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Anyone from the Pacific Northwest?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Soaring Spirits Feb 14, 2014. 2 Replies

I'm hoping we can get a regional event going. Anyone interested in meeting at an Applebees or Starbucks or some place to get acquainted? I live in Everett. Has to be a daytime event because I cannot…Continue

 

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barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"To me downsizing does not always mean moving to different lodgings. I think it can mean de-cluttering a room; removing unused items from a closet; making work spaces more efficient; weeding the planting beds. Any way we make more space or light come…"
6 hours ago
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Barzan--how is the recovery from your knee surgery coming along? Laurajay--glad to read that you are ready to downsize. It might be happy or sad times, but it should be a refreshingly good direction in which to head. Elaine--there is always a reason…"
yesterday
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Over the years I had to put two very beloved cats down. Sometimes it seemed I grieved for them almost as much as for my husband. As awful as that sounds. So I understand how difficult this can be for you. My neighbor currently has three cats.…"
Apr 15
barbee commented on only1sue's blog post Reflecting as the journey changes.
"Sue and Dianne --  boy, do I hear you! I was 72 when my husband died. I'd retired six years before that to take care of him. By the time he died I had no idea who I was, what I wanted, what to do with the rest of my life. It was scary! I…"
Apr 14
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Feelinglonely, I've helped a couple people through hip surgery. You probably don't need any more advice, but I'll throw in my two cents. Get a leg lifter. It costs about $15 or less at the drug store and will be invaluable in getting…"
Apr 13
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"The Feb 2017 National Geographic has a 20+ page article about widows in our world. Wow--it is an eye-opener! In many places widows have NO rights and upon the death of her husband, his family takes her home, crops, land, even children.…"
Apr 10
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"It has been almost a week and no one has been here??? I hope you have been able to enjoy a bit of the renewal of Spring and the joy of Easter. Even if you do not believe in Easter. There are eleven of my family who will be with me on Easter Sunday.…"
Apr 8
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Sorry Jim, I got a message that this link no longer exists."
Mar 28
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Faolan, my fibro comes from childhood trauma which was not addressed for over fifty years. I kept it bottled up and let it fester, not knowing what the problem really was until I got into some counseling after my husband died. As to aging: I used to…"
Mar 26
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Broken Heart Syndrome IS real. I was fortunate to enough to have a doctor right after Gary died who told me that's what my chest pains were. Then a year later I was so confused and conflicted about who I was and what the rest of my life would…"
Mar 26
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"I read something this week that really spoke to me about the concept of 'moving on'. I don't know who wrote it. It has been a big help to me to read and re-read this and I hope it might help you, too.  Barbee Think not so much of…"
Mar 25
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Alexandra, I'm a little north of Seattle. Maybe another stop when you're here in the Pacific NW?"
Mar 17
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Whew! I posted and no one else did for over a week -- I was concerned that I'd offended everyone! :) Barzan, the man I'm dating now had an ankle fusion last summer. He needed to be non-weight bearing for eight weeks and was confined to his…"
Mar 17
barbee replied to Sissy's discussion Trying to Find Myself and Be Me Again.
"Some good suggestions here. It does take time and effort. My husband died February 2013. Something I read long ago that may help someone: Maybe a happy ending is...well...maybe it's you...on your own...picking up the pieces and starting…"
Mar 12
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"I find getting rid of those sentimental, non-working, covered in dust items can be very freeing! I am thrilled someone else will enjoy fixing it or parting it out or re-purposing it some way. Same goes for older clothes and shoes. I tell myself…"
Mar 6
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Elaine, I'm about an hour north of Seattle, so you and I have similar weather. The news reports this has been record breaking for our area -- wettest, coldest, most snow, etc. Some records go back to the 1940's and some are in all of…"
Mar 4

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At 11:31am on July 22, 2016, Skeezix said…

Barbee,

I'm so sorry that I haven't responded to your messages. I just signed on a couple days ago for the first time in almost a year and discovered I actually had messages in my inbox!  I sent you a friend invitation but haven't heard anything back yet.  Don't give up on me yet.  I'm still working on navigating this site.  Skeezix

At 1:17pm on April 19, 2015, Frank said…

Hi Barb, Where did you go?

I went to the chat room and I did not see you in chat nor the list of active members so I guess you logged off.

How's things going?  We are having high winds and snow squalls today, but there are periods of sunshine as well.  The front should have moved further east  in the next couple of days to give us a break in the winter weather.  When that occurs, I'll drive into Denver to get some groceries  and run errands.  

We had 5 inches one day and two days later 7 inches, the next night 2 inches, and last night one inch.  Meanwhile its snug as a bug in the home.  

Hope all is well, and I look forward to your notes and our exchanges.

(((Barbee)))

Frank 

At 7:36am on March 30, 2015, Frank said…

Hi Barbee,

I'm in the Mountain Time Zone.  Generally speaking, I watch the news/weather till about 2230 and then I get on the radio (I'm a ham radio operator) for another hour or so.  Then I do a final check on my email, and log into WV.  If someone is there, and they want to chat, I'll stick around for another hour or two. 

I look forward to chatting with you and Thank You for your invite.

Sincerely

Frank

At 5:50pm on March 21, 2015, thelmaz said…

I'm glad you enjoy the blog.  I've had computer problems lately plus I'm so overwhelmed with downsizing, I can hardly think.  Thelma

At 2:09pm on February 6, 2015, Christopher said…

Thanks, barbee. I only just saw your comment left more than a week ago. I‘ll have to remember to look into my page. I had left tabs open for the groups I’ve joined, but not my own page. Oops!

At 2:25pm on January 27, 2015, flyingsummers said…

I do need a buddy to get around and to helpgetting through the grief.

At 5:38pm on December 17, 2014, JC&DK said…
Would like to try a new group in everett,
Thank you
At 5:29pm on October 8, 2014, david1980 said…
Thank you for responding on the Ebola post. More than that... thank you for being a friend. This past couple weeks I have had more time to read the posts and respond.
At 4:14pm on April 20, 2014, WebLady said…

Hi barbee,

Thank you for your note. Sorry for your loss as well.

Nice to hear you are in the "neighborhood".

I think I am still in shell shock here. My hubby was perfectly healthy one minute and dead the next. I am mostly out of the denial phase but, just so damned sad that at times it is unbearable.

I have not yet come to anything resembling normal and feel most comfortable in isolation.  I have friends and family willing to help but, I find when I am near them I am more distressed.  So meanwhile, I am lurking here on this site and a couple of others. I do find some comfort in reading the posts.  I guess because unless you've been there you can't possibly imagine the likes of this!

At 6:09pm on April 13, 2014, laurajay said…

yes   mi  is Michigan    me  is maine    mn  is Minnesota   ma is Maryland   mo is Missouri    lol  I think.lj

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Got rid of your bed

Posted on March 21, 2015 at 8:53am 3 Comments

It has been just over two years since you left. When I moved I brought your hospital bed with me. It was to be temporary. I knew I would donate it. It gave me something to sleep in temporarily. But other things needed replacing or fixing and they were more important because, after all, I had a bed to sleep in.

Well...the day arrived and I bought a complete bedroom set and new mattress last week. It is a queen-size. It is like sleeping on a cloud. It is so big I get lost in it. It is…

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