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Anyone from the Pacific Northwest?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Soaring Spirits Feb 14, 2014. 2 Replies

I'm hoping we can get a regional event going. Anyone interested in meeting at an Applebees or Starbucks or some place to get acquainted? I live in Everett. Has to be a daytime event because I cannot…Continue


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barbee commented on only1sue's blog post Two days before the operation
"Sue, you'll be in my thoughts and prayers for an easy recovery and good results. Like you, I am waiting for "something" to happen. I have been to so many different doctors in the past two months. I got sick on my trip to California,…"
21 hours ago
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2012
"Christmas for me has always been in the NW with snow and ice and heavy sweaters and a fire in the living room with warm cocoa. Huge tree to the ceiling. Kids and grandkids running and squealing about. This year, I'm in southern California, in…"
Dec 23, 2017
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"After my husband died, almost five years ago, I started a journal each year with a new word. The first year was JOY because there was none in my life then.  It truly helped to find one thing each day that would bring a smile or uplift me ever…"
Dec 23, 2017
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Hello to everyone!  We safely made it from Seattle to San Diego in the motor home. We were concerned about snow and ice and then saw none. We did not expect hurricane winds and fires all around. That has been scary, to say the least. My cat,…"
Dec 9, 2017
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Faolan -- nice to hear your days are getting easier. I live with chronic pain and "feel your pain" too! Elaine -- please keep us in the loop on your surgery. Hoping it will be easier than the anticipation. LJ -- Thomas Moore's books…"
Nov 11, 2017
barbee replied to kenslove 's discussion So many different identities....
"After my husband died I moved to another city and bought a house. I had to buy furniture and do some major remodeling. I was 72 years old. Scared the living-bejesus outta me! That was almost five years ago. Now, looking back, I see  they…"
Nov 10, 2017
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Ageless Soul: The Lifelong Journey Toward Meaning and Joy  by Thomas Moore Aging can be a beautiful thing, says Moore, a former monk and author of 1992’s bestselling spiritual guide Care of the Soul. Moore now asks readers not…"
Nov 3, 2017
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Frank, so very, very sorry to receive the word of your multiple losses. A card with a private message is on its way to you. Words are so inadequate at a time like this. (((HUGS))) from both Vern and me"
Nov 2, 2017
barbee replied to vintage56(barb)'s discussion Plans for the holidays
"The first holiday I was really alone without my husband was Thanksgiving. Looking back, it is hard to believe that was almost five years ago and how much of my life has changed! I couldn't bear to be alone that year, so I invited people in my…"
Oct 23, 2017
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Pets, yes! I rescued a cat in July. She's "about 3-5 years old" and was very well trained by her previous family. She's super curious about everything and has to investigate every little noise. She purrs so loud, it is surprising…"
Oct 16, 2017
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"We got the first month free on Netflix and then it is $9.95 a month. When we go to the theater, the senior rate is $10.50 per person. A BIG difference.  As to what to watch, I prefer romantic comedies partly because they are so predictable and…"
Oct 10, 2017
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Watched it last night and thoroughly enjoyed it. It felt very close to what my guy and I have experienced these past couple years. Intimate relationships (with or without sex) for "old folks" is awkward. And, in our case, well worth the…"
Oct 1, 2017
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Google will let you know when there are updates, but they will not ask you to change your password. If someone does that, RUN away! Ditto with all the "wonderful" messages about found money. There are bad guys out there and we need to be…"
Sep 27, 2017
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Ceilya, DITTO!!!  :-)   One of the things that attracted me to this group has been it's positive, forgiving, and understanding of many grieving people. It doesn't matter our age or faith or culture or race or even what…"
Sep 24, 2017
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Remember the movie, BAMBI? It was Thumper who said: "If you can't say something nice, don't say nothing at all." A good rule to live by."
Sep 22, 2017
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"I have a question and sent it via email to the address above: [email protected] It would not send and the return message was that this address is not recognized. Now what?"
Sep 22, 2017

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At 4:12pm on August 12, 2017, Don said…

I am happy that you have found your new parter .  May God Bless you  both.   Don

At 11:31am on July 22, 2016, Skeezix said…


I'm so sorry that I haven't responded to your messages. I just signed on a couple days ago for the first time in almost a year and discovered I actually had messages in my inbox!  I sent you a friend invitation but haven't heard anything back yet.  Don't give up on me yet.  I'm still working on navigating this site.  Skeezix

At 1:17pm on April 19, 2015, Frank said…

Hi Barb, Where did you go?

I went to the chat room and I did not see you in chat nor the list of active members so I guess you logged off.

How's things going?  We are having high winds and snow squalls today, but there are periods of sunshine as well.  The front should have moved further east  in the next couple of days to give us a break in the winter weather.  When that occurs, I'll drive into Denver to get some groceries  and run errands.  

We had 5 inches one day and two days later 7 inches, the next night 2 inches, and last night one inch.  Meanwhile its snug as a bug in the home.  

Hope all is well, and I look forward to your notes and our exchanges.



At 7:36am on March 30, 2015, Frank said…

Hi Barbee,

I'm in the Mountain Time Zone.  Generally speaking, I watch the news/weather till about 2230 and then I get on the radio (I'm a ham radio operator) for another hour or so.  Then I do a final check on my email, and log into WV.  If someone is there, and they want to chat, I'll stick around for another hour or two. 

I look forward to chatting with you and Thank You for your invite.



At 5:50pm on March 21, 2015, thelmaz said…

I'm glad you enjoy the blog.  I've had computer problems lately plus I'm so overwhelmed with downsizing, I can hardly think.  Thelma

At 2:09pm on February 6, 2015, Christopher said…

Thanks, barbee. I only just saw your comment left more than a week ago. I‘ll have to remember to look into my page. I had left tabs open for the groups I’ve joined, but not my own page. Oops!

At 2:25pm on January 27, 2015, flyingsummers said…

I do need a buddy to get around and to helpgetting through the grief.

At 5:38pm on December 17, 2014, JC&DK said…
Would like to try a new group in everett,
Thank you
At 5:29pm on October 8, 2014, david1980 said…
Thank you for responding on the Ebola post. More than that... thank you for being a friend. This past couple weeks I have had more time to read the posts and respond.
At 4:14pm on April 20, 2014, WebLady said…

Hi barbee,

Thank you for your note. Sorry for your loss as well.

Nice to hear you are in the "neighborhood".

I think I am still in shell shock here. My hubby was perfectly healthy one minute and dead the next. I am mostly out of the denial phase but, just so damned sad that at times it is unbearable.

I have not yet come to anything resembling normal and feel most comfortable in isolation.  I have friends and family willing to help but, I find when I am near them I am more distressed.  So meanwhile, I am lurking here on this site and a couple of others. I do find some comfort in reading the posts.  I guess because unless you've been there you can't possibly imagine the likes of this!

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Got rid of your bed

Posted on March 21, 2015 at 8:53am 3 Comments

It has been just over two years since you left. When I moved I brought your hospital bed with me. It was to be temporary. I knew I would donate it. It gave me something to sleep in temporarily. But other things needed replacing or fixing and they were more important because, after all, I had a bed to sleep in.

Well...the day arrived and I bought a complete bedroom set and new mattress last week. It is a queen-size. It is like sleeping on a cloud. It is so big I get lost in it. It is…


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