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Anyone from the Pacific Northwest?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Soaring Spirits Feb 14, 2014. 2 Replies

I'm hoping we can get a regional event going. Anyone interested in meeting at an Applebees or Starbucks or some place to get acquainted? I live in Everett. Has to be a daytime event because I cannot…Continue


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barbee replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion US: WEST - PACIFIC in the group Connect with others in your area
"Hi, all you Callie people. I'm in the woods in NW Washington. Little town called Duvall."
barbee replied to SweetMelissa2007's discussion Wal-mart delivers!
"SHIPT is a new one for me and thanks for bringing it to our attention, LJ. It was easy to Google it, click on the "Contact Us" button and put in my zip code. Unfortunately, they are not in my area. But, Target and Walmart ship to me…"
Sep 13
barbee replied to LandL (Linda)'s discussion Is it so wrong?
"A famous quote by Albert Camus that helped me and maybe will resonate with you: “In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer. And that makes me happy. For it says that no matter how hard the world pushes…"
Sep 6
barbee replied to JeffS's discussion What's wrong with me?
"Jeff, my advice to you is for you to stop worrying about things not bothering you. My husband of almost 50 years, passed after 16 years dealing with MS and its many complications. The last year of his life he was quadraplegic and on hospice care in…"
Sep 5
barbee replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Need help using the site? Ask here!
"What happened to the chat room? Yesterday it was between "My Widville" and "Forums" and today it is not there!"
Aug 29
barbee replied to only1sue's discussion What are the fundamentals of dating in your 60s and 70s?
"Just so you know -- the guy who found me is not six feet tall or handsome or rich. He is caring and supportive and funny and keeps our lives interesting. Trust that your next lady is waiting some place and WILL show up! When we found each other, I…"
Aug 26
barbee replied to only1sue's discussion What are the fundamentals of dating in your 60s and 70s?
" Etchtech -- I am NOT looking for a date.  In fact, I am experiencing my Chapter Two for the fourth year now. So there can be life after death! Your sense of humor should get you to where you are headed. Stay optimistic and patient.…"
Aug 26
barbee replied to Melissa's discussion Loneliness
"A time I hated was coming home to a silent house after being gone all day.  I started leaving a radio on so there was a bit of noise. Then I rescued a cat from the shelter. She'd run to the door and meow and wow! What a difference that…"
Aug 13
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Cee, so very sorry you got an owie. Hopefully it is not your dominent shoulder. Even so, our arms are made to work together and it is very inconvenient when they don't. Rest and read and recover. Sue, it is nice to read uplifting words and your…"
Aug 5
barbee commented on only1sue's blog post I have a future again
"Such good news! Hip, hip hurrah for you!!! Take good care, Sue."
Jul 27
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Frank, on the news they were talking about a massive mudslide on a major highway west of Denver. I know you are rather isolated on a good day. Did this impact you and isolate you more? Hoping not so. "
Jul 27
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Sue, WHAT GOOD NEWS! Hopefully you'll have time in these six weeks of recovery to do some good, enjoyable, relaxing things just for you. Be your own best friend right now to get well again. "
Jul 23
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"LJ--thanks for caring. Yes, after over a year of struggling and getting worse we finally decided it was medication interactions. My new primary doctor discontinued one med immediately and then weaned me off the three others gradually. None were…"
Jul 13
barbee commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 40s or Earlier
"Sue -- your positive attitude will go a lo-o-o-ng way to a successful surgery and good recovery. There might be some blessings to be found in not being able to plan the future. Relax and see what happens. Sending prayers, positive thoughts, and…"
Jul 13
barbee commented on only1sue's blog post In a holding pattern
"Brain surgery has got to be scary. The anticipation even worse. Please keep us informed of the date and the expected recovery time so we can keep you in our thoughts and hearts and prayers until we see you back here again. HUGS."
Jun 25
barbee replied to SFbay's discussion How do we know when we need to see a doctor (psychiatrist)?
"Maybe you do not need to see a psychiatrist, but a different kind of counselor. Maybe a pastor or someone who is experienced in grief work. If there is a hospice at a local hospital, you might be able to hook up with a group there. Some churches…"
May 23

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At 4:12pm on August 12, 2017, Don said…

I am happy that you have found your new parter .  May God Bless you  both.   Don

At 11:31am on July 22, 2016, Skeezix said…


I'm so sorry that I haven't responded to your messages. I just signed on a couple days ago for the first time in almost a year and discovered I actually had messages in my inbox!  I sent you a friend invitation but haven't heard anything back yet.  Don't give up on me yet.  I'm still working on navigating this site.  Skeezix

At 1:17pm on April 19, 2015, Frank said…

Hi Barb, Where did you go?

I went to the chat room and I did not see you in chat nor the list of active members so I guess you logged off.

How's things going?  We are having high winds and snow squalls today, but there are periods of sunshine as well.  The front should have moved further east  in the next couple of days to give us a break in the winter weather.  When that occurs, I'll drive into Denver to get some groceries  and run errands.  

We had 5 inches one day and two days later 7 inches, the next night 2 inches, and last night one inch.  Meanwhile its snug as a bug in the home.  

Hope all is well, and I look forward to your notes and our exchanges.



At 7:36am on March 30, 2015, Frank said…

Hi Barbee,

I'm in the Mountain Time Zone.  Generally speaking, I watch the news/weather till about 2230 and then I get on the radio (I'm a ham radio operator) for another hour or so.  Then I do a final check on my email, and log into WV.  If someone is there, and they want to chat, I'll stick around for another hour or two. 

I look forward to chatting with you and Thank You for your invite.



At 5:50pm on March 21, 2015, thelmaz said…

I'm glad you enjoy the blog.  I've had computer problems lately plus I'm so overwhelmed with downsizing, I can hardly think.  Thelma

At 2:09pm on February 6, 2015, Christopher said…

Thanks, barbee. I only just saw your comment left more than a week ago. I‘ll have to remember to look into my page. I had left tabs open for the groups I’ve joined, but not my own page. Oops!

At 2:25pm on January 27, 2015, flyingsummers said…

I do need a buddy to get around and to helpgetting through the grief.

At 5:38pm on December 17, 2014, JC&DK said…
Would like to try a new group in everett,
Thank you
At 5:29pm on October 8, 2014, david1980 said…
Thank you for responding on the Ebola post. More than that... thank you for being a friend. This past couple weeks I have had more time to read the posts and respond.
At 4:14pm on April 20, 2014, WebLady said…

Hi barbee,

Thank you for your note. Sorry for your loss as well.

Nice to hear you are in the "neighborhood".

I think I am still in shell shock here. My hubby was perfectly healthy one minute and dead the next. I am mostly out of the denial phase but, just so damned sad that at times it is unbearable.

I have not yet come to anything resembling normal and feel most comfortable in isolation.  I have friends and family willing to help but, I find when I am near them I am more distressed.  So meanwhile, I am lurking here on this site and a couple of others. I do find some comfort in reading the posts.  I guess because unless you've been there you can't possibly imagine the likes of this!

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Moving on...

Posted on May 3, 2018 at 2:05pm 6 Comments

It has been over five years since you left. In that time, I bought a house and sold it and moved again. I found a man who cares about me, and after we spent many months traveling across this nation, we decided to commit to a relationship. Most days life is wonderful and safe and comfortable again. There are some days -- and sleepless nights -- that still feel lonely and confusing. Today in my reading I found a sentence that helps me understand  this mish-mash of emotions: "…


Got rid of your bed

Posted on March 21, 2015 at 8:53am 3 Comments

It has been just over two years since you left. When I moved I brought your hospital bed with me. It was to be temporary. I knew I would donate it. It gave me something to sleep in temporarily. But other things needed replacing or fixing and they were more important because, after all, I had a bed to sleep in.

Well...the day arrived and I bought a complete bedroom set and new mattress last week. It is a queen-size. It is like sleeping on a cloud. It is so big I get lost in it. It is…


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