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I myself have been throwing around the same idea. i didn't want to spend the money not knowing if I was really ready or not. I did POF plenty of fish it is free. I wrote that I was a widow wanted to take things slowly…"
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money problems how to handle them?
Started this discussion. Last reply by lizbeth4 Apr 12. 29 Replies 0 Likes
Besides the lost of my husband, I am loosing the house I live in, my vacation home, my medical insurance and his pension. I read all these blogs about people traveling and fixing up their houses. …Continue
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crying replied to Supa Dupa Fresh's discussion For those who have dated... how did you know when you were ready?
crying commented on Supa Dupa Fresh's group Widowed in 2010
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I hate to welcome you ...wish you weren't here with us. However you are. Just no this is safe place to be with a lot of love and support"
Macduff (Hal) left a comment for crying
"Thank you for thinking of me. So much has happened but on the other hand nothing of drastic significance has happened unless you count two affairs that I ended. Both were bad, and I must say, desperate choices, on my part. Both women felt hurt by me…"
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Widville Meet-Up at Camp Widow East at Myrtle Beach Marriott Resort & Spa at Grande Dunes
April 18, 2013 from 4pm to 11pm
Let's gather at the hotel Pool Bar to meet other Widvillers. We'll get started around 4pm, but don't worry if you won't arrive until later. We'll be there for awhile, I'm sure!RSVP if you're coming and about what time you'll be there so we can save the space!Widville Meet-Up Countdown ClockSee More
crying replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Camp Widow East 2013
"I'm confused..what else is new...I would like the list"
lizbeth4 replied to crying's discussion money problems how to handle them?
"I live in Arizona (community property state). I just got another hospital bill for $4085 (what I have to pay after the insurance paid). They even called yesterday. I told them they would have to wait in line until I have some…"
crying replied to crying's discussion money problems how to handle them?
"What state do you live in? I guess that was my good news of the day. I live in nj and thank god didn't have to pay anything with his name on it. I'm so sorry for you. I can't even pay the ones in my name"
crying replied to crying's discussion money problems how to handle them?
"Sorry to be a downer..but three years later..worse off. Thank god I did have some life insurance..but it also went against me. When applying to colleges for my son I had to claim it as an income so nope no free money for him...I am working thank god…"
lizbeth4 replied to crying's discussion money problems how to handle them?
"I am soo sorry that you are going through financial issues and the selling of your home. How devastating and only a few months after the loss of your Husband. I am having financial issues also, but not to the extent that you have…"
Thewidahz replied to crying's discussion money problems how to handle them?
"I've been reading everyone's posts about financial problems. People who have never been through it have NO IDEA what it's like to suffer through a terrible emotional loss and then have to deal with the debts that have accrued as a…"
jenn replied to crying's discussion money problems how to handle them?
"depending on what state you live in you might not be responcible for his bills... send each creditor a photocopy of the deathe certificate with a letter stating that estate has ( whatever the money is ), that burial costs are (whatever that figure…"
crying replied to Dianne in Nevada's discussion Camp Widow East 2013
"Let me tell you my story for anyone who is debating going to camp. My life ended 9/5/2010. My son and I watched my husband have a sudden heart attack and die. He was 47 and our life. Three years later I still cry for this man. He was my princes. I…"
MrsD replied to crying's discussion money problems how to handle them?
"I posted about how my MIL said she would sign over money I believe my husband intended for me:
http://widowedvillage.org/profiles/blogs/so-angry-and-hurt
Those of you with medical bills, have you appealled to the hospital? After my husband died I…"
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Thank you forever
Posted on July 22, 2012 at 9:59am 7 Comments 0 Likes
i keep trying to post my thanks and keep getting cut off.
I want to thank my angel who is making it possiable to go to california. I don't know who it is but who ever you are, you will never know how you might have saved my life. I have been in the holes of darkness for almost two years - can't seem to want to keep going without my love and happiness - never knew one man could be such a part of me. I need him so much. I hope sometime in my life I will be able to thank you in…
Continue Help Me ...thru this one Calling out
Posted on July 9, 2011 at 8:29am 6 Comments 0 Likes
like everyone else on this site, my life ended on 9-5-11. Leaving me lost, heart broken and lonely. My only saving grace was my son. A lot stronger then I am we have been taking day by day steps. Learning to relive our life without a husband and a great father. We went from a great life style to poverty. As we speak I have no idea when I will be given notice to get out of my house. I haven't paid the morgage in 10 months so its coming. Besides all this mess, I am making sure my son…
Continue Isn't holidays supposed to be happy??
Posted on July 2, 2011 at 11:16am 2 Comments 0 Likes
i am new to this and hate that I had to join this group. My world left me 10 months ago at 47 sudden heart attack. How do you deal with these little holidays. These next two weeks were always our vacation weeks and here I sit alone in a house I am loosing to foreclosure. How do you do it? All my friends are off with their husbands and I can't stop crying. I wanted the summer to come but now it just brings back to many memories of how much fun we had. Does the pain ever stop?
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- At 2:18pm on April 16, 2013,
Macduff (Hal) said… Thank you for thinking of me. So much has happened but on the other hand nothing of drastic significance has happened unless you count two affairs that I ended. Both were bad, and I must say, desperate choices, on my part. Both women felt hurt by me but I couldn't lead them on and make them into someone they weren't.
I haven't posted because it just brings back opens old wounds that have finally started to heal. After three years and three months I am slowly settling into the recognition that I will probably live my life without another partner and that I have to make the best of that.
I still struggle with the awful vivid memories etched into me of Betty's end of life suffering, but I know long break down when they comes as they do several times a week. I even managed to handle sitting in bed last night watching the horrible reporting on the marathon bombs without Betty by my side as she should have been sharing out feelings together as we watched the street we'd walked together so many times in Boston turned into a carnage zone.
I though about how we were together when the planes crashed into the Twin Towers and how we cried and went into shock together.
- At 12:39am on April 1, 2013,
missmyhunny said… Crying, Thankyou for friending me. Hugs.
- At 7:06pm on September 12, 2012,
Barry said… Hi , thank you for takeing the time to welcome me, it was a nice afternoon at Arnies.
take care .
- At 9:03am on August 14, 2012,
smit09 said… how was camp widow Lisa?
- At 8:58am on July 23, 2012, smit09 said…
I AM SO PUMPED FOR YOU.
camp widow is a remarkable gift. Go with openness, and you will find love and acceptance and tools for healing. I am thrilled for you. It really helped me. MIND you, there were times that I felt lonely... but it's all part of it. The benefits were remarkable for me. Best of luck, continued healing.
and oh yeah....HAVE SOME FREAKING FUN!!!!!!!!!!! :)
- At 3:32pm on November 24, 2011,
Dianne in Nevada said… 
Hoping this special day that is both your birthday and Thanksgiving brings you a surprise smile or two. Thinking of you, Lisa.
Dianne
- At 8:53am on November 9, 2011,
1mrypp said… Dear crying, i ready your post from yesterday and just wanted to tell you that my heart goes out to you in losing your husband. (I can see you guys had something very special.) That's already way too much to deal with. The other stuff SUCKS!! I'm sending you all the hopes and good wishes possible to find an even better job, and that the next place you live is a place you like and, all in all, an easier situation. I'm so glad your son is there with you in this. I know we are all pulling for you. Hang in there sweetie.
- At 10:33pm on September 5, 2011,
crying said… well today was a year. Just when you think your life couldn't get worse it does. i lost my job today, so now officialy I have no husband, no house (going into foreclosurer), no medical insurance and no job. And all I heard for a year was it is going to get better.
- At 8:54am on September 5, 2011,
Debbie said… - My thoughts and prayers are with you and your son today...hope you are doing as well as can be expected. Hope you find some joy in the happiness and love the two of you shared. ((HUGS))
- At 1:18pm on August 20, 2011,
Ace said… Hi crying,
Hang in there. Let me know if you can meet for a cup of coffee. Perhaps at a dinner somewhere inbetween our homes. August is REALLLLY hard...seems like everyone around is going on "family" vacations and we are left trying to figure out what happened to Our family. Helps to talk to someone that gets it. I really hate weekends - trying to fill up the days that if Duke was alive,we would be spending together more than M-Fri.
ACE
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