"This is beautiful, there are so many to choose from....this is what I decided too, to use them in the future for various occassions. My heart goes out to you and your family. I enjoyed looking at your beautiful pictures of your family, thank…"
"Blueskies.....there aren't many on here who have lost a spouse from burns....in fact, you are the first I've met. I assume your husband died instantly. Scott lived a month in an induced coma....surgery after surgery....to place and replace…"
"Thank you Diane....blueskies comes from my husband being an avid skydiver, he wanted to be cremated and also spread in the blue skies which I did honor his wish but kept some of the ashes, always wonder if he would have wanted this......yeah, I like…"
"Missinghugs I relate to the awful way your husband passed away, my husband a year ago was in a plane crash and burned 60 percent after hitting the ground. I have a picture of the plane in my head and it seems to pop up in my head on…"
"Awesome sunshine, my friend Judy on this site made a blanket from his t-shirts....I packed them in a box too...I am glad I still have them, one day I may do the same...new normal...yeah!!......I will be thinking of you! And hopefully right…"
"Wow Diane, yes how true...do you remember the name of the movie? Need to show this to a friend that just does not get it, maybe they will catch this quote by this man. It is wonderful to have friends that care but it would be great to…"
"Flannery, I know your feeling so well...it has been a year already and my heart is still heavy at times...especially when I hear a small plane fly oer the house which happens quite often....Monte dies in a plane crash......the roller coaster…"
"Destiny, Baby steps....remember baby steps....nothing goes fast...my husband died in a plane crash a year ago and I am still working on legal matters and I lie in the US, I think it may be more difficult overseas but give yourself lots…"
"Hello, It has been a long time....Sunflower caught my eye...you were one of the first to support me here at the village....I still have not slept in our bed and it is 1 year and one month or so since Dec 3, 2011 that Monte is gone...I am in a…"
Blueskies.....there aren't many on here who have lost a spouse from burns....in fact, you are the first I've met. I assume your husband died instantly. Scott lived a month in an induced coma....surgery after surgery....to place and replace cadaver skin. He also lost his leg from a blood cloth...that wasn't even a big decision for us to make. Even though he had less than 5% chance of survival....he fought so hard and lived beyond medical expectations. As long as he made even the slightest progress, the doctors moved forward. His organs started to fail one by one. We were married 33 years. Hope u find strength on this journey.
Hi Diane - Thank you so much for the friend request and for the kinds words. My grand baby is so very beautiful and so much joy to be around. Sometimes the looks that she gets on her face, you'd swear that it's Mark, her Big Daddy !! She is precious.
I am so sorry for your loss, but I am glad that you have found us here at WV. It is a place where you can vent, cry, chat and always be surrounded by people travelling the same journey, just at different intervals. Mark passed away 26 months ago and it still seems like yesterday at times. I have good days and bad days - but I still take it all one baby step at a time. Mark and I never had kids of our own - he has a daughter and a son - and my grand baby is my step daughters' baby, but they are my kids and we are so close. I am so very grateful for that.
My Mom will be 94 on August 1st. She lives in upstate NY and I live in GA. I only wish we lived closer so that I could be her care giver. Nothing would make me happier and I'm so glad that you are able to be with your Mom.
Hello blue skies, I guess I was sort of prepared for the passing away of my mom, although until a year before she did pass away she was doing fine and. Totally independent. In fact she was thre for me tthough out my wife's illness. It seemed after my wife passed away her health took a sharp decline. I dofeelguilty because I have not really grieved over her death.
I am so sorry for your loss yet I am glad you found us. You will find some great help here on the site and the relationships you will build with all of the great people here. We are all on the other side of life now and only we can really understand how you feel. I am on chat quiet often and it is scary and overwhelming at times in the beginning. I would like to offer a bit of assistance when you are ready use the chat room. 1. I always advise you watch for a bit, the room gets busy sometimes and hard to follow at first. 2. You will see some joking and even laughter, you will also see tears and breakdowns. The people here are here to support and be supported by peers. 3. Looking at the chat you will see that the left window has a sliding bar that tells you who is online (they may be on another part of the site though) 4. If you click on a name in the side bar this should open up a private chat or PC as we call it. 5. I f you receive a PC a red # will show under the main lobby with the name and icon of the person it is from or if you sent it to someone 6. Your first entry: This is hit or miss, it really depends on when you jump in if lots of folks are chatting you can easily get missed. I recommend just saying Hi I am new and give whatever info you want (hi I am Arnie From NJ and today I am 3 months and 3 days out) this way if others are from NJ they may want to know more. 7. BE READY: Ok once you do go into the lobby be ready as the questions are needed and they are sometimes gentile, sometimes the questions fly at you. Please take your time here as if this is new for you this may open you up emotionally, and it is normal to feel this and from what i am told a needed part of trying to begin to live again. 8. Most people on the chat are women as of now but the men that are involved are very respectful and sometimes fun. 9. Remember almost no one knew each other until they came here. 10. Good luck and I sent you a friend request, lets face it near or far we need support, and with so many from around the world there is almost always someone on. ALSO using internet explorer is problematic with chat so Firefox appears to be the best..
I hope this long winded letter helps you in the beginning and again SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS.
Hi Diane! Thank you for the friend request....So nice to meet you but sorry for your loss :( Skydiving was how I met my husband, he taught me how to skydive and I was able to do the memorial jumps in his honor :( You know, when you marry a pilot/ skydiver there is always that thought in the back of my mind of how dangerous their passion is.... but... in my case Adam's demons caught up to him, somehow I knew he'd never die skydiving or flying :( I'm sorry to hear about your husband. What dropzone did he jump at? Thinking of you and prayers your way! (((hugs))) Jess
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I'm so very sorry for your loss, Diane, but glad you found us. There is caring support and friendship here. Join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place. Those 'chirps' you hear when you're in Widowed Village mean people are talking in the Chat Room; stop in some time and join the conversations. I look forward to getting to know you here.