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Anyone from the Pacific Northwest?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Soaring Spirits Feb 14, 2014. 2 Replies

I'm hoping we can get a regional event going. Anyone interested in meeting at an Applebees or Starbucks or some place to get acquainted? I live in Everett. Has to be a daytime event because I cannot…Continue


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barbee commented on Steve's blog post Still miss Mike
"Steve, I think you express very well what it means to lose someone after so many years. It doesn't matter if it is a same sex or opposite sex relationship. I was married for almost 50 years and now am in a new relationship with a wonderful guy…"
11 hours ago
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Today is Mother's Day. I am blessed to have three children, seven grandchildren, a great-granddaughter and another one due any day. I get to see most of them a few times a year; however, none of them this day, this year. Whether you are a…"
May 14
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Well said LJ! I'm in total agreement with you on this!"
May 6
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Jan L, I notice from your profile you live in BC. There is another poster here, Elaine, who lives somewhere near Vancouver. I'm in the states--about an hour north of Seattle. Let me tell you, at 74, I did find a wonderful man. I'd been…"
May 5
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"GrandmaH, Most widowed are still in shock at the six month mark. You are doing amazingly well, even though it is too early for you to believe that.  It does get easier as the weeks and months slip by. Be patient and kind to yourself. (((HUGS)))"
May 1
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Today is Saturday--the loneliest day of the week for me. (Long story I won't bore you all with.) I am impressed as I read your comments with our similarities--we're all older widowed people. However, even more, with how we courageously…"
Apr 29
barbee replied to Donutmom4x's discussion Please tell me it's not just me...
"My husband passed Feb 2, 2013. So you and I are a few days apart and half the world apart. I live in Washington state, where we just broke a 125 year plus record for amount of rain and number of days in a row of rain. I'm going on faith that…"
Apr 28
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2013
"Welcome back, my roses! I remember you from "before". Sorry you had to be away for so long."
Apr 28
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"To me downsizing does not always mean moving to different lodgings. I think it can mean de-cluttering a room; removing unused items from a closet; making work spaces more efficient; weeding the planting beds. Any way we make more space or light come…"
Apr 24
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Barzan--how is the recovery from your knee surgery coming along? Laurajay--glad to read that you are ready to downsize. It might be happy or sad times, but it should be a refreshingly good direction in which to head. Elaine--there is always a reason…"
Apr 23
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Over the years I had to put two very beloved cats down. Sometimes it seemed I grieved for them almost as much as for my husband. As awful as that sounds. So I understand how difficult this can be for you. My neighbor currently has three cats.…"
Apr 15
barbee commented on only1sue's blog post Reflecting as the journey changes.
"Sue and Dianne --  boy, do I hear you! I was 72 when my husband died. I'd retired six years before that to take care of him. By the time he died I had no idea who I was, what I wanted, what to do with the rest of my life. It was scary! I…"
Apr 14
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Feelinglonely, I've helped a couple people through hip surgery. You probably don't need any more advice, but I'll throw in my two cents. Get a leg lifter. It costs about $15 or less at the drug store and will be invaluable in getting…"
Apr 13
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"The Feb 2017 National Geographic has a 20+ page article about widows in our world. Wow--it is an eye-opener! In many places widows have NO rights and upon the death of her husband, his family takes her home, crops, land, even children.…"
Apr 10
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"It has been almost a week and no one has been here??? I hope you have been able to enjoy a bit of the renewal of Spring and the joy of Easter. Even if you do not believe in Easter. There are eleven of my family who will be with me on Easter Sunday.…"
Apr 8
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Sorry Jim, I got a message that this link no longer exists."
Mar 28

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At 11:31am on July 22, 2016, Skeezix said…


I'm so sorry that I haven't responded to your messages. I just signed on a couple days ago for the first time in almost a year and discovered I actually had messages in my inbox!  I sent you a friend invitation but haven't heard anything back yet.  Don't give up on me yet.  I'm still working on navigating this site.  Skeezix

At 1:17pm on April 19, 2015, Frank said…

Hi Barb, Where did you go?

I went to the chat room and I did not see you in chat nor the list of active members so I guess you logged off.

How's things going?  We are having high winds and snow squalls today, but there are periods of sunshine as well.  The front should have moved further east  in the next couple of days to give us a break in the winter weather.  When that occurs, I'll drive into Denver to get some groceries  and run errands.  

We had 5 inches one day and two days later 7 inches, the next night 2 inches, and last night one inch.  Meanwhile its snug as a bug in the home.  

Hope all is well, and I look forward to your notes and our exchanges.



At 7:36am on March 30, 2015, Frank said…

Hi Barbee,

I'm in the Mountain Time Zone.  Generally speaking, I watch the news/weather till about 2230 and then I get on the radio (I'm a ham radio operator) for another hour or so.  Then I do a final check on my email, and log into WV.  If someone is there, and they want to chat, I'll stick around for another hour or two. 

I look forward to chatting with you and Thank You for your invite.



At 5:50pm on March 21, 2015, thelmaz said…

I'm glad you enjoy the blog.  I've had computer problems lately plus I'm so overwhelmed with downsizing, I can hardly think.  Thelma

At 2:09pm on February 6, 2015, Christopher said…

Thanks, barbee. I only just saw your comment left more than a week ago. I‘ll have to remember to look into my page. I had left tabs open for the groups I’ve joined, but not my own page. Oops!

At 2:25pm on January 27, 2015, flyingsummers said…

I do need a buddy to get around and to helpgetting through the grief.

At 5:38pm on December 17, 2014, JC&DK said…
Would like to try a new group in everett,
Thank you
At 5:29pm on October 8, 2014, david1980 said…
Thank you for responding on the Ebola post. More than that... thank you for being a friend. This past couple weeks I have had more time to read the posts and respond.
At 4:14pm on April 20, 2014, WebLady said…

Hi barbee,

Thank you for your note. Sorry for your loss as well.

Nice to hear you are in the "neighborhood".

I think I am still in shell shock here. My hubby was perfectly healthy one minute and dead the next. I am mostly out of the denial phase but, just so damned sad that at times it is unbearable.

I have not yet come to anything resembling normal and feel most comfortable in isolation.  I have friends and family willing to help but, I find when I am near them I am more distressed.  So meanwhile, I am lurking here on this site and a couple of others. I do find some comfort in reading the posts.  I guess because unless you've been there you can't possibly imagine the likes of this!

At 6:09pm on April 13, 2014, laurajay said…

yes   mi  is Michigan    me  is maine    mn  is Minnesota   ma is Maryland   mo is Missouri    lol  I think.lj

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Got rid of your bed

Posted on March 21, 2015 at 8:53am 3 Comments

It has been just over two years since you left. When I moved I brought your hospital bed with me. It was to be temporary. I knew I would donate it. It gave me something to sleep in temporarily. But other things needed replacing or fixing and they were more important because, after all, I had a bed to sleep in.

Well...the day arrived and I bought a complete bedroom set and new mattress last week. It is a queen-size. It is like sleeping on a cloud. It is so big I get lost in it. It is…


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