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Started this discussion. Last reply by adoption1964 (Kim) Sep 18, 2017. 6 Replies

Hello, my name is Kim. I lost my loving husband to stage iv kidney cancer May 2, 2017. We were married 15 years. Our 16th wedding anniversary would have been 08/16/17. Everything happened so quickly.…Continue


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adoption1964 (Kim) replied to Riley's discussion I Challenge You! in the group Born in the 60s
"It's only been 29 months 2 years 5 months 1 - Coming home and having dinner ready - He was the stay at home man. 2 - Falling into bed with him at night and having his warm body next to me 3 - His hugs 4 - His big blue eyes 5 - His silieness 6…"
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adoption1964 (Kim) commented on GKinSD's blog post 8 months into this shitty journey
"I read this stories about watching their partner waste away from cancer.  I lost my husband May 2, 2017 from Stage 4 Kidney cancer.  The official diagnosis was Dec 15, 2016.  He had a kidney removed 12/27/16 and less then 5 months…"
Sep 12, 2019

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Missing my Best Friend Today

Posted on January 23, 2018 at 8:19am 2 Comments

Today is the 1 year anniversary of when we received the diagnosis that my husband had 6 months to live.  The day my world was turned upside down.  I really miss him; he was my best friend in so many ways.  He understand me in a way that no one else did; accepted me with all my flaws and silly quirks.  We took care of each other.  My wish is I could have done more.  I wish I had a better hospice company than the one I did.  This company did not provide much support.  

December 31, 2017

Posted on December 31, 2017 at 10:15am 6 Comments

Well this is the last day of the year - 2017.  What a year it has been.  I feel like everything is crashing down and in on me.  We all know the first thing that crashed down, in or whatever we call it:  Loosing my husband to Stage IV kidney cancer on May 2, 2017.  Ending the year with a heck of bang.  Was told I didn't need to move out of this house only to come home on December 29 from counseling and my husband's birthday that I have to move.  Rentals in this area are about 10 to 1.  Go…


Good Days and Bad Days

Posted on December 27, 2017 at 10:00am 4 Comments

Well today is the day after Christmas, this was my first Christmas without my husband.  I was fortunate to have family around however I feel like I am going backwards.  My husband passed May 2, 2017 after a short 5 month battle with Stage IV Kidney Cancer. I have really good days and I guess the down fall is the bad days that come up from time to time.  Tomorrow 12/28/2016 would have been 1 year ago ; he had the surgery to remove his right Kidney, piece of his bladder and ureter.  This was…


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At 5:52pm on February 9, 2018, grant said…

hi ,I've read a few of your posts. I feel alot like you. MY wife of 33 years died sept 9th 17 .Every day I end up crying many times.I thought things would get easier with time,but they haven't.My life feels so bad.I lost my main reason for my life.I loved to make my wife happy.Mabe talking to people will dull my total emptiness.Thanks for listening,grant

At 4:10am on November 20, 2017, Patience said…
Hi again Adoption, 1964, this is from Dianne in Nevada.

You just need to go into your settings and make the change.
Click on Settings - over in the left-hand column. You'll see your answers to the intake questions (no one else can see these).
Scroll down to the Pen Pal question
Change the response from No to Yes
Scroll all the way to the bottom of the page and click the SAVE button. Must do this or it won't make the change.
At 9:20am on November 19, 2017, Patience said…
Hi Kim, I'm going to message Diane in Nevada or "Soaring Spirits" and ask to try to find out! Good question!
Hope you are doing ok... Diane
At 5:42am on September 16, 2017, Patience said…
Welcome to Widville, adoption1964. I'm so sorry for your loss, but glad that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the "help" link at the top of the page. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. And the "chat room" is open 24/7.
Be sure to check out the HOME page for the latest news. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.

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