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ashleynicole8378
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In retrospect, what do you look upon differently?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Athena53 May 30. 3 Replies

    I've been thinking a lot about the past. It's one of the only things that comforts me. I still wear my wedding ring because it reminds me of the wonderful 5 years of marriage I had with my dude,…Continue

Need some advice please?

Started this discussion. Last reply by happylilycat Apr 19. 23 Replies

So I lost my husband Mark just about 3 months ago. He was only 37, and he fought a battle with cancer for 10 months prior. His birthday is coming up on April 23rd. The Saturday before I wanted to…Continue

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Started this discussion. Last reply by widow85 Mar 15. 5 Replies

 I've had a rough day and have been feeling pretty angry. I think it was triggered by going to church this morning. My loss is recent, my hubby Mark just passed in January from cancer. I used to…Continue

 

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ashleynicole8378 replied to debbiejerry1's discussion Party of One
"I'm also so tired of being alone. I that I don't have Mark as my default person to do things with anymore. I loved that he was usually open for whatever. Now if I want to do anything with someone it involves planning ahead. I don't…"
22 hours ago
ashleynicole8378 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion US: SOUTH - EAST CENTRAL in the group Connect with others in your area
"I'm in Murfreesboro. Would love to meet up with others in my area. I also have family in Franklin and spend a lot of weekend time there."
Jul 5
ashleynicole8378 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion JULY Anniversaries, Birthdays and Other Special Days
"I lost my husband, best friend, and soul mate in January to cancer. He loved the 4th of July. It was his favorite holiday. I had a good day yesterday on the 4th. I knew Mark would want me to enjoy the day, so I took my son and we went to a friends…"
Jul 5
ashleynicole8378 replied to desare's discussion i just dont know what to do
"Omg I feel you about friends ignoring your pain. In going through the same thing and its not even been 6 months yet. I've always been kinda the out ball of my friend group anyway, but I'm beginning to think they only tolerated me because I…"
Jun 21
ashleynicole8378 replied to desare's discussion i just dont know what to do
"I feel the same way. I stay busy because I work and have a 2 year old son. But every day is just going through the motions. I adore my son, but hate being a solo parent. I find myself thinking only 16 more years until he's grown. Then I feel…"
Jun 21
Boo replied to ashleynicole8378's discussion In memory of... in the group Widowed in 2017
"Ashley, I'm so sorry.  You are so  young for such a big loss.  My heart goes out to you.  And thank you for this thread... it's a wonderful way to share.  Dan and I were married for 47 years, dating almost 2 years…"
Jun 16
Athena53 replied to ashleynicole8378's discussion In retrospect, what do you look upon differently?
"Before DH died quietly at home with hospice care, I'd never seen anyone die and never seen a corpse other than the ones laid out at the funeral home, clothed and made up.  Being with DH as he passed away has changed me for the better- I…"
May 30
Lindi replied to ashleynicole8378's discussion In retrospect, what do you look upon differently?
"That is so positive Callie.  I am a bit fed up with all the negative widowhood/bereavement posts and actually find it more comforting to concentrate on the positive aspects of life. After all, I believe we will meet our loved ones in due…"
May 30
Callie2 replied to ashleynicole8378's discussion In retrospect, what do you look upon differently?
"You are right, life can be crazy, or at least different from the life we had planned. It is sometimes cut short-- we never know when or how or even why. What we do know is there will come a day for each of us when we leave here. Losing a spouse or…"
May 30
ashleynicole8378 posted a discussion

In retrospect, what do you look upon differently?

    I've been thinking a lot about the past. It's one of the only things that comforts me. I still wear my wedding ring because it reminds me of the wonderful 5 years of marriage I had with my dude, my best friend, my soul mate, love of my life, my son's Dada, or in other words, Mark. I suppose this is not that weird considering I've not even made it to the 6 month point yet. My son just had a birthday. He was born on May 19th 2015. This of course got me thinking back to being pregnant and…See More
May 27
ashleynicole8378 commented on Anna's blog post Mornings are still hard
"Hope your progress continues too "
May 27
ashleynicole8378 replied to Leeky's discussion Who am I? in the group Widowed in 2017
"I absolutely hate being called single. I have a young son, but I can't stand thinking of myself as a single mother. I prefer the term solo parent, because I no longer have anyone to share the parenting responsibilities with, but am not single.…"
May 2
ashleynicole8378 replied to Leeky's discussion Who am I? in the group Widowed in 2017
"We lost our husbands on the same day. My "babe", Mark passed on January 2 2017 around 9pm. What an awful day that was. "
May 2
ashleynicole8378 replied to Jill's discussion What's scaring you these days?
"I'm terrified of something happening to my son, he's the only thing keeping me going. I'm scared of having a mental breakdown. I'm scared that I might be becoming dependent on the pain meds I've been taking to help me sleep.…"
May 2
happylilycat replied to ashleynicole8378's discussion Need some advice please?
"Ashley, I am so sorry for your loss, but I'm glad you found this on line community.  I don't think our culture in the USA has any idea how to deal with death in a healthy way, so many people just run away from us as we grieve. I too…"
Apr 19
widow85 replied to ashleynicole8378's discussion Need some advice please?
"Wow, there is a lot of wisdom in these postings. I just had a huge crowd, family and friends, over for Passover. (Card tables in the living room, somebody got the wonky chair, etc.) My late husband was Jewish, I was raised Catholic so we basically…"
Apr 19

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At 2:28am on March 21, 2017, Larryh0823 said…

Ashley,  I understand exactly how you are feeling.  This is such an up and down trip that it is difficult to know exactly what is going on.  I understand about the texting too.  I am unable to have Sandra's cell phone disconnected because I still want to be able to communicate with it from time to time.  When I really want to talk with her it is the only way I know to do it.  I have joined an in-person group.  It is Grief Share,  I have been going for several weeks now and I was fortunate to get in a group where most of the people there had lost a spouse.  Most people in this group lost their spouse in the past 6 months but some have been longer.  Sandra and I did almost everything together so now that she is gone I am having to learn to do almost everything on my own.  We were married for almost 20 years and met later in life.  Now I am 62 and having to attempt to start my life over without her has been difficult.  I retired in December to be her caregiver.  At the time I retired we thought that this was a recovery process that we were going on.  It was not until the last 30 seconds that I realized that this was not going to come out the way we expected.  Hopefully, as you continue to go through your support group there will be other people that will join the group that have suffered the loss of a spouse and then you will not feel so all alone.  This road is long and full of obstacles but hopefully you will be able to continue to find ways to rebuild your life.  If you feel the need to continue to talk please feel free to reach to me anytime you desire.

Larry

At 4:46am on March 20, 2017, Larryh0823 said…

Ashley,  I have been on the roller coaster that everyone is always talking about.   Today marks exactly 2 months since my wife died.  Some days I can deal with things other days it just hurts so bad.  I have one of those big what ifs.  My wife had a serious infection around her colon and if the doctors had discovered it soon enough with the antibiotics she might could have been saved but they didn't discover it until it had already gotten into her blood system.  I hope you are going as well as can be expected.  If I remember correctly you date of loss was pretty close to mine.  Hopefully, talking will help you some.

Larry

At 4:23am on February 7, 2017, Inafog213 said…
Hi Ashley, I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my husband in August due to colon cancer (it's been 6 moths) and we have a 4 year old. All my daughter knows is that daddy was sick and the medicine stopped working. I worked in corporate America for 29 years and stopped working last June. Everything has changed and since I'm now a single parent, not only do I need to be there for my child, I want to be there. I don't want to deal with the stress and BS.
I actually started my own business where I can work from home and I'm growing it. It's allowed me the flexibility to grieve and it's also a distraction.
It's still early for you and I'm sure your probably still in a fog. The first few weeks are hard. I'm here if you want to talk. Sending you hugs.
At 10:08pm on February 6, 2017, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, ashleynicole8378. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but pleased that you found us. You'll find caring support and friendship here.

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