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Will I ever?

Started this discussion. Last reply by Lupe's husband Jun 15, 2014. 7 Replies

It has been a year since I lost my husband. I'm only 26 years old and the thought of ever being able to marry or have kids doesn't seem possible. People keep asking me if I'm seeing anybody or hows…Continue


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gcortez55 commented on cjh0588's blog post Am I wrong to be jaded....?
"I don't think you are jaded for thinking this, i would be equally hurt and feeling cheated out of not being the soul beneficiary for my husband if this happened to me. hugs"
Mar 25, 2015
lonelyinaz commented on cjh0588's blog post Am I wrong to be jaded....?
"This is complicated as we all get that. But, of course; there is always a but, so sad for you i'm sorry what a load of heartache. My hubby's family some wonderful some crappy. If the crappy had the opportunity i would have been screwed…"
Mar 21, 2015
AEDforever (Ali) commented on cjh0588's blog post Am I wrong to be jaded....?
"I am very sorry for your loss. I do understand as my husband died after only two years of marriage. He had no will. I do not think you are wrong to feel hurt by this, as I have experienced something similar. Lairs jay is right. The sad fact is death…"
Mar 20, 2015
Callie2 commented on cjh0588's blog post Am I wrong to be jaded....?
"i am sorry for your tragic loss, how sad. Whether we are married for four days or forty years, losing our love and all things connected, including family has got to be very difficult. Did you mention to your in-laws that your husband had intended to…"
Mar 19, 2015
Talisker (Steve) commented on cjh0588's blog post Am I wrong to be jaded....?
"As Benjamin Franklin once said,"To know the true nature of a person, inherit with them". I am so sorry it has come to that. I know they are grieving the loss of their son, there is no reason not to extend a helping hand to you."
Mar 17, 2015
laurajay commented on cjh0588's blog post Am I wrong to be jaded....?
"Very very sad happenings.  I am sorry you have suffered such loss!  I know one thing that is fact-true fact-  In life you must "put it in writing"  or it does not happen.  I have seen the hurt in families time and…"
Mar 17, 2015
cjh0588 commented on Pinaywidow's blog post No words can explain, the way Im missing you..
"I haven't heard this song but the lyrics are heartfelt."
Mar 17, 2015
Veronica commented on cjh0588's blog post Holidays and heartaches
"I know exactly what you mean about the Christmas cards. I am putting them straight from the mailbox into the recycling bin without opening them. It is just too awful!"
Dec 19, 2014
joe'swife commented on cjh0588's blog post Holidays and heartaches
"My husband and I had been just 3.5 weeks shy of our 7th wedding anniversary when he passed.  Thursday will be 14 weeks since my husband's death.  We didn't have any children, so I am left to care for our two dogs.  I've…"
Dec 15, 2014
laurajay commented on cjh0588's blog post Holidays and heartaches
"Dear cjh0588    As much as you will not like this comment  grief holds  a timetable that you can not make for yourself. You had a brief time together...5 yrs...and that fresh passion for more time with him is normal. …"
Dec 15, 2014
icecream commented on cjh0588's blog post lost....
"I am so sorry for your loss.....of everything. There are no other words. Hugs to you."
Jun 17, 2014
icecream commented on cjh0588's blog post Wedding anniversary
"I functioned on auto-pilot for almost 2 years. Focused on other things, kept busy. Finally realized what I was doing and joined this site, sought counseling for myself and three teen girls, and found a support group to join. Kinda wish I would have…"
Jun 17, 2014
Lupe's husband replied to cjh0588's discussion Will I ever?
"This is something I am struggling with.     I thought that I would wait a year and then be ready to start dating.    It hasn't worked like that.    I was in Las Vegas for work recently and one…"
Jun 15, 2014
booktime (Susan) replied to cjh0588's discussion Will I ever?
"This was a great book! Though Tidd's situation was different from mine, there was so much that resonated with me. And she was uplifting and positive while acknowledging the depth of grief."
Jun 14, 2014
Marivi 90804 replied to cjh0588's discussion Will I ever?
"I have the total opposite. I can't imagine spending the next twenty or thirty years without some kind of love. My husband spoiled me. I was so loved by him. I can't think about having such a terrible void in my life."
Jun 13, 2014
Enzo replied to cjh0588's discussion Will I ever?
"Namaste India Kai I'm glad you shared those words, I needed them right now"
Jun 13, 2014

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Am I wrong to be jaded....?

Posted on March 17, 2015 at 6:29am 6 Comments

I don't know where to begin... I lost my husband almost 2 years ago and I find myself still in shock most days. My husband and I had been together almost 4 years, but married only 5 days yes that's not a typo 5 Days, he collapsed during his nightly run. It was the best and worst week of my life. We have no children, we were just starting our lives.

I can't help but feel like his immediate family didn't really recognize me as his wife because of the short time. But I'm his wife…


Holidays and heartaches

Posted on December 15, 2014 at 9:01am 3 Comments

I'm sure many are with me on that I hate the holidays I find myself being a Grinch. I went to my husbands family Christmas party this past weekend and that was so very hard and overwhelming. Sunday was our 5 year anniversary of being together and I saw his headstone for the first time since it had been place. Nothing has felt so real as to see his name written in stone knowing that it's forever he's not coming back no matter how much I pray, wish upon a star or ask Santa. It's not fair, I…



Posted on May 29, 2014 at 5:54am 4 Comments

I met my late husband 4 years ago, we were inseperable, he was/ is my best friend. He knew every story, every heartbreak, and every scar. I have never felt so lost in my life I feel like since he left this earth I have lost everything. I was unable to afford our home so had to sell it, now live with friends until I can get back on my feet, I failed out of RN school because I was dealing with everything. Most days I don't know why I even get out of bed.

As our anniversary apporachs and…


Wedding anniversary

Posted on May 28, 2014 at 11:01am 5 Comments

I'm very new to this group, as I have tried to avoid the pain and grief, but we all know that you can only hold it in for so long. This sunday would be our one year wedding anniversary, and I'm quite afraid of how to handle it all I can seem to think about is the life we could be having and what will never be. Any pointers on how to cope?

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At 10:38am on May 28, 2014, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, cjh0588. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville.  Take care of yourself.


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