"Ah, Chez. Just beautiful. You have made it and are getting stronger and stronger. I have always seen you as very sane. Just so happy for you that life is getting better. I am a remedial student, too, you know.
((hugs))
Suzer"
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hendrixx2 commented on chez2all's blog post What's NORMAL anyway?
"hi Cheryl,
Thanx for sharing your insights from the experience the journey has almost insisted you have; the time it talkes for us to develop out path is really necessary I think, if we are to maintain any semblance of sanity. We can find that the…"
kshy commented on chez2all's blog post What's NORMAL anyway?
"Thank you for sharing your strength! I try to remind myself that there are people who have had adversity their whole lives, there are people who have suffered much more than I have suffered. Not because it makes me feel better, but because I can see…"
only1sue commented on chez2all's blog post What's NORMAL anyway?
"In some ways I am like you, I want to go backwards sometimes instead of forwards. I want it to be not up to me to do everything. But as you say life goes on anyway and even while avoiding making decisions a new normal will become…"
chez2all commented on chez2all's blog post What's NORMAL anyway?
"I know it says May 13th but it's 14th here in Oz lol
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chez2all commented on hendrixx2's blog post ...and On and On and...
"Smoke theory works for me...all appliances that give up their smoke are simply signalling it's time to be replaced as they are now defunct. So happy to see the writing continues my dear friend...onward and upward"
chez2all commented on Lisa ( Marielee)'s blog post Choosing happiness :)
"Never say never, it will always come back to bite you in the bum lol. Wishing you a lifetime of love and happiness Lisa"
chez2all replied to Jill's discussion How old were you when your spouse died? How does your age affect your self-concept now that you're on your own?
"I have a bit of a different perspective as I'm a 2nd time widow. First time I was widowed at 40 with 3 young kids. I hated the thought of being alone for the rest of my life and being out of sync with ALL my friends. I went…"
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chez2all commented on AlanRRT's blog post One year
"Alan, well done. It's taken a lot to write about that awful night...and yet you have done it. I've just past the 12 month anniversary 14th March so not far ahead of you. I have no doubt you will rebuild your life, and…"
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chez2all commented on diaryofawidower's blog post My 9 year-old writes 'his book', 5 months after his mom dies
"'Out of the mouths of babes'...thank you for sharing. Helping kids through their grief is tough when you are in the middle of yours. You are doing a great job, just thought you should know."
chez2all commented on MyNewLife's blog post Reliving the viewing, the graveside service, and the gathering afterwards, live and in color
"(((hugs Melody))), what's done is done and you can't undo it. But take the lesson learned that sometimes it's ok to say 'no' to things and do what is best for you. When you are feeling stronger you may wish to…"
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What's NORMAL anyway?
Posted on May 13, 2013 at 9:37pm 5 Comments 0 Likes
Today I looked at the date and was surprised to realise it was May 14. Surprised because I have had such a hectic 14 months since my second husband's death. Surprised because it did not hit like a bolt out of the blue but rather a gentle reminder. And this is perhaps the most amazing thing about this whole grief journey, not the bolts out of the blue, or the 'body blows', but the simple realization that time and life have moved forward and I'm not really sure how I have managed to do it…
Continue Thank you
Posted on October 14, 2012 at 4:04am 11 Comments 4 Likes
7 months today you chose to leave me. For the first 2 weeks I was numb, disbelief ruling my waking hours which were many. Coming into week 3 I began to discover things about you I never imagined and my emotions turned ugly (to say the least). Anger at the situation you had left me with, panic at the realization that I had no savings left and no home...along with an inability to cope with a job requiring a huge emotional input.
Finding the only way I could deal with many of the…
Continue Walking on sunshine, and don't it feel good!
Posted on September 10, 2012 at 6:00am 21 Comments 5 Likes
I am approaching 6 months out without that dreaded feeling in the pit of my stomach and no-one is more surprised than me. 6 months is simply the passage of time since my 2nd husband chose to leave this world. I have been to hell and back over his choice and finally have Doug's suicide in a safe place in my mind. He will always be in my heart, as will be my 1st husband who died 12 years ago from cancer. I am…
Continue Sharing the good times
Posted on August 18, 2012 at 9:09pm 10 Comments 3 Likes
It's Sunday morning, the sun is shining, the kids are happy...and all's right with the world.
The last 5 months have been very tough on our whole family, so today I wanted to share with you some of the wonderful things that have happened to us over the last week.
After house hunting FOREVER!!! I found a house to call home on Thursday and my offer was accepted on Friday - so i have my weekends back again...not to mention the hours of trolling the internet organizing viewings. I…
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- At 4:40pm on September 10, 2012,
Barry said… Hi, thank you for taking the time to welcome me. For me it's been a long hard day.
Today would have been Risa's birthday. It's the 2nd one without her. Thanks again you did help cheer me up
Barry
- At 4:47am on August 13, 2012,
Roberta said… Hello chez2all , my name is Roberta I was given your name, they said that you were in Australia like me. My husband died last Oct from Cancer he was 62
- At 8:46pm on July 17, 2012,
sheri said… - One Breathe and One Step was the only way I was able to cope. My heart goes out to you!
- At 3:44pm on July 7, 2012,
chrism said… hI Chez,thank you for you kind words and advice,you are inspirational as going through this experience twice must be unbearably tough
- At 11:39pm on May 21, 2012,
Dianne in Nevada said… 
Happy Birthday, Chez.
Dianne
- At 10:08am on May 21, 2012,
kimkirt (KK) said… Happy Birthday, Chez! Hope you have a good day!
- At 9:23am on April 25, 2012,
Linda 47 said… Thanks for the friending..May you have a wonderful Blessed day !
- At 7:21am on April 25, 2012,
Lisa said… Just wanted to say hello and see how you're doing. Lisa
- At 9:41pm on April 16, 2012,
VOLUNTEERSupa Dupa Fresh said… Welcome to our community.... I hope we can keep you company on your journey ahead. Please look around a bit and read this basic introduction to the site. You can find more information about how the community works under "Help!" in the navigation bar, and we'll send you a few newsletters with tips and ideas in the coming weeks. If you need a little more help, go to the Home page and look in the right hand column to see the link to a "Help Desk" form.
We all use the site differently, but we hope you feel comfortable sharing among us in the coming days, weeks, and months.
Big hug!
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- At 3:51pm on April 13, 2012,
Joyce said… Welcome Chez2all: I'm sorry for your losses but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".
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