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onmyown said… Hi,
I sent you a friend request. Judy told me you were on here. Would love to chat. Hope all is well.
Jen
missinghugs (fran) said… 
DrummerGroupie (Chris) said… Hi Diane - Thank you so much for the friend request and for the kinds words. My grand baby is so very beautiful and so much joy to be around. Sometimes the looks that she gets on her face, you'd swear that it's Mark, her Big Daddy !! She is precious.
I am so sorry for your loss, but I am glad that you have found us here at WV. It is a place where you can vent, cry, chat and always be surrounded by people travelling the same journey, just at different intervals. Mark passed away 26 months ago and it still seems like yesterday at times. I have good days and bad days - but I still take it all one baby step at a time. Mark and I never had kids of our own - he has a daughter and a son - and my grand baby is my step daughters' baby, but they are my kids and we are so close. I am so very grateful for that.
My Mom will be 94 on August 1st. She lives in upstate NY and I live in GA. I only wish we lived closer so that I could be her care giver. Nothing would make me happier and I'm so glad that you are able to be with your Mom.
Keep in touch and I'm sending you a hug,
Chris
kimkirt (KK) said… Hello blueskies, thank you for friending me. I hope you find the love and support here that I have experienced to help me with the loss of my husband. ((((((((HUGS)))))))))
Arnie (New Normal) said… Hi blueskies,
I am so sorry for your loss yet I am glad you found us. You will find some great help here on the site and the relationships you will build with all of the great people here. We are all on the other side of life now and only we can really understand how you feel. I am on chat quiet often and it is scary and overwhelming at times in the beginning. I would like to offer a bit of assistance when you are ready use the chat room.
1. I always advise you watch for a bit, the room gets busy sometimes and hard to follow at first.
2. You will see some joking and even laughter, you will also see tears and breakdowns. The people here are here to support and be supported by peers.
3. Looking at the chat you will see that the left window has a sliding bar that tells you who is online (they may be on another part of the site though)
4. If you click on a name in the side bar this should open up a private chat or PC as we call it.
5. I f you receive a PC a red # will show under the main lobby with the name and icon of the person it is from or if you sent it to someone
6. Your first entry:
This is hit or miss, it really depends on when you jump in if lots of folks are chatting you can easily get missed. I recommend just saying Hi I am new and give whatever info you want (hi I am Arnie From NJ and today I am 3 months and 3 days out) this way if others are from NJ they may want to know more.
7. BE READY:
Ok once you do go into the lobby be ready as the questions are needed and they are sometimes gentile, sometimes the questions fly at you. Please take your time here as if this is new for you this may open you up emotionally, and it is normal to feel this and from what i am told a needed part of trying to begin to live again.
8. Most people on the chat are women as of now but the men that are involved are very respectful and sometimes fun.
9. Remember almost no one knew each other until they came here.
10. Good luck and I sent you a friend request, lets face it near or far we need support, and with so many from around the world there is almost always someone on.
ALSO using internet explorer is problematic with chat so Firefox appears to be the best..
I hope this long winded letter helps you in the beginning and again SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS.
Hi Diane! Thank you for the friend request....So nice to meet you but sorry for your loss :( Skydiving was how I met my husband, he taught me how to skydive and I was able to do the memorial jumps in his honor :( You know, when you marry a pilot/ skydiver there is always that thought in the back of my mind of how dangerous their passion is.... but... in my case Adam's demons caught up to him, somehow I knew he'd never die skydiving or flying :( I'm sorry to hear about your husband. What dropzone did he jump at? Thinking of you and prayers your way! (((hugs))) Jess
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Dianne in Nevada said… 
I'm so very sorry for your loss, Diane, but glad you found us. There is caring support and friendship here. Join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. Those 'chirps' you hear when you're in Widowed Village mean people are talking in the Chat Room; stop in some time and join the conversations. I look forward to getting to know you here.
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