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carol
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Sarah left a comment for carol
"Carol i don’t respond often, but feel your pain and loss.  My soulmate passed(still can’t say died) on February 9 2016. I still relive trying to give him CPR, when they let me go back to see him in the hospital when they…"
May 14
carol commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"Roy will be gone for one month on Wednesday. I still can't believe this is real. I feel like he is away on business and will walk through the door at any moment but I know that's not true. I stood by his lifeless body as the priest blessed…"
May 13
carol commented on Soaring Spirits's group Suddenly Widowed
"My partner, Roy, died very suddenly just 2 1/2 weeks ago. I am still shocked and stunned. I was told he had gone to the hospital because he had a stroke. No one told me he had died and instead of walking into a treatment room to see him, I walked…"
May 3
carol replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion APRIL Anniversaries, Birthdays and Other Special Days
"April 5th was Roy's birthday. We had such a wonderful evening celebrating! On April 16th, just 21/2 weeks ago, he died very suddenly. These 2 weeks have seemed like an eternity."
May 3
eliana left a comment for carol
"Welcome to Widville, carol. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here. Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you…"
May 3

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At 4:29am on May 14, 2018, Sarah said…

Carol

i don’t respond often, but feel your pain and loss.  My soulmate passed(still can’t say died) on February 9 2016. I still relive trying to give him CPR, when they let me go back to see him in the hospital when they couldn’t bring him back.  I believe we are in shock and disbelief that this is real.  It has only been a month for you. I have only bits and pieces of things that happened the first year. Don’t remember much and lost 30 pounds.  You cope the best way you can. I can tell you that I am coming slowly out of the darkness, but you need to be kind to yourself and understand that one day you will be OK. Not like before, as you were, but OK.  Approaching birthdays, holidays and any special things will bring you back to a place of sadness, but it gets easier. I talked and continue to speak about Bruce almost everyday and I think of him everyday and often.  I never thought I would survive and I am sure you may feel the same. Talking ALOT about him helped me and I think it was my therapy and continues to be.  I pretended that he was away on business for months and that helped me .  

I knew deep down it wasn’t true but I allowed myself that thought to be ok for that time.  You allow yourself thoughts that get you thru that moment, that hour or that day..sometimes it is how you make it.  I have never been in treatment(nor am I being negative about it), but I lived each day “ONE DAY AT A TIME”, that applies to our life at this time and with the real struggle to survive.  I never thought I would make it.  I am and you will

You are in my thoughts Carol

At 12:17am on May 3, 2018, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, carol. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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