lost my loving husband to stage iv kidney cancer May 2, 2017. We were married 15 years. Our 16th wedding anniversary would have been 08/16/17. Everything happened so quickly.…Continue

 

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Rainy commented on adoption1964's blog post December 31, 2017
"Hi adoption, I was just checking in.  I hope you've gotten some brighter news by now.  I know what it's like to have the domino effect going on.  Hang in there."
Jan 10
adoption1964 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"Good Morning, I have not been on here for a couple of days.  I read the most recent comments and I can relate to all of them. I agree this is a great source for connection, insight and understanding.  The journey we are now are will be the…"
Jan 9
adoption1964 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"Good morning to all of you who are new widows, I found the chat room quite insightful.  There is a good mix of widows on there, some with less than 1 year and others who have 5+ there is hope.  Moving through and forward is extremely…"
Jan 4
Callie2 commented on adoption1964's blog post December 31, 2017
"Sorry to hear about all that. Hoping your luck changes and things go a bit smoother for you. Sending you a warm hug....."
Jan 2
adoption1964 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"NancyD thank you so much for your support.  I am struggling with how much I should share with my daughter.  She always says she needs to be there for me and her kids.  I try to tell her I am fine and if I cry I cry.  It is really…"
Jan 2
adoption1964 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"Hello my screen comes up Adoption1964 -  my name is Kim - I want to keep that real.  It seems that so much seems on surreal or unreal at times.  I am who I am and reality was I rang in the New Year as a widow and it hit me like a ton…"
Jan 2
InsideLove commented on adoption1964's blog post December 31, 2017
"/||\ prayers on the way for you adoption1964. If it helps at all, Isaiah 26:3 "You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in you, all whose thoughts are fixed on you!" My mantra for 2018 can be just one word, and for me it's TRUST.…"
Jan 1
Dianne in Nevada commented on adoption1964's blog post December 31, 2017
"I'm so sorry you've been hit so hard with big things this week. I'll be in the Chat Room tonight from 11pm Eastern time to 12:30am Pacific time. Stop by to share with others and get support as we bring in the new year together."
Dec 31, 2017
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December 31, 2017

Well this is the last day of the year - 2017.  What a year it has been.  I feel like everything is crashing down and in on me.  We all know the first thing that crashed down, in or whatever we call it:  Loosing my husband to Stage IV kidney cancer on May 2, 2017.  Ending the year with a heck of bang.  Was told I didn't need to move out of this house only to come home on December 29 from counseling and my husband's birthday that I have to move.  Rentals in this area are about 10 to 1.  Go back…See More
Dec 31, 2017
Dianne in Nevada commented on adoption1964's blog post Good Days and Bad Days
"Be kind to yourself when it comes to those 'bad' days. Feel what you feel and don't be afraid of those tears. Especially during your first year. I'm 7 years out and the holidays are still hard for me. I just give myself grace to…"
Dec 30, 2017
Betsy commented on adoption1964's blog post Good Days and Bad Days
"Backward and not much forward. Forward to what? I lost my 57 year old husband May 22 2017,after he was diagnosed with terminal cancer on January 23 2016. Cancer of unknown origin we were told.He thought he had pulled a muscle near his hip in the…"
Dec 30, 2017
NancyD commented on adoption1964's blog post Good Days and Bad Days
"Adoption1964: I think it's perfectly normal in our grief to have regrets about medical treatment.  I do.  My husband's stomach surgery had to be aborted when they realized the extent of the cancer (did not show up on the scan…"
Dec 29, 2017
Callie2 commented on adoption1964's blog post Good Days and Bad Days
"Sorry for your recent loss. I can understand how these holidays are hard for you, the first year will most likely be the toughest. As far as the decision to move ahead with the surgery--all we can ever do is react to a situation using the facts that…"
Dec 28, 2017
adoption1964 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"Well here it is a year later since my husband had the surgery to remove his right kidney, ureter and piece of his bladder.  Where is he now, gone.  This surgery was in hopes to extend his life.  Nope I truly think it shortened it; he…"
Dec 28, 2017
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Good Days and Bad Days

Well today is the day after Christmas, this was my first Christmas without my husband.  I was fortunate to have family around however I feel like I am going backwards.  My husband passed May 2, 2017 after a short 5 month battle with Stage IV Kidney Cancer. I have really good days and I guess the down fall is the bad days that come up from time to time.  Tomorrow 12/28/2016 would have been 1 year ago ; he had the surgery to remove his right Kidney, piece of his bladder and ureter.  This was the…See More
Dec 27, 2017
adoption1964 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 60s
"Today 1 year ago we had a big BBQ for my husband.  I am so glad we did; it was kind of like a early birthday party; his birthday was 12/29. He was diagnosed with Stage IV Kidney cancer and didn't make it 5 months.  The holidays were…"
Dec 11, 2017

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December 31, 2017

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Well this is the last day of the year - 2017.  What a year it has been.  I feel like everything is crashing down and in on me.  We all know the first thing that crashed down, in or whatever we call it:  Loosing my husband to Stage IV kidney cancer on May 2, 2017.  Ending the year with a heck of bang.  Was told I didn't need to move out of this house only to come home on December 29 from counseling and my husband's birthday that I have to move.  Rentals in this area are about 10 to 1.  Go…

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Posted on December 27, 2017 at 10:00am 4 Comments

Well today is the day after Christmas, this was my first Christmas without my husband.  I was fortunate to have family around however I feel like I am going backwards.  My husband passed May 2, 2017 after a short 5 month battle with Stage IV Kidney Cancer. I have really good days and I guess the down fall is the bad days that come up from time to time.  Tomorrow 12/28/2016 would have been 1 year ago ; he had the surgery to remove his right Kidney, piece of his bladder and ureter.  This was…

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At 4:10am on November 20, 2017, Patience (Diane) said…
Hi again Adoption, 1964, this is from Dianne in Nevada.

You just need to go into your settings and make the change.
Click on Settings - over in the left-hand column. You'll see your answers to the intake questions (no one else can see these).
Scroll down to the Pen Pal question
Change the response from No to Yes
Scroll all the way to the bottom of the page and click the SAVE button. Must do this or it won't make the change.
At 9:20am on November 19, 2017, Patience (Diane) said…
Hi Kim, I'm going to message Diane in Nevada or "Soaring Spirits" and ask to try to find out! Good question!
Hope you are doing ok... Diane
At 5:42am on September 16, 2017, Patience (Diane) said…
Welcome to Widville, adoption1964. I'm so sorry for your loss, but glad that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the "help" link at the top of the page. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. And the "chat room" is open 24/7.
Be sure to check out the HOME page for the latest news. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.
 
 
 

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