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chez2all
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Jan 16, 2017
chez2all replied to stevie60's discussion Some of you may not like this
"Hi Stevie60, 2nd time widow here and for me the idea of going through life alone was too heartbreaking.  I suffered long and hard after my first husband died of cancer at age 39, leaving me with 3 kids to raise on my own.  But eventually I…"
Jan 16, 2017
chez2all replied to Mary H's discussion Dating Again for those Born in the 60s in the group Born in the 60s
"Wading in here...first time widowed at 40 following 16 months of nursing my husband of 20 years with brain tumours.  3 kids to raise on my own scared the willies out of me and the thought I would be alone for the rest of my life scared me even…"
Mar 16, 2016
chez2all replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion MARCH Anniversaries, Birthdays and Other Special Days
"March 14...4 years.  Doing ok now but it's been a big struggle over the past 4 years.  Doug made it difficult to mourn properly as he left a big mess financially as well as lots of unanswered questions when he suicided.  Most of…"
Mar 16, 2016
chez2all commented on only1sue's blog post Limiting time on the pity pot
"I can relate to this...take heart Sue, you are not alone.  One of my closest and oldest friends often comments to me that I am so lucky not to have to be accountable to anyone, spend my own money any way I like and get the house to myself.…"
Mar 13, 2016
only1sue commented on chez2all's blog post Four Years and counting...
"Nothing to say except I hope the days past the anniversary are happier days.  (((hugs)))"
Mar 13, 2016
SweetMelissa2007 commented on chez2all's blog post Four Years and counting...
"(((HUGS)))"
Mar 13, 2016
chez2all posted a blog post

Four Years and counting...

Forgive me if I seem a bit distracted tomorrow.  You see it's my anniversary of sorts...the sort other widowed people know and wish they didn't.  You've been on my mind lately and I knew it was approaching...consciously or unconsciously the mind remembers and has ways of reminding me when I need to slow down and allow the memories to wash over me.  I stopped fighting the process a long time ago, it only makes it worse for me I found.  So I sit quietly, alone, welcoming whatever memories chose…See More
Mar 13, 2016
chez2all commented on smartyaligatorpants's blog post STAGNANT
"That utter and complete hopelessness is so hard to live with...and yet many of us have and are here to tell the tale.  Keep breathing, do the next right thing and one day, who knows, you may find you didn't have to remember to breathe.…"
Mar 13, 2016
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A Conversation Thru Time

For those who don't know me I am 55 and a 2nd time widow moving through life with 3 kids, 1 son-in-law and various grandpuppies and kittens.  I'm also from Australia so you Americans will have to pardon the spelling etc hehehe.I'm approaching 15 years since my first husband died from brain tumours.  And I can honestly say I still wish he were with us then I wouldn't have to explain all the craziness that is my life these days.  His children have grown into twenty-somethings with lives of their…See More
Jan 11, 2016
chez2all replied to only1sue's discussion How many Australians do we have on Widowed Village?
"Hi Sue, great idea...I'm in Newcastle...where are you?"
Feb 13, 2015
chez2all commented on hendrixx2's blog post aLong the Way...
"(((Fredxx))), thank you for sharing more of your journey.  For me I found that trying not to be a slave to 'the dates' hasn't worked. My journey has been easier for me to cope with when I acknowledge the significance of each date…"
Dec 30, 2013
chez2all commented on Lori's blog post Coming home for Christmas
"Lori, hope is everything!  I'm so happy for you that you have been able to find your new life and a way forward in your grief with another widowed person.  "
Dec 30, 2013
aussiewidow commented on chez2all's blog post This felt right
"Well done! You made a great decision. Hope all goes well for you up in Newcastle:)"
Nov 30, 2013
Hope commented on chez2all's blog post This felt right
"Good for you. Sounds like you got it right!"
Aug 10, 2013
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Aug 10, 2013

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Four Years and counting...

Posted on March 13, 2016 at 4:55am 2 Comments

Forgive me if I seem a bit distracted tomorrow.  You see it's my anniversary of sorts...the sort other widowed people know and wish they didn't.  

You've been on my mind lately and I knew it was approaching...consciously or unconsciously the mind remembers and has ways of reminding me when I need to slow down and allow the memories to wash over me.  I stopped fighting the process a long time ago, it only makes it worse for me I found.  So I sit quietly, alone, welcoming whatever…

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A Conversation Thru Time

Posted on January 11, 2016 at 7:13pm 0 Comments

For those who don't know me I am 55 and a 2nd time widow moving through life with 3 kids, 1 son-in-law and various grandpuppies and kittens.  I'm also from Australia so you Americans will have to pardon the spelling etc hehehe.

I'm approaching 15 years since my first husband died from brain tumours.  And I can honestly say I still wish he were with us then I wouldn't…

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This felt right

Posted on August 4, 2013 at 4:30pm 4 Comments

Who remembers the Claytons ads?  You know, the drink you have when you're not having a drink?  Well I've made a Claytons decision about my husbands ashes...the decision you make when you can't make a decision lol.  After much toing and froing I finally decided to take Doug's ashes home to his parents for them to decide what to do with them.  We were together for just short of 6 years.  We experienced a lot in this years, good and bad.  In the end he chose to take his own life for many…

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What's NORMAL anyway?

Posted on May 13, 2013 at 5:37pm 5 Comments

Today I looked at the date and was surprised to realise it was May 14.  Surprised because I have had such a hectic 14 months since my second husband's death.  Surprised because it did not hit like a bolt out of the blue but rather a gentle reminder.  And this is perhaps the most amazing thing about this whole grief journey, not the bolts out of the blue, or the 'body blows', but the simple realization that time and life have moved forward and I'm not really sure how I have managed to do it…

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At 12:40pm on September 10, 2012, Barry said…

Hi, thank you for taking the time to welcome me. For me it's been a long hard day.

Today would have been Risa's birthday. It's the 2nd one without her. Thanks again you did  help cheer me up 

Barry

At 12:47am on August 13, 2012, Roberta said…

Hello chez2all , my name is Roberta I was given your name, they said that you were in Australia like me. My husband died last Oct from Cancer he was 62

At 4:46pm on July 17, 2012, sheri said…
One Breathe and One Step was the only way I was able to cope. My heart goes out to you!
At 11:44am on July 7, 2012, chrism said…

hI Chez,thank you for you kind words and advice,you are inspirational as going through this experience twice must be unbearably tough 

At 7:39pm on May 21, 2012, Dianne in Nevada said…

Happy Birthday, Chez.

Dianne

At 6:08am on May 21, 2012, kimkirt (KK) said…

Happy Birthday, Chez! Hope you have a good day!

At 5:23am on April 25, 2012, Linda 47 said…

Thanks for the friending..May you have a wonderful Blessed day !

At 3:21am on April 25, 2012, Lisa said…

Just wanted to say hello and see how you're doing.  Lisa

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At 11:51am on April 13, 2012, Joyce said…

Welcome Chez2all: I'm sorry for your losses but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".

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