"than you for reaching out to me. These are difficult times for us both.Life is just so different with him gone and me alone. I cry as I write this. My anger at everyone for almost anything is for me cleansing to my soul. My anger at the…"
"My sincere apologies Clare. I did not mean to imply that losing your spouse was any easier if you had children. I didn't have children....You had children...We both lost our Beloveds...We both are grieving/broken. I truly feel your…"
"Yes, Broken Diva, I think having children makes a huge difference (or not in our case). Perhaps it is because having a child still allows you a physical person TO LOVE. It truly is a different "alone" when you have lost…"
"I lost my beloved husband of 27 years unexpectedly 2.5 years ago. I started seeing someone about 4 months after Bob died. It was very intense and short lived and I went through the mourning process for Bob double when that relationship…"
"2.5 years since I came home to find Bob dead on the garage floor from a stupid careless accident. 3 years last week since my mother died. Still can't believe how ANGRY I am. Still comes to me in waves at times. No…"
"Misty, I am sorry for your loss. How recently did Jerry pass? I have the feeling that you are going to find happiness again...because you chose to find it. Happiness comes from within ourselves. Another person can only…"
"I wonder if it makes a difference in your willingness to love again if you lost your spouse suddenly, as I did, or if you were a caretaker? What do you think?
@Woodturner....yes, there are a lot of crazies out there...I think as a…"
"Interesting topic...I think that everyone has to decide what is ok for them at what time/stage after their life altering loss. Yes, loneliness and the need for human companionship and touch are very normal, I would think, if you have been in a close…"
than you for reaching out to me. These are difficult times for us both.Life is just so different with him gone and me alone. I cry as I write this. My anger at everyone for almost anything is for me cleansing to my soul. My anger at the dentist I worked for for 38 years in Ca as his main hygienist is friendship ending for me. The day my husband died I was so distraught that I sent out a mass e-mail to everyone. His answer was "I'm sorry for your loss". Then I received the group signed card from the office. Thats what we always did when a patient died. So 2 months later have not heard from him at all. His inability to understand the immensity of my loss has ended our friendship.
I've only been retired since 11/1/17 so not even a year and this is how he treats me. We moved to Az 2/18 and I've had over 60 patients send cards, donate to a charity in his name or email me. Mind you, they had to contact my old office to even find me. They care more about my loss than he does.
Don't even get me started on my dad. Thats not great either. My counselor Marie wrote a workbook that I have to do a chapter every week. She wrote it and I had to buy on Amazon. Grief & loss Individual & group workbook recognition, response and recovery. Writing my answers in this book helps me reflect on my thoughts about the painful questions. I hope we all find maybe eventually peace.
Welcome Alwayssmilemichele: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat.You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Post and join in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".