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cushty1
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Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely

Started this discussion. Last reply by cushty1 21 hours ago. 20 Replies

I posted earlier in the "Introduce Yourself" thread. All of these descriptors apply to me now. I never thought I would lose the love of my life. He was always the healthy one worrying about me. He…Continue

 

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cushty1 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Yes, I am a believer and what you say is so comforting!! Everything you describe I feel. This is the most dreadful thing I have experienced. I pray to make it through this intact. As you said, the "new normal" is not a normal I want to…"
21 hours ago
MartyG (ver. 2.0) replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Dear Cushty1...I am so, so sorry for your loss!!  I can feel the pain you bear jumping out at me from the narrative you shared because I, too, lost the love of my life after 43 years, 9  months and 12 days of marriage.  Yes, they are…"
yesterday
cushty1 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Thank you both!! I like the idea of doing something useful and productive.It puts the energy in a positive place and takes you away from yourself for a time. I will try to come up something I could try my hand at. All I do now is walk, read, and…"
yesterday
WoodTurner replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Something to keep your mind occupied definitely seems to help.  I had started my woodturning hobby just 3 months before Melissa was diagnosed. Now time in the shop helps me through the day.  I have also tried my hand at wood carving.…"
Wednesday
Rainy (Misty) replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Cushy, I just wanted to tell you a little something that actually is helping me.Backstory...I was reading a self-help book about the grief of course (very early on) I came to a chapter that was telling me to get a hobby.  I literally slung…"
Wednesday
cushty1 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Oh, thank you for your kind words. I feel so sad sometimes. I am so lonely and I miss him. Your story gives me hope that I too can make it through. I want to be able find some happiness and peace. The life I lived is gone and I miss it. Your message…"
Monday
cushty1 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"I miss him and am sad.I try to keep positive. I appreciate whatever keeps me strong What you wrote helps. Thank you!!"
Monday
booktime (Susan) replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"I'm glad it helped. It helped me and it is even helping my sister who just had shoulder surgery. She feels different. The future is yours! hugs."
Monday
Rainy (Misty) replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Cushty, my heart breaks for you.  I'm 7 months out now and I remember so well that overwhelming feeling you described.  It takes a whole lot of patience to deal with grief.  I am so sorry you've had to join us here.Not being…"
Monday
cushty1 replied to only1sue's discussion What are the fundamentals of dating in your 60s and 70s?
"Susan, I relate to what you said! I went from my parents' house to my husband's. I always had someone there to care for be with. We were together 32 years. Having a friend would be nice. I feel the same as you do, exactly. Thanks for…"
Sunday
cushty1 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Wow!! I love what you wrote!! That is so inspirational! I do see the parallels and they resonate completely. That really helps me on this journey. I am that ball now. I feel that. I am trying to figure out my new path, where I am supposed to go. I…"
Sunday
booktime (Susan) replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"I thought of you this morning when I was at the summer service at my church (UU). It's a more informal service and the spoken words really resonated with me. Maybe they will help. The idea was a bouncing ball can come down hard on the earth (we…"
Sunday
cushty1 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"You're so kind and thoughtful to write this to me, booktime. I have days where I feel so lost and confused. I wonder if I am doing "it" right. My husband did everything so I am having to figure this all out. It is daunting and scary.…"
Sunday
booktime (Susan) replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"I don't think there is anything we can really say to take away the barrage of feelings you have right now. This is new for you and so raw. I wish I could say I remember my first few months without Ed but I don't.  I was in a fog and…"
Sunday
cushty1 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"I know where you're coming from. I have a very similar situation and experience. I feel the same way. I hope you get some help from this site. I feel sad everyday.I pray someday the intense feeling of pain and loss will subside. This is the…"
Jul 12
cushty1 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"i relate so well to everything you write!! I thought we had time in the future to do what we wanted. I have never lived alone or done things for myself either. This is the hardest thing I have ever gone through and I get very scared sometimes. My…"
Jul 11

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At 9:14pm on July 6, 2018, KayeL said…

Hi Cushty1, I read your post about how you feel about losing the love of you life. I want to reach out and chat with you but I don't feel comfortable writing public messages. I have sent your a friend request. If you want, please accept my request and I could write you more about my grieving journey. Talk to you soon.

At 7:27pm on July 1, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, cushty1. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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