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Started this discussion. Last reply by adoption1964 (Kim) Sep 18, 2017. 6 Replies

Hello, my name is Kim. I lost my loving husband to stage iv kidney cancer May 2, 2017. We were married 15 years. Our 16th wedding anniversary would have been 08/16/17. Everything happened so quickly.…Continue

 

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adoption1964 (Kim) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"GTG - I sent you a friend a request.  Your post hits everything I feel right now.  I was in the chat room today after being away for awhile.  I am almost 14 months out.  May 2, 2018 was my 1 year anniversary of my dear sweet…"
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Feb 14
grant left a comment for adoption1964 (Kim)
"hi ,I've read a few of your posts. I feel alot like you. MY wife of 33 years died sept 9th 17 .Every day I end up crying many times.I thought things would get easier with time,but they haven't.My life feels so bad.I lost my main reason for…"
Feb 9
adoption1964 (Kim) replied to Snow's discussion Unexpected Emotions in the group Long-Term Illness
"Snow - everything you are feeling is quite normal.  You are not crazy.  I went through the same thing.  My own family didn't even come around with the exception of my nephew who is 5 years younger.  People were there when he…"
Feb 8
danny's girl commented on adoption1964 (Kim)'s blog post Missing my Best Friend Today
"Hugs to you.  I know we all wish we could have done more or maybe if we did x, y or z the outcome would have been different.  But I truly believe we all have done the best we could for our loved ones given the circumstances.   My…"
Jan 26
InsideLove commented on adoption1964 (Kim)'s blog post December 31, 2017
"adoption1964 this must be one of the saddest actions we have to consider. I am so sorry for the feelings that have to be flooding you at this time. /||\ Prayers and hugs for you in our search. I'm not near even thinking about this. I love how…"
Jan 26
adoption1964 (Kim) commented on adoption1964 (Kim)'s blog post December 31, 2017
"Well January is almost over and finished my tax stuff for work.  Now on to search for a new place to live.  This is going to be strange everything in this house has my husbands touch.  Now I am moving and leaving and will be putting a…"
Jan 26
vintage56(barb) commented on adoption1964 (Kim)'s blog post Missing my Best Friend Today
"(((hugs))) I think anyone who has dealt with illness will always question the decisions that were made. We were snowbirds and after the first round of chemo at a great NCI-center hospital, he was determined to go south for the winter like we always…"
Jan 25
adoption1964 (Kim) posted a blog post

Missing my Best Friend Today

Today is the 1 year anniversary of when we received the diagnosis that my husband had 6 months to live.  The day my world was turned upside down.  I really miss him; he was my best friend in so many ways.  He understand me in a way that no one else did; accepted me with all my flaws and silly quirks.  We took care of each other.  My wish is I could have done more.  I wish I had a better hospice company than the one I did.  This company did not provide much support.  See More
Jan 23
Rainy (Misty) commented on adoption1964 (Kim)'s blog post December 31, 2017
"Hi adoption, I was just checking in.  I hope you've gotten some brighter news by now.  I know what it's like to have the domino effect going on.  Hang in there."
Jan 10
adoption1964 (Kim) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"Good Morning, I have not been on here for a couple of days.  I read the most recent comments and I can relate to all of them. I agree this is a great source for connection, insight and understanding.  The journey we are now are will be the…"
Jan 9
adoption1964 (Kim) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"Good morning to all of you who are new widows, I found the chat room quite insightful.  There is a good mix of widows on there, some with less than 1 year and others who have 5+ there is hope.  Moving through and forward is extremely…"
Jan 4
Callie2 commented on adoption1964 (Kim)'s blog post December 31, 2017
"Sorry to hear about all that. Hoping your luck changes and things go a bit smoother for you. Sending you a warm hug....."
Jan 2
adoption1964 (Kim) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"NancyD thank you so much for your support.  I am struggling with how much I should share with my daughter.  She always says she needs to be there for me and her kids.  I try to tell her I am fine and if I cry I cry.  It is really…"
Jan 2
adoption1964 (Kim) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2017
"Hello my screen comes up Adoption1964 -  my name is Kim - I want to keep that real.  It seems that so much seems on surreal or unreal at times.  I am who I am and reality was I rang in the New Year as a widow and it hit me like a ton…"
Jan 2
InsideLove commented on adoption1964 (Kim)'s blog post December 31, 2017
"/||\ prayers on the way for you adoption1964. If it helps at all, Isaiah 26:3 "You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in you, all whose thoughts are fixed on you!" My mantra for 2018 can be just one word, and for me it's TRUST.…"
Jan 1

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Missing my Best Friend Today

Posted on January 23, 2018 at 8:19am 2 Comments

Today is the 1 year anniversary of when we received the diagnosis that my husband had 6 months to live.  The day my world was turned upside down.  I really miss him; he was my best friend in so many ways.  He understand me in a way that no one else did; accepted me with all my flaws and silly quirks.  We took care of each other.  My wish is I could have done more.  I wish I had a better hospice company than the one I did.  This company did not provide much support.  

December 31, 2017

Posted on December 31, 2017 at 10:15am 6 Comments

Well this is the last day of the year - 2017.  What a year it has been.  I feel like everything is crashing down and in on me.  We all know the first thing that crashed down, in or whatever we call it:  Loosing my husband to Stage IV kidney cancer on May 2, 2017.  Ending the year with a heck of bang.  Was told I didn't need to move out of this house only to come home on December 29 from counseling and my husband's birthday that I have to move.  Rentals in this area are about 10 to 1.  Go…

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Good Days and Bad Days

Posted on December 27, 2017 at 10:00am 4 Comments

Well today is the day after Christmas, this was my first Christmas without my husband.  I was fortunate to have family around however I feel like I am going backwards.  My husband passed May 2, 2017 after a short 5 month battle with Stage IV Kidney Cancer. I have really good days and I guess the down fall is the bad days that come up from time to time.  Tomorrow 12/28/2016 would have been 1 year ago ; he had the surgery to remove his right Kidney, piece of his bladder and ureter.  This was…

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At 5:52pm on February 9, 2018, grant said…

hi ,I've read a few of your posts. I feel alot like you. MY wife of 33 years died sept 9th 17 .Every day I end up crying many times.I thought things would get easier with time,but they haven't.My life feels so bad.I lost my main reason for my life.I loved to make my wife happy.Mabe talking to people will dull my total emptiness.Thanks for listening,grant

At 4:10am on November 20, 2017, Patience said…
Hi again Adoption, 1964, this is from Dianne in Nevada.

You just need to go into your settings and make the change.
Click on Settings - over in the left-hand column. You'll see your answers to the intake questions (no one else can see these).
Scroll down to the Pen Pal question
Change the response from No to Yes
Scroll all the way to the bottom of the page and click the SAVE button. Must do this or it won't make the change.
At 9:20am on November 19, 2017, Patience said…
Hi Kim, I'm going to message Diane in Nevada or "Soaring Spirits" and ask to try to find out! Good question!
Hope you are doing ok... Diane
At 5:42am on September 16, 2017, Patience said…
Welcome to Widville, adoption1964. I'm so sorry for your loss, but glad that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.
Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Click the "help" link at the top of the page. You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. And the "chat room" is open 24/7.
Be sure to check out the HOME page for the latest news. I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.
 
 
 

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