I posted earlier in the "Introduce Yourself" thread. All of these descriptors apply to me now. I never thought I would lose the love of my life. He was always the healthy one worrying about me. He…Continue
"Thank you, LP!! Your words are so comforting. I find it so hard just to function day-to-day. I know I am supposed to take care of myself and take my time. It is so stressful, as you said. I, too, look at men my husband's age and think the…"
I hope that you're right; I hope that we do find happiness. Right now I can't see it. I want to be happy again. This is the most horrible experience I have ever gone through. You lost your husband around the same time as I lost…"
"Thank you. I know you were replying to Cushy but your advice is what I needed to help me through this maze of loneliness and pain. It's been exactly three months today since I lost my soulmate of 47 plus years. God be with you."
"First let me express my sincere condolences on your loss. As I was reading your comments I thought I was reading something I had written myself because your feelings express exactly how I am feeling at this very moment. I so want to say something…"
"Thanks, Frank, that gives me some comfort. Right now all I do i cry and reminisce. It reminds me of the 5th Dimension song One Less Bell to Answer. It seems like all I do is think of the good times and how much I have lost. I constantly think…"
I'm sorry but, for now, the best advice is to cry, rage, scream, take a hammer and beat on the sidewalk. The pain is real and at times it will seem as though you cannot breath, like someone had just punched you in the stomach…"
I feel the same as you and I am barely 4 months in. This is the worst life imaginable. I cry everyday and it's hard to get out of bed in the morning. I feel lost, confused, overwhelmed, sad, the lot. I have never felt so…"
"Yes, I am a believer and what you say is so comforting!! Everything you describe I feel. This is the most dreadful thing I have experienced. I pray to make it through this intact. As you said, the "new normal" is not a normal I want to…"
"Dear Cushty1...I am so, so sorry for your loss!! I can feel the pain you bear jumping out at me from the narrative you shared because I, too, lost the love of my life after 43 years, 9 months and 12 days of marriage. Yes, they are…"
"Thank you both!! I like the idea of doing something useful and productive.It puts the energy in a positive place and takes you away from yourself for a time. I will try to come up something I could try my hand at. All I do now is walk, read, and…"
"Something to keep your mind occupied definitely seems to help. I had started my woodturning hobby just 3 months before Melissa was diagnosed. Now time in the shop helps me through the day. I have also tried my hand at wood carving.…"
"Cushy, I just wanted to tell you a little something that actually is helping me.Backstory...I was reading a self-help book about the grief of course (very early on) I came to a chapter that was telling me to get a hobby. I literally slung…"
"Oh, thank you for your kind words. I feel so sad sometimes. I am so lonely and I miss him. Your story gives me hope that I too can make it through. I want to be able find some happiness and peace. The life I lived is gone and I miss it. Your message…"
Hi Cushty1, I read your post about how you feel about losing the love of you life. I want to reach out and chat with you but I don't feel comfortable writing public messages. I have sent your a friend request. If you want, please accept my request and I could write you more about my grieving journey. Talk to you soon.
Welcome to Widville, cushty1. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.
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