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Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely

Started this discussion. Last reply by booktime (Susan) 2 hours ago. 10 Replies

I posted earlier in the "Introduce Yourself" thread. All of these descriptors apply to me now. I never thought I would lose the love of my life. He was always the healthy one worrying about me. He…Continue

 

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booktime (Susan) replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"I thought of you this morning when I was at the summer service at my church (UU). It's a more informal service and the spoken words really resonated with me. Maybe they will help. The idea was a bouncing ball can come down hard on the earth (we…"
2 hours ago
cushty1 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"You're so kind and thoughtful to write this to me, booktime. I have days where I feel so lost and confused. I wonder if I am doing "it" right. My husband did everything so I am having to figure this all out. It is daunting and scary.…"
2 hours ago
booktime (Susan) replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"I don't think there is anything we can really say to take away the barrage of feelings you have right now. This is new for you and so raw. I wish I could say I remember my first few months without Ed but I don't.  I was in a fog and…"
8 hours ago
cushty1 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"I know where you're coming from. I have a very similar situation and experience. I feel the same way. I hope you get some help from this site. I feel sad everyday.I pray someday the intense feeling of pain and loss will subside. This is the…"
Thursday
cushty1 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"i relate so well to everything you write!! I thought we had time in the future to do what we wanted. I have never lived alone or done things for myself either. This is the hardest thing I have ever gone through and I get very scared sometimes. My…"
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cushty1 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Jeanine, I would love to talk to you! I relate too well to what you're saying. All of what you described I feel also. I lost my very best friend to evil Stage IV cancer and I feel so lost sometimes. I wake up feeling physically sick. He…"
Jul 7
Jeanine replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Hi, I lost my husband on February 21, 2017 to Stage 4 lung cancer. I am still having a really hard time. My husband was 61 years and 8 months when he went to heaven. I’m 53. We are 10 years apart. I lost my mother eleven months before I lost…"
Jul 7
KayeL left a comment for cushty1
"Hi Cushty1, I read your post about how you feel about losing the love of you life. I want to reach out and chat with you but I don't feel comfortable writing public messages. I have sent your a friend request. If you want, please accept my…"
Jul 6
cushty1 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Thank you for your kind responses. Everyone seems to say keep positive, take it a day at a time, focus on the good things,take your time,  be kind to yourself and eventually you will make it through. I am sorry you have to suffer also. This…"
Jul 6
Luv4Z replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"This sucks. My husband died from stage 4 melanoma. Not from skin sight. Unknown inside location. Diagnosed Dec past this June. He was39. Love of my life   . Now gone after only 14 year of marriage and 4 young children to raise. None of us ever…"
Jul 6
Callie2 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Cushy, Please accept my condolences on the loss of your husband. Has hospice offered grief support to you? It can be helpful. Please don’t panic. The best strategy is to focus on one day at a time. Perhaps making a list of things that need to…"
Jul 6
cushty1 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"I know what you mean about not being able to predict how this will go. So far it is quite like a roller coaster. Never liked them; they always made me sick. My husband also did a lot for me. He took care of the all the "adult" stuff so I…"
Jul 3
cushty1 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Thanks for you insight. I am experiencing much of what you are. You're right -- people just lose patience and don't want to hear it anymore. It seems just when you need people the most to help you through, they turn away. It is hard to do…"
Jul 3
cushty1 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"Wow! You have had your fill of loss!! I appreciate your input. I do agree that many don't know what to say and are often awkward. They are there at the beginning, but after awhile no one wants to hear it anymore. This doesn't end at their…"
Jul 3
cushty1 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"I get that. I talk to people I know who've gone through this. They all say it is going to take time but you will eventually find your way out of it. Right now I can't see it and it is too painful to express. I am just where you're at.…"
Jul 3

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At 9:14pm on July 6, 2018, KayeL said…

Hi Cushty1, I read your post about how you feel about losing the love of you life. I want to reach out and chat with you but I don't feel comfortable writing public messages. I have sent your a friend request. If you want, please accept my request and I could write you more about my grieving journey. Talk to you soon.

At 7:27pm on July 1, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, cushty1. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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