"Hello everyone, lots going on out there today. I have also taken off my wedding ring but I have chosen to wear the ring John surprised me with on our 25th wedding anniversary. Things were very complicated for us at the end of Johns…"
"mford4 & mynewlife, thank you for the encouraging words. A friend told me shortly have John died that It will get harder right before the pain lessens. One thing I know for sure, we have no control over things and when your spouse…"
"I am approaching 7 months as a widow. Has anyone had delayed grief? I felt like I was getting through it all so well and then I had a work demotion because my numbers were not where they should be at the end of 2013 (John died…"
"I agree with chrism, people are just trying to help and I feel like they can say anything to me, I appreciate everyone in my life regardless of how clumsy they may be. All loss is different. All loss is difficult, who are we to assume…"
"Josephine, sorry you had to come here but it does help. Tomorrow it will be 2 months since John passed. In some ways it feels like years and it other ways it feels like 2 days. The fog will start to lift. I refer to the…"
"I'm sad today. I agree, its all unbelievable. I am trying to keep all of our holiday traditions the same, thats how the kids want it but talking about it today was just a reminder that nothing will ever be the same. I'm…"
"Good evening everyone. MrsD - so sorry you are going through so much pain when you should be celebrating with your love. Catlady, this is a good place to start. This is a rough journey and the more support you can get the…"
"Welcome to those that are new, sorry you are here because you have lost your love. Wednesday it will be 8 weeks. So hard to believe. Today I took a step forward and went through the pictures and memories that we brought home from…"
"sosadinmichigan it really does suck. Kiki8, cry sister! Its ok to have those feelings. My children are grown but I still dont cry in front of them very much. Not because I dont want to because I just dont but when I get to a…"
"Thank you to all those members sending hugs. It has been 53 days. I had 2 mud runs this weekend. Yesterday was the Dirty Girl run and I had a complete panic attach when we started running. I ran back and could hardly…"
"John has been gone now for 50 days. I am starting to come out of my fog. He is sending me signs and its pretty funny. I was cleaning house the other day and I was listening to Santana Radio on Pandora and out of the blue…"
"I have been reading all the pain you are all going through. I am so sorry. I think because my husband and I had drifted so far apart I had already made a life for myself. It doesnt change the fact I miss him and wish every day he…"
I really don't know what to say cindyb13. I am sorry for your loss. I am sorry for your children's loss. I was married for almost 30 years also. I know you can't just give up on a person who has been such a big part of your life for so very long. The pain you must be going through must be difficult. You did what you could. I think death and guilt go hand and hand. I know when anyone close to me died, I felt guilty,for could of, would of,should of. Someone on this site told me to let go of the guilt and I did, it made me feel so much better. It is so very hard for people who have not lost their significant other to understand what your going through. People here all have lost their love and understand. If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me. I will do my best to help you. I will send you a friend request, if you wish you can accept.
Welcome cindyb13: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join us in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It".