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Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely

Started this discussion. Last reply by cushty1 Jul 31. 27 Replies

I posted earlier in the "Introduce Yourself" thread. All of these descriptors apply to me now. I never thought I would lose the love of my life. He was always the healthy one worrying about me. He…Continue

 

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cushty1 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Thank you, LP!! Your words are so comforting. I find it so hard just to function day-to-day. I know I am supposed to take care of myself and take my time. It is so stressful, as you said. I, too, look at men my husband's age and think the…"
Jul 31
LP replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"I’m so sorry you have suffered such a catastrophic loss, and it is very early days for you. It’s all very bewildering to know what “to do”,  but sometimes, I think, you just need  to “do” nothing and…"
Jul 31
cushty1 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Hi, Diva70! I hope that you're right; I hope that we do find happiness. Right now I can't see it. I want to be happy again. This is the most horrible experience I have ever gone through. You lost your husband around the same time as I lost…"
Jul 29
DIVA70 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Thank you. I know you were replying to Cushy but your advice is what I needed to help me through this maze of loneliness and pain. It's been exactly three months today since I lost my soulmate of 47 plus years. God be with you."
Jul 29
DIVA70 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"First let me express my sincere condolences on your loss. As I was reading your comments I thought I was reading something I had written myself because your feelings express exactly how I am feeling at this very moment. I so want to say something…"
Jul 29
cushty1 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Thanks, Frank, that gives me some comfort. Right now all I do i cry and reminisce. It reminds me of the 5th Dimension song One Less Bell to Answer.  It seems like all I do is think of the good times and how much I have lost. I constantly think…"
Jul 29
Frank replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Dear Cushty, I'm sorry but, for now, the best advice is to cry, rage, scream, take a hammer and beat on the sidewalk.  The pain is real and at times it will seem as though you cannot breath, like someone had just punched you in the stomach…"
Jul 28
cushty1 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"hi, cinabina! I feel the same as you and I am barely 4 months in. This is the worst life imaginable. I cry everyday and it's hard to get out of bed in the morning. I feel lost, confused, overwhelmed, sad, the lot. I have never felt so…"
Jul 26
cushty1 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Yes, I am a believer and what you say is so comforting!! Everything you describe I feel. This is the most dreadful thing I have experienced. I pray to make it through this intact. As you said, the "new normal" is not a normal I want to…"
Jul 19
MartyG (ver. 2.1) replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Dear Cushty1...I am so, so sorry for your loss!!  I can feel the pain you bear jumping out at me from the narrative you shared because I, too, lost the love of my life after 43 years, 9  months and 12 days of marriage.  Yes, they are…"
Jul 19
cushty1 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Thank you both!! I like the idea of doing something useful and productive.It puts the energy in a positive place and takes you away from yourself for a time. I will try to come up something I could try my hand at. All I do now is walk, read, and…"
Jul 18
WoodTurner replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Something to keep your mind occupied definitely seems to help.  I had started my woodturning hobby just 3 months before Melissa was diagnosed. Now time in the shop helps me through the day.  I have also tried my hand at wood carving.…"
Jul 18
Rainy (Misty) replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Cushy, I just wanted to tell you a little something that actually is helping me.Backstory...I was reading a self-help book about the grief of course (very early on) I came to a chapter that was telling me to get a hobby.  I literally slung…"
Jul 18
cushty1 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Oh, thank you for your kind words. I feel so sad sometimes. I am so lonely and I miss him. Your story gives me hope that I too can make it through. I want to be able find some happiness and peace. The life I lived is gone and I miss it. Your message…"
Jul 16
cushty1 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"I miss him and am sad.I try to keep positive. I appreciate whatever keeps me strong What you wrote helps. Thank you!!"
Jul 16
booktime (Susan) replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"I'm glad it helped. It helped me and it is even helping my sister who just had shoulder surgery. She feels different. The future is yours! hugs."
Jul 16

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At 9:14pm on July 6, 2018, KayeL said…

Hi Cushty1, I read your post about how you feel about losing the love of you life. I want to reach out and chat with you but I don't feel comfortable writing public messages. I have sent your a friend request. If you want, please accept my request and I could write you more about my grieving journey. Talk to you soon.

At 7:27pm on July 1, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, cushty1. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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