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Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely

Started this discussion. Last reply by cushty1 Oct 15. 34 Replies

I posted earlier in the "Introduce Yourself" thread. All of these descriptors apply to me now. I never thought I would lose the love of my life. He was always the healthy one worrying about me. He…Continue

 

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cushty1 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"I ordered this book from the library. Thank you!! I truly appreciate all that you wrote. It is so meaningful for me right now. I pray I can move passed this sense of bleak emptiness. Right now it is a struggle. Bless you,Angel"
Oct 15
cushty1 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Thanks, everyone, for responding so kindly to me. It has been a hard road and I am still experiencing a great deal of sadness. It is so lonely and difficult. When you lose the love of your life and your best friend it takes getting used to. Your…"
Oct 15
J in Florida replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"LadyG, I could not have put it better myself, I agree with every word you said. I'm 7 moths in. The first 2 months I was in a fog and running on auto-pilot. Good thing, because as we all know, cleaning up details and legal matters requires a…"
Oct 15
LadyG replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Dear Cushty (Angel) and LostandSad, We are normal.  It is the most unbearable, excruciating thing that a loving heart can go through.  So terrible in fact that I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.  So terrible that I will…"
Oct 14
LostandSad replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Hi Cushty,  I read your post and I could have written all of those exact words. We were married almost 30 years and my husband, who was my best friend in the whole world and I were as close as you could possibly get. He took such good care of…"
Oct 14
cushty1 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Hello Hopesmom, I really appreciate your kind words. It helps me to read them. Sorry about your family difficulties. I hope to find peace and some sense of comfort eventually.It has been been so hard and as you said i take it day-by-day. Bless…"
Oct 10
Hopesmom replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Cushy, boy can I relate to how you feel. I was in such a fog and I never thought I would stop crying. I did allow myself the space to cry and reflect. I "talk" to Mike alot, I used to write him love notes and I still do. It has been 9…"
Oct 9
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cushty1 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Thank you, LP!! Your words are so comforting. I find it so hard just to function day-to-day. I know I am supposed to take care of myself and take my time. It is so stressful, as you said. I, too, look at men my husband's age and think the…"
Jul 31
LP replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"I’m so sorry you have suffered such a catastrophic loss, and it is very early days for you. It’s all very bewildering to know what “to do”,  but sometimes, I think, you just need  to “do” nothing and…"
Jul 31
cushty1 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Hi, Diva70! I hope that you're right; I hope that we do find happiness. Right now I can't see it. I want to be happy again. This is the most horrible experience I have ever gone through. You lost your husband around the same time as I lost…"
Jul 29
DIVA70 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Thank you. I know you were replying to Cushy but your advice is what I needed to help me through this maze of loneliness and pain. It's been exactly three months today since I lost my soulmate of 47 plus years. God be with you."
Jul 29
DIVA70 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"First let me express my sincere condolences on your loss. As I was reading your comments I thought I was reading something I had written myself because your feelings express exactly how I am feeling at this very moment. I so want to say something…"
Jul 29
cushty1 replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Thanks, Frank, that gives me some comfort. Right now all I do i cry and reminisce. It reminds me of the 5th Dimension song One Less Bell to Answer.  It seems like all I do is think of the good times and how much I have lost. I constantly think…"
Jul 29
Frank replied to cushty1's discussion Miserable, gutted, scared, overwhelmed, distraught, lost, confused and mostly lonely
"Dear Cushty, I'm sorry but, for now, the best advice is to cry, rage, scream, take a hammer and beat on the sidewalk.  The pain is real and at times it will seem as though you cannot breath, like someone had just punched you in the stomach…"
Jul 28
cushty1 replied to Soaring Spirits's discussion Introduce yourselves, please!
"hi, cinabina! I feel the same as you and I am barely 4 months in. This is the worst life imaginable. I cry everyday and it's hard to get out of bed in the morning. I feel lost, confused, overwhelmed, sad, the lot. I have never felt so…"
Jul 26

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At 9:14pm on July 6, 2018, KayeL said…

Hi Cushty1, I read your post about how you feel about losing the love of you life. I want to reach out and chat with you but I don't feel comfortable writing public messages. I have sent your a friend request. If you want, please accept my request and I could write you more about my grieving journey. Talk to you soon.

At 7:27pm on July 1, 2018, Dianne in Nevada said…

Welcome to Widville, cushty1. I'm so sorry for your loss, but pleased you found us. You’ll find caring support and friendship here.

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