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goingon (Cynthia) replied to Calranthe's discussion I really do not know whether or not its worth carrying on.
"I think you are terribly courageous.  I will hold you in my thoughts.  Sometimes it does feel like the universe is against you; I totally get that.  My husband died from rectal cancer 2010.  He had Crohn's disease…"
Jan 11
goingon (Cynthia) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Long-Term Illness
"Riet - I know exactly what you are saying.  I have a neighbor and friend who complains about her husband all the time.  He's a nice man, but I don't live with him so I can't judge.  But she also realizes that she loves…"
Jun 17, 2018
goingon (Cynthia) replied to Miss Em (Emma)'s discussion Memorial jewellery
"When I stopped wearing my wedding ring, I had mine and his made into a necklace with the rings interlocking, and sort of like and infinity symbol.  I lost it while traveling once and it wasn't until I got home and saw in the mirror it was…"
Jun 3, 2018
goingon (Cynthia) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Long-Term Illness
"I know - we all know - what you are going through.  And I'm a 7 ½ years yet I still hate to grocery shop because we did it together, every Saturday.   And it doesn't matter if it was modern or not; all that matters is you…"
May 21, 2018
goingon (Cynthia) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Long-Term Illness
"Riet - I hear your struggle.  I hear your questions.  One of the hardest things I've had to do is make big decisions by myself when we always made them together.  Yes, now you are stumbling, but one day, the stumbling will turn…"
May 21, 2018
goingon (Cynthia) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Long-Term Illness
"Dear Riet - I too lost my husband to cancer.  He had inflammatory bowel disease for the 31 years we were married, and he was always fighting something in his body - this terrible illness.  He had rectal cancer, and that was what took him…"
May 20, 2018
goingon (Cynthia) replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Stop by this Forum when you need a positive 'pick me up'
"Thank you.  this is beautiful."
Apr 8, 2018
Thankfulheart left a comment for goingon (Cynthia)
"     I understand, its hard to not have your spouse next to you in a time like when your not well. I just recovered from a bad head cold and was  down for a few days.  You have to fen for your self and the days were long.…"
Jan 16, 2018
goingon (Cynthia) replied to Don's discussion With the holidays upon us... in the group Long-Term Illness
"Don -  I wish I had some infinite wisdom on how to answer these comments; maybe you don't answer.  Maybe you just nod and try to smile and walk away.  We know these comments don't help at all, but I think people just…"
Nov 18, 2017
goingon (Cynthia) commented on Soaring Spirits's group Long-Term Illness
"Terry and only1sue... I too am going though health issues and miss my husband being here to help me.  Terry one thing you said - you don't want to ask people to drive you when you need a driver.  I've had that issue; it's…"
Nov 2, 2017

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At 6:21pm on January 16, 2018, Thankfulheart said…

     I understand, its hard to not have your spouse next to you in a time like when your not well. I just recovered from a bad head cold and was  down for a few days.  You have to fen for your self and the days were long. It’s a Lonley journey to walk alone.  Just one day at a time and embrace the memories you once had. Look forward for a new life  with hope  better tomorrow’s. 

At 8:14pm on September 10, 2015, Spunky said…

Cynthia, It surely has taken me a long while to get back to you. Getting settled here in ABQ has been much more demanding of my energy than I expected it to be! We did get settled though (me & my cats, all three of us) and are enjoying activities here. We've had no more responses to the region, though, which saddens me; it is so difficult to meet new people! Anyway, I will be coming through Flagstaff on Oct 5 on my way back to Yuma. I will probably spend the night in a pet-friendly hotel there. Would you be interested in getting together for supper at a restaurant or some such?  Pat  BTW, I like your photos!

At 6:34pm on July 1, 2015, Missing D&Z (Heather) said…
Hi Cynthia. You didn't come on too strong. I moved to Flag knowing no one. My husband was a firefighter and EMT in Charlotte, NC. Everyone knew us. His funeral was a true firefighter funeral. After it all I finally decided I couldn't be there any more. Everyone knew our vehicle, knew me as Derek's wife, said sorry, gave me those looks. I am now teaching at NPA and I love it. I have grown to really like Flag. It would be great to meet up with you and have a friend who "gets" it. It's hard to make friends when you have gone through an experience like ours. Send me a message with your phone number and I can text or call you. I'm headed out of town most of July, but would like to meet up. Are you going to Camp Widow in San Diego? If you are, I will see you there.
At 1:31pm on March 26, 2014, JPSwifeCathy said…

Hi Cynthia--I know it took a long time to come up with an answer but IT'S GOD WHO GIVES ME THE STRENGTH--i feel so weak sometimes--I'm praying for you today!

At 4:45am on November 15, 2013, JPSwifeCathy said…
((((((Cyber HUGS all the way to California)))))). From Alabama
At 4:43am on November 15, 2013, JPSwifeCathy said…
Hi Cynthia,
I just read your note about your 3 year Sadiversary Saturday:(( So sorry Don has been gone 3 years! May God be with you --Cynthia + Don--- everyday!!it's been 18 monthes for me!! I Miss John!!! Cathy
At 9:31am on October 10, 2013, MissingCB said…
Thanks for accepting my friend request. I talked to some women in our singles group who told me David told them I was the one, he was in love & they told him to back off b/c he would scare me off. I am at the hospital freezing, waiting for a steroid injection in my neck & terrified. I am so tired of being alone & afraid. I freak out every time I have something done b/c my husband's surgery was supposed to be routine.
At 12:15pm on September 23, 2013, Germaine said…

Great!  So, my real name is Anne.  I don't know how to do the fake name/real name on this site yet.... I use "Germaine" because long ago, many years before I knew Bernie existed, I was a nun and my name was "Anne Germaine".... Bernie, who was Jewish, LOVED that I had been a nun and carried a small picture of me in full habit which he would like to show to folks we might meet at a convention or workshop... you know, "Would you like to see a picture of my wife?"  ...

Bernie was twenty years my senior so I have always known the odds were that I would outlive him and have another life beyond ours.  He was 89 when he died. I spent most of my sixties taking care of him and it was the hardest work I've ever done in my life.  Ten times harder than therapy for sure.

What kind of therapist where you?  I trained in CA, actually, with Erv and Miriam Polster down in La Jolla.  Bernie and I both trained with them in '80 and '81. A very exciting experience for us both.

What kind of work did Don do?

......when you have time.....I think we have a long time to get to know each other... thanks for being open.  

At 3:00pm on September 9, 2013, Charlie said…
You can contact me directly at [email protected] I would be happy to meet with you.
At 7:46pm on July 15, 2013, JPSwifeCathy said…

Hi Cynthia??

Thank you for for the encouragement!  coming from someone who is widowed gives it validity!  most of the time its said by someone who doesn"t know what else to say!  Like "You Look good"  and you think so I've always "looked BAD before"  LOL  I loved the post "things NOT to say"  & wanted to share!!  It's been 15 monthes now for me & I'll ALWAYS miss the ******####### outa John!  I think my secret for appearing "STRONG" is my FAITH in Jesus Christ!! He gives me peace & the hope of Heaven!        cathy=John Paul's=JP's wife


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