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One year later and no one remembers

Started this discussion. Last reply by J in Florida 13 hours ago. 5 Replies

It has officially been one year and one week since my husband's death. I worked that day. At the exact time of his death I said a quiet prayer and thanked him for my happy life. Today is the…Continue

Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely

Started this discussion. Last reply by cushty1 Oct 15, 2018. 34 Replies

I posted earlier in the "Introduce Yourself" thread. All of these descriptors apply to me now. I never thought I would lose the love of my life. He was always the healthy one worrying about me. He…Continue

 

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J in Florida replied to cushty1's discussion One year later and no one remembers
"Rather than do a funeral, we did a "Celebration of Life" for SJ, about 2 months after she passed. About 80 people showed up, including her childhood friends from CT, freinds from when she lived in San Fran, other friends from all around…"
13 hours ago
cushty1 replied to cushty1's discussion One year later and no one remembers
"Thanks, all, for your input. Maybe they don't want to upset me. I guess they don't realize they can't upset any more than I am. You can't get sadder than this. It just think it would be nice if people acknowledged him and what he…"
21 hours ago
Rich replied to cushty1's discussion One year later and no one remembers
"I think people are aware of it but don't say anything because they think it may upset you. I received a few cards at the first anniversary and greatly appreciated it and told them so. However I sent cards (one year mark) to two people that lost…"
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Roxi replied to cushty1's discussion One year later and no one remembers
"Ciao it's a year also for me...and to remember him i send his photo to friends and my brother...we have them in our mind Every minute and talk to them and dream of them..missing them...regret their fate...the others go on with their…"
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PhilEC replied to cushty1's discussion One year later and no one remembers
"It hasn't been but about 6 mo. For me but I know what you mean.  My wife and other ladies made prayer blankets and we always had people at the house, our house was sort of the hub,  I even did the embroidery and transfers but after my…"
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One year later and no one remembers

It has officially been one year and one week since my husband's death. I worked that day. At the exact time of his death I said a quiet prayer and thanked him for my happy life. Today is the anniversary of his funeral. It seems I am the only one who recognizes this and remembers. His family, friends and children haven't commented on social media or reached out to me. I realize it means much more to me since I shared my life with him everyday and was there with him until the end. I understand…See More
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cushty1 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"I ordered this book from the library. Thank you!! I truly appreciate all that you wrote. It is so meaningful for me right now. I pray I can move passed this sense of bleak emptiness. Right now it is a struggle. Bless you,Angel"
Oct 15, 2018
cushty1 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Thanks, everyone, for responding so kindly to me. It has been a hard road and I am still experiencing a great deal of sadness. It is so lonely and difficult. When you lose the love of your life and your best friend it takes getting used to. Your…"
Oct 15, 2018
J in Florida replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"LadyG, I could not have put it better myself, I agree with every word you said. I'm 7 moths in. The first 2 months I was in a fog and running on auto-pilot. Good thing, because as we all know, cleaning up details and legal matters requires a…"
Oct 15, 2018
LadyG replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Dear Cushty (Angel) and LostandSad, We are normal.  It is the most unbearable, excruciating thing that a loving heart can go through.  So terrible in fact that I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.  So terrible that I will…"
Oct 14, 2018
LostandSad replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Hi Cushty,  I read your post and I could have written all of those exact words. We were married almost 30 years and my husband, who was my best friend in the whole world and I were as close as you could possibly get. He took such good care of…"
Oct 14, 2018
cushty1 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Hello Hopesmom, I really appreciate your kind words. It helps me to read them. Sorry about your family difficulties. I hope to find peace and some sense of comfort eventually.It has been been so hard and as you said i take it day-by-day. Bless…"
Oct 10, 2018
Hopesmom replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Cushy, boy can I relate to how you feel. I was in such a fog and I never thought I would stop crying. I did allow myself the space to cry and reflect. I "talk" to Mike alot, I used to write him love notes and I still do. It has been 9…"
Oct 9, 2018
cushty1 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Thank you, LP!! Your words are so comforting. I find it so hard just to function day-to-day. I know I am supposed to take care of myself and take my time. It is so stressful, as you said. I, too, look at men my husband's age and think the…"
Jul 31, 2018
LP replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"I’m so sorry you have suffered such a catastrophic loss, and it is very early days for you. It’s all very bewildering to know what “to do”,  but sometimes, I think, you just need  to “do” nothing and…"
Jul 31, 2018

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At 9:14pm on July 6, 2018, KayeL said…

Hi Cushty1, I read your post about how you feel about losing the love of you life. I want to reach out and chat with you but I don't feel comfortable writing public messages. I have sent your a friend request. If you want, please accept my request and I could write you more about my grieving journey. Talk to you soon.

At 7:27pm on July 1, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, cushty1. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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