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cloudwatcher's Discussions

Your loss and your health

Started this discussion. Last reply by Nance63 Feb 6. 3 Replies

My condolences to all of you, but as you all know that is a useless statement.  I saw this article and recalled how I had chest pains and all kinds of weird symptoms and thought it may help some of…Continue


Started this discussion. Last reply by Pandarina Aug 14, 2015. 14 Replies

The kind that were hardly ever there except to collect money or gifts.  I don't want to deal with them.  They were never here to help, or just made matters worse when he was alive. I don't want to…Continue

Your own clothes--inspired by personal effects thread

Started this discussion. Last reply by Mary H Jul 11, 2015. 8 Replies

That quote that Doug said about the future that won't be inspires me to say that I can't get rid of some clothes (mainly dresses) I know I will never wear again, and I should give them away, but I…Continue


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cloudwatcher replied to BJ Libra's discussion what's the meaning of life......
"I guess to help one other get through it somehow?  I am a recluse but active on several kinds of forums which are helpful to many people.  Maybe I should be out volunteering or helping others directly through work but don't feel up to…"
Aug 5
cloudwatcher replied to Lindi's discussion Stepson expected more in my husband's will; he is harassing me
"Yes Callie,, and Lindi, it is a tradition (at least in the U.S)- to leave all to spouse; that is how we (and my parents and grandparents) did it.  One stepdaughter was upset, and he didn't want her to have anything anyway, after we gave…"
Jul 29
cloudwatcher commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"MickeysLove,  First of all you are not a horrible person.  I have some things in common with you; and I have talked to friends who assure me I am not a horrible person because I have felt this way too,.  I have given up contact with…"
Jul 18
cloudwatcher replied to Susan's discussion Recipes For One
"Same here, Debbie.  I have been roasting veggies a lot too.  I was never a big veggie eater before, but now I've learned to roast a couple pans of mixed veggies tossed in oil and seasoned with herbs, s and p. Just put the soft and…"
Jun 14
cloudwatcher replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion JUNE Anniversaries, Birthdays and Other Special Days
"Terri, Today is the 3rd death-iversary for me.  I felt worse in the anticipation the past few days than I did today, so far, but I made it past the time when he died by playing a song he liked on my piano.  I believe his spirit exists and…"
Jun 9
cloudwatcher replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"My 90 year-old neighbor just had to put down her 15-year-old dog which she got after her husband died.  She is looking for a new one!  She has a terrible back problem and has CNAs in round the clock, and a dog-walker.  She wants a dog…"
May 18
cloudwatcher commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"I think I need a new hip replacement and can't figure out how that can happen.  Broke hip and femur 2009 when dog pulled me down and have nasty metal on metal. I have a new dog (who has not not his kennel cough shot this year so cannot…"
Apr 4
cloudwatcher commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"Gary's wife, I hope your day has not been too bad.  I used to live in Lawrence while attending KU and loved that Art museum in KS city.  The weather there was so extreme, sometimes scary (tornados)!  And unpredictable.  I…"
Mar 4
cloudwatcher commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"Sorry, Gary's wife.   I don't know where you live but the flowers are way ahead of schedule here in NC too. I've been feeling weird and realized the wedding anniversary is soon.  It will be 3 years since he passed on June 9.…"
Mar 3
cloudwatcher replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"I am sorry for your loss, Joanna.  My husband was 19 years older than I when we fell in love when he was 59. It didn't seem like our ages were a big deal then.  But he aged quickly after he turned 70 or so, died when he was 75, in…"
Feb 14
cloudwatcher replied to WilberMaker's discussion February 14
"This is just my opinion and may not be right for you: Treat yourself somehow and don't rub it in.  You need to heal, not open the wound that hasn't healed.  I will walk my dog, who loves me, and also humps me despite the…"
Feb 13
cloudwatcher commented on Dianne in Nevada's group Widowed in 2014
"It will be 3 years June 9th.  Maybe it's the unusual moon/comet stuff going on but I am unusually grief-stricken now. I don't count the days,etc. as some do.  In some ways I am relieved and my life is easier now. He was an…"
Feb 9
Nance63 replied to cloudwatcher's discussion Your loss and your health
"We did that stress scale in the grief group I attend. I had so many items on that list that my number was close to the highest it could be. So many things had happened in the past year. I already had health problems and I've definitely been on…"
Feb 6
cloudwatcher commented on Soaring Spirits's group More Than One Loss (Multiple Losses)
"I am sorry for your loss and the all the losses.  Wow!  that is so many in one month. You might reach out to your friend and comfort each other now?  It sounds like a very difficult time, and you could talk about it together.…"
Jan 26
cloudwatcher replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Maybe this could help.  The houzz forums are great for so many different interests, and someone just recommended"
Jan 24
cloudwatcher replied to Rich's discussion Telemarketers
"I do the same, but notice they keep calling back until I answer.  I too did the do not call list but it no longer works. Today, Saturday morning, one of those charities called and woke me up.  I had not picked up for them as they called…"
Jan 21

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At 3:21am on June 29, 2016, Faolan said…
Yes, I agree, but for the first 3 days it is a period of adjustment, I believe this is their period of time for deciding which option they want. Also, if they have decided to move on, it is their opportunity to say goodbye to their loved ones.
At 4:26pm on August 6, 2014, BESTBUDS1 [Norman} said…


At 6:44pm on August 5, 2014, Joyce said…

Welcome cloudwatcher: I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you found your way to this site. I hope you will find the same comfort and understanding here at Widowed Village that I have. In the beginning I just read the blogs and posts and lurked in chat. Post and join in chat when you feel comfortable. It is nice to be among people who "Get It"


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