"LOVE the white water rafting, did you do that? wow you are brave, you are so lucky to have kids and grand kids together. All I have is two 80 yr old moms thatmakeme feel like ai am the prize in a tug of war....."
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Gordy's widow left a comment for goingon
"hey you did it right I got your request LOVE the pictures :)"
goingon replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"When my dad passed away, my three brothers came out the next day to be with Mom... and that's a whole long story in and of itself - My oldest brother and his wife went to a hotel and called and told me they would pick up my youngest brother at…"
goingon replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"OMG. I'm so sorry. My mom, lately, has been talking to me about remarrying. But she has Alzheimer's, and I overlook it! But I do tell her I don't want to marry again; Then I tell her it's too hard to…"
goingon replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Dear Gordy's widow...
I want to "invite" you to be a "friend" but I can't figure out how! When I click on "friends - invite", I get directed to page that asks me to contact my…"
goingon replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"gregsgirl -
Good for you for being able to speak up to this insensitive clod! It was so generous to consider his friends and have them keep some items to remember him by. You said you sleep in Greg's tee-shirts. I still wear…"
goingon replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"When did you lose him? Sorry; I don't know ...
I lost Don November 12, 2010."
goingon replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Gordy's Widow -
What a beautiful story and what a wonderful man. My Don was also sensitive and not afraid to show it; he wasn't afraid to cry. I think that helped him to be such a great dad to two daughters. All that…"
goingon replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"There's a reason your friend is retired! And thank goodness he/she is! I'd hate to be the client who went to him/her for help with my grief..."
goingon replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"I, too, am a therapist (not a psychologist, but a Marriage and Family Therapist) and one thing I have learned is that just because someone has that degree or title, they are not necessarily smart or empathic, or all that. Some…"
goingon replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Don was an avid chess player. Yes, chess! He had an amazing library of chess books - among art books, and not to mention our collection of classical music cd's - but he didn't just play chess, he studied the game. On of…"
goingon replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Krista -
Well said! "
goingon replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Gordy's widow. I'm so sorry. We know that any kind of illness is aggravated by stress but especially bowel conditions. We have the same neruo-receptors in our guts that we have in our brains for some emotions, and stress…"
goingon replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"Anger is a natural part of grief, regardless of the cause of death. Don had cancer; he had Crohn's Disease for over 30 years (inflammatory Bowel Disease) and it more often than not leads to some kind of colo-rectal cancer. It wasn't…"
goingon replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"It's good that you can say these things to him and not have a problem. It speaks well not only for the relationship but the kind of man he is."
goingon replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion What is the most insensitive thing someone has said to you about your loss?
"You know, you can always "hide" his posts.... he'll never know."
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- At 12:32pm on May 7, 2013,
Gordy's widow said… LOVE the white water rafting, did you do that? wow you are brave, you are so lucky to have kids and grand kids together. All I have is two 80 yr old moms thatmakeme feel like ai am the prize in a tug of war.....
- At 12:31pm on May 7, 2013, Gordy's widow said…
hey you did it right I got your request LOVE the pictures :)
- At 11:00pm on March 29, 2013,
Patcpoo said… - You are absolutely right...we do GET IT. The outside world doesnt have a clue!!!
- At 5:20pm on August 5, 2012,
Jerry said…
- My wife and I both had some tattoos. I never really entertained the thought of getting her name or portrait while she was alive. Her Dad had her mothers name tattooed on his arm, then got divorced. That may have been the deferent in the back of my mind.we joked about this often. I used to tell my wife I would get some tattoos with our grandchildrens names, since they would always be in my life. I am sure you are happy with your tattoo honering Don, and that is all that matters.
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- At 10:29am on August 5, 2012,
Sunshine0723 said… - Cynthia! I have decided to wait for my daughter to get off work on thurs and take the train down to San Diego. I checked and we can take a taxi to and from the train station it is not far from the hotel. I am getting excited to see everyone next weekend! Deb
- At 7:07pm on July 21, 2012,
crying said… - I so get you being alone with your family. My sister moved my mom into a nursing home and in the same. Building my father is living there on his own. My mom cant walk anymore the problem is it is down by her house and about two hours from where i live. I dont think she did this to hurt me but really now i am all alone or will be for holidays. I hate to drive and work retail so i cant drive four hours back and forth for a dinner. I said sometjing to my dad and he just didnt realize how far and alone i would be... Little to late
- At 7:15am on April 16, 2012,
Denise said… - Happy Birthday!
- At 4:09pm on April 25, 2011,
Boo said… - crh, welcome here. I hope you feel at home here as I do ... it is a safe environment where you will not be judged for whatever you say. Please say if you need any help navigating the site, and don't hesitate to join in on any of the discussions or join any of the groups that you wish to. I'm sorry you have to be here, but I'm glad that you found us. Hugs, Boo x
- At 7:53pm on April 23, 2011,
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