"My sweetie died on June 25, 2012 from hepatocellular cancer. You described the "not breathing" so well. January of 2011 was when it happened to me. Needing the transplant workup and then being told that the biopsy was…"
"ROFL @ Gordy's widow. I hear ya on that. I forgot about homicide. I did come up with all sorts of ideas for payback but didn't do any of them. My ex was a lazy, self-centered, selfish so and so (lot of other…"
"I still have my wedding rings on. I really don't plan on taking them off any time soon. I wore his ring around my neck for a while but about 2 months ago I took it off and placed it in his favorite limoge box ( Jeremy playing…"
"Supernova, you have expressed exactly what is going on with me right now. It seems that as I get nearer to the one year mark, things are really tough at times. One year will be June 25th. I've been crying a lot more lately and…"
"This is weird. I just was writing yesterday how much it suck to come home to an empty house. I work 12 hour shifts and it was so wonderful to come home and he would have supper ready for me and we would have a nice dinner. I would…"
"AMEN. I also deal with discontinuing life support/withdrawal of care regularly. I totally agree with everything you said. Makes me wonder if they were dealing with interns and residents who don't know diddly yet and even less when it…"
"A friend of mine just lost her husband of 27 years 3 days ago. I emailed her and told her about the emotions that she might go through, especially during this time. I told her that she will find that people just don't get…"
"Lost and moosemama, I do the same thing too. For 8 years everyday my sweetie would call me at work. He would ask for"the love of my life and the song of my heart" All my coworkers knew who he was talking about. I still…"
"There are also some blood tests that can be done but like with Liver cancer, they aren't 100% accurate. I say who cares. Screen anyway. I hate that these cancers (pancreatic and liver) are on the rise and there…"
"It's been 6 months and I just now am feeling like having people around me again. All the people that reached out to me early on to "gp out to lunch" are no where to be found now. I've needed my space and they…"
"That is so cruel to hear from these ignorant people. It is hard to withdraw care, even if it was his wishes. I think it is one of the most loving things that we can do for our loved one when there is no hope for a…"
So sorry we have to meet this way, I am Arnie from NJ and offer friendship and a ear when needed. I do not write much but love the chat feature so I hope to see you there. My losses are many in short times, a 19 yr old son, a wife of 21-1/2 yrs, a Dad and BF wife all in span of less than 7 months, new and very deep but I have found an amazing place of comfort and healing, this place has been a big part of it. The rest of my "healing" is for private conversations. Just wanted to say Hi and welcome to the club no one wanted to belong to.
Welcome blueheaven: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".