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danteprayer14
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danteprayer14 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 80s
"Hi everyone.  It's been awhile since I posted and I thought perhaps sharing where I have been and where I'm at now might help someone.   It's also a funny time to do this - as you learn below. It will be 3 years since…"
Oct 12
danteprayer14 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Born in the 80s
"Hey CLR 95,  I just happened to be in my email and saw your message pop up.  It is very hard to be a young widow and I just want to give you a mental hug.  I've never met another 30 something widow face to face. My husband died…"
Mar 20
danteprayer14 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Today is a rough day and I need to talk.  I tried to reach out to a non-widowed friend because I needed support, and unfortunately, she responded, before I could talk, with really positive happy news of her own (she's having a baby). …"
Mar 4, 2017
ImTheMarigold left a comment for danteprayer14
"Hi there. I am so sorry to hear about your loss, and thank you for making me feel welcome. "
Jan 6, 2017
danteprayer14 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"This is just so true:   "no matter how far I have come in being able to take care of the nuts and bolts, its like this new life I've created doesn't have any soul.  And I am missing the joy.""
Sep 13, 2016
danteprayer14 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"I run, bike, play piano, read books, cook new foods, watch Netflix, watch the Olympics, take long baths, go spurge on a yummy coffee drink, play on Pinterest, play with my kitties, talk to friends on the phone, dabble on online dating sites (just…"
Aug 12, 2016
danteprayer14 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Hi Nardly - It's been 8 months since my husband died.   I am still in love with him and figure I always will be.  However, I'm realizing as I go through my journey that this life is awfully lonely and my relationship with…"
Jul 12, 2016
danteprayer14 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Hi Terry - I relate to a lot of things you said.  My husband was 18 years older than me and we did have issues.  Funny how some of them just don't seem to be as big of a deal as they did when he was alive.  I think sometimes that…"
Jul 3, 2016
danteprayer14 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"A trap door.  What a good metaphor.  And I can also relate - I'm fine at home, but something I see in town, a place I walk by, a visit to somewhere we loved, and I also break down.Thank you for sharing that.  SuzyB - all my…"
Jun 15, 2016
danteprayer14 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Thanks, both of you.  I've been able to express my feelings for my sister in law in other ways, for sure, and briefly speak to her sister via text.  But she has a lot going on, and I respect that. It's just such a difficult thing…"
Jun 9, 2016
danteprayer14 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"I need to vent to people that understand.   My husband's sister is in hospice and dying.  Obviously, we all understand the complexity of this situation.  I've been shut out of all communications about the sister…"
Jun 9, 2016
danteprayer14 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Really enjoying reading the positivity. I'm coming up on the big 6 month mark, and maybe it's the warmer weather and the green leaves, but I feel, too, as though I can see a way forward.  Not what I wanted, but it is something I can…"
May 6, 2016
danteprayer14 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Sigh.  Did anyone here find their spouse dead, unexpectedly?  Lately I can't seem to get the image of my husband out of my mind - how I found him.  It seems like it's more vivid than normal and it's driving me…"
Apr 25, 2016
danteprayer14 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"Hey deaf widow -  I think that may be key.  I've been miserable, but I've also had close friends go through their own deaths recently.  It's put things in perspective for me. Helping others makes me feel better. …"
Apr 16, 2016
danteprayer14 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"It's interesting - how we both want to find people who understand what we are going through, while at the same time, want our loss to be unique and have individual meaning. At least, that's where I'm at.   My best friend lost her…"
Apr 10, 2016
danteprayer14 commented on Soaring Spirits's group Widowed in 2015
"It's been 5 months today.  No one's going to remember, are they?  Except me.  The world outside looks nothing like it did in November.  It's like everything moved on - people, nature.  Where did the time…"
Apr 9, 2016

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At 1:57pm on January 6, 2017, ImTheMarigold said…

Hi there. I am so sorry to hear about your loss, and thank you for making me feel welcome. 

At 5:23am on February 11, 2016, Jess said…

Hi danteprayer.  I am sorry for your loss. I am 44 and lost my husband 4 months ago.  I too get the same comments and I too feel like the world is moving around me and I am just invisible and in a fog.  I never thought we humans could feel numb, like really numb.  I had a tooth ache three weeks after he died and when I went to the dentist to get it worked I lied about how much pain the procedure was causing because I actually wanted to feel the torturing pain just so that I could say I was alive. 

I do not believe we could lose a husband and be the same person again.  Coming here to this site gives us all comfort knowing that we are not crazy.  The problems we all face vary from person to person but the common things we feel are those you mentioned.  My advice is that you take it one day at a time, TRY to eat well, hydrate, exercise.  I removed myself from social media, selected the few friends and family to stay close to, and I am being gentle with me.  I have delivered my pain and worries to God, it is a personal choice but it works for me.  I pray that you slowly begin to heal in a direction that will give you hope for your life.  I wake up for today and only today with hope for a better tomorrow.

At 9:33pm on February 10, 2016, eliana said…

Welcome to Widville, danteprayer14. I am truly sorry for your loss, and hope you find caring support and friendship here.

Here's the best place to start: Need help using the site? Ask here!  You can join the Groups that fit you to connect to others with similar experiences. Share your story. Take a look at our Forum discussions where you'll find meaningful conversations taking place.  I look forward to getting to know you here in Widville. Take care of yourself.

 
 
 

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