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Anyone from the Pacific Northwest?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Soaring Spirits Feb 14, 2014. 2 Replies

I'm hoping we can get a regional event going. Anyone interested in meeting at an Applebees or Starbucks or some place to get acquainted? I live in Everett. Has to be a daytime event because I cannot…Continue


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barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Pets, yes! I rescued a cat in July. She's "about 3-5 years old" and was very well trained by her previous family. She's super curious about everything and has to investigate every little noise. She purrs so loud, it is surprising…"
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"We got the first month free on Netflix and then it is $9.95 a month. When we go to the theater, the senior rate is $10.50 per person. A BIG difference.  As to what to watch, I prefer romantic comedies partly because they are so predictable and…"
Oct 10
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Watched it last night and thoroughly enjoyed it. It felt very close to what my guy and I have experienced these past couple years. Intimate relationships (with or without sex) for "old folks" is awkward. And, in our case, well worth the…"
Oct 1
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Google will let you know when there are updates, but they will not ask you to change your password. If someone does that, RUN away! Ditto with all the "wonderful" messages about found money. There are bad guys out there and we need to be…"
Sep 27
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Ceilya, DITTO!!!  :-)   One of the things that attracted me to this group has been it's positive, forgiving, and understanding of many grieving people. It doesn't matter our age or faith or culture or race or even what…"
Sep 24
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Remember the movie, BAMBI? It was Thumper who said: "If you can't say something nice, don't say nothing at all." A good rule to live by."
Sep 22
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"I have a question and sent it via email to the address above: [email protected] It would not send and the return message was that this address is not recognized. Now what?"
Sep 22
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Glad that LJ took a breath and decided not to leave. We need everyone's thoughts and opinions here to keep things balanced."
Sep 22
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Oh, Don...thanks for the good laugh. Gone with the Wind is a romantic movie without much historical fact. In older times (and still in some of today's cultures) a woman was stripped of her rights when she got married. Not so much anymore.…"
Sep 20
barbee replied to BelovedPeach's discussion I'm just going to "be"
"After my husband of 49 years died, I definitely did not expect to find another man to love. I was and am enough and was busy creating a full life again. As a girlfriend reminded me, he died, you didn't. Then, unexpectedly, a wonderful widowed…"
Sep 19
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"In reading these last postings, I am reminded about how nature prunes itself as a way to survive. After the Autumn leaves fall, it appears Winter's tree will die; however, Spring comes again, with renewal, to give us a burst of Summer flowers.…"
Sep 19
barbee replied to BelovedPeach's discussion I'm just going to "be"
"BelovedPeach, sometimes when we post our feelings online our comments are misinterpreted by others. Sometimes the others come back with very judgmental responses. I know you've experienced this and I'm sorry if your feelings have been hurt…"
Sep 18
barbee replied to mls64 (Mike)'s discussion Family and friends distance ?
"Sounds like you are exactly on the right  track. Listening to your daughters will be good for you all. Throw in some hugs and "I love you" at the end of each conversation and you'll be the winner! Each of you is grieving -- and…"
Sep 17
barbee replied to Gunnerx2's discussion Strength
"Once I was in a storm with 110 MPH winds and that was frightening. I was in college then with no husband or children or house to worry about and it still frightening. I simply cannot imagine what TX and FL and the rest of the SE are having to deal…"
Sep 12
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Alexandra and ThelmaZ are both in Houston and OK. Alexandra's daughter's garage and cars were flooded. She also mentioned dealing with the debris, smell, and black mold that is everywhere. All her family and pets are OK. ThelmaZ…"
Sep 12
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Yes, I think she is in Winter Haven. That's located in Polk county, about the central part of the state, currently without power. Let's keep her, as well as others affected, in our thoughts and prayers."
Sep 11

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At 4:12pm on August 12, 2017, Don said…

I am happy that you have found your new parter .  May God Bless you  both.   Don

At 11:31am on July 22, 2016, Skeezix said…


I'm so sorry that I haven't responded to your messages. I just signed on a couple days ago for the first time in almost a year and discovered I actually had messages in my inbox!  I sent you a friend invitation but haven't heard anything back yet.  Don't give up on me yet.  I'm still working on navigating this site.  Skeezix

At 1:17pm on April 19, 2015, Frank said…

Hi Barb, Where did you go?

I went to the chat room and I did not see you in chat nor the list of active members so I guess you logged off.

How's things going?  We are having high winds and snow squalls today, but there are periods of sunshine as well.  The front should have moved further east  in the next couple of days to give us a break in the winter weather.  When that occurs, I'll drive into Denver to get some groceries  and run errands.  

We had 5 inches one day and two days later 7 inches, the next night 2 inches, and last night one inch.  Meanwhile its snug as a bug in the home.  

Hope all is well, and I look forward to your notes and our exchanges.



At 7:36am on March 30, 2015, Frank said…

Hi Barbee,

I'm in the Mountain Time Zone.  Generally speaking, I watch the news/weather till about 2230 and then I get on the radio (I'm a ham radio operator) for another hour or so.  Then I do a final check on my email, and log into WV.  If someone is there, and they want to chat, I'll stick around for another hour or two. 

I look forward to chatting with you and Thank You for your invite.



At 5:50pm on March 21, 2015, thelmaz said…

I'm glad you enjoy the blog.  I've had computer problems lately plus I'm so overwhelmed with downsizing, I can hardly think.  Thelma

At 2:09pm on February 6, 2015, Christopher said…

Thanks, barbee. I only just saw your comment left more than a week ago. I‘ll have to remember to look into my page. I had left tabs open for the groups I’ve joined, but not my own page. Oops!

At 2:25pm on January 27, 2015, flyingsummers said…

I do need a buddy to get around and to helpgetting through the grief.

At 5:38pm on December 17, 2014, JC&DK said…
Would like to try a new group in everett,
Thank you
At 5:29pm on October 8, 2014, david1980 said…
Thank you for responding on the Ebola post. More than that... thank you for being a friend. This past couple weeks I have had more time to read the posts and respond.
At 4:14pm on April 20, 2014, WebLady said…

Hi barbee,

Thank you for your note. Sorry for your loss as well.

Nice to hear you are in the "neighborhood".

I think I am still in shell shock here. My hubby was perfectly healthy one minute and dead the next. I am mostly out of the denial phase but, just so damned sad that at times it is unbearable.

I have not yet come to anything resembling normal and feel most comfortable in isolation.  I have friends and family willing to help but, I find when I am near them I am more distressed.  So meanwhile, I am lurking here on this site and a couple of others. I do find some comfort in reading the posts.  I guess because unless you've been there you can't possibly imagine the likes of this!

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Got rid of your bed

Posted on March 21, 2015 at 8:53am 3 Comments

It has been just over two years since you left. When I moved I brought your hospital bed with me. It was to be temporary. I knew I would donate it. It gave me something to sleep in temporarily. But other things needed replacing or fixing and they were more important because, after all, I had a bed to sleep in.

Well...the day arrived and I bought a complete bedroom set and new mattress last week. It is a queen-size. It is like sleeping on a cloud. It is so big I get lost in it. It is…


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