Forgive me if I seem a bit distracted tomorrow. You see it's my anniversary of sorts...the sort other widowed people know and wish they didn't.
You've been on my mind lately and I knew it was approaching...consciously or unconsciously the mind remembers and has ways of reminding me when I need to slow down and allow the memories to wash over me. I stopped fighting the process a long time ago, it only makes it worse for me I found. So I sit quietly, alone, welcoming whatever…Continue
For those who don't know me I am 55 and a 2nd time widow moving through life with 3 kids, 1 son-in-law and various grandpuppies and kittens. I'm also from Australia so you Americans will have to pardon the spelling etc hehehe.
I'm approaching 15 years since my first husband died from brain tumours. And I can honestly say I still wish he were with us then I wouldn't…Continue
Who remembers the Claytons ads? You know, the drink you have when you're not having a drink? Well I've made a Claytons decision about my husbands ashes...the decision you make when you can't make a decision lol. After much toing and froing I finally decided to take Doug's ashes home to his parents for them to decide what to do with them. We were together for just short of 6 years. We experienced a lot in this years, good and bad. In the end he chose to take his own life for many…Continue
Today I looked at the date and was surprised to realise it was May 14. Surprised because I have had such a hectic 14 months since my second husband's death. Surprised because it did not hit like a bolt out of the blue but rather a gentle reminder. And this is perhaps the most amazing thing about this whole grief journey, not the bolts out of the blue, or the 'body blows', but the simple realization that time and life have moved forward and I'm not really sure how I have managed to do it…Continue